What if someone controlled your life........?

Mauritius
July 23, 2012 12:15am CST
When we were a kid we were controlled by our parents. When we get married we are controlled by our husband/wife. So do we have a life of our own. We are humans and we have to be free. I am happy that I am not controlled by anyone. I live my life as a free bird. I have two children. I look after them, give them my full care and attention. But since my husband is no more, I am living like a free bird. but I do not indulge or exaggerate. I do what is right and think well before taking any step. What about you? Do you live like a free bird?
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@phoenix35 (386)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
When I was a teenager, I do not like my father, I feel that he was controlling my life. I wanted to rebel and run away but thought better. I told myself to wait for awhile, to finish my studies then I'll go away from him. But, when that time finally came, I realized he was just doing the right thing for me. I am married now with a husband and with demanding children. Although, I feel that circumstances are controlling me - to serve them with everything that I can muster, I have a decision to ignore these. But, as much as I try to resist, I find myself obliging. Yes, I am free as a bird but restricted of my own will. I guess, because of love. Someday I can really free of obligation but I feel that I will not be happy. I guess, as long as I can serve my family, I will be feel controlled but I will love it because I wouldn't want freedom if they are out of my life.
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@nixxx05 (311)
23 Jul 12
I agree with you phoenix, it is for our own good sake.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I guess so, thanks. It is my choice and I love it. Happy Mylotting :)
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@nixxx05 (311)
24 Jul 12
You're welcome! :)All of us deserves to be Happy and Live freely.
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@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I wish I could but unluckily that is not happening today. Yes how nice to be free as a bird. We can all we want but I also like to have somebody who control my life for good to show his love and affection.. I hate to control by anyone I don't love. Have a happy day! :)
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• Philippines
23 Jul 12
I can agree with that. Freedom is nice but I also want someone to control me. In my case, my husband and kids. Sometimes, I feel I do all the work that I think of freeing myself to them. But, I love them and I want to be with them. And having less freedom to do everything I want, is a price. But, I am not complaining right now :)
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@nixxx05 (311)
28 Jul 12
If it is for the sake and condition of your family, of course you will choose what is right and the best for them. Likewise, it's fine with me to have less freedom as lon as for my family. :)
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@Hatley (154637)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 12
hifellow mylotters I think you are misusing the t erm controlled as being a wife and mom does come with responsibility but not controlled like the Stepford wives. I was my husbands equal not his child to be pushed around not controlled. He helped me many times but as an adult and not a child.Why would anyone want to be controlled. you can have a happy marriage and be equal. only children should be controlled.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
No one would love if others take control over his/her life. People should have their own right to make their own decision but it does not mean they can do freely as they like as there is still right and wrong things. Even if we are controlling our own life we should not be totally free with our life. There should be a guideline for it.(^^)
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@Hatley (154637)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 12
hi CtHanum this is what I was trying to say but you did it much better. My husband treated as his equ l not as his possession.Love does not mean you have to be controlled and guided like a child. adults must be free always yet obey the laws of their town and country.you are right we all need guidelines for our lives
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 12
adults must be free always yet obey the laws of their town and country That is what people always misunderstand the word 'freedom'. They just thought that they can do anything they like without any rules. Yes, we can do things we like but we need to control ourselves and know how to differentiate things between right and wrong.
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@jricky1 (6809)
• China
23 Jul 12
Living freely is all that i want.The feeling of being controled is really not good and that's my life,of course i do not want anybody else to interrupt.To be ourself and i think this is really cool.Sometimes just learn to say no to others.
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• Mauritius
23 Jul 12
I think we must have our freedom to some extent. We do not interfere in others life so why should others dictate us. But I do need advice if I am in difficult situation and I don't know what to do.
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@Daisy_22 (1230)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I am sometimes called a rebel in the family.When i'm done my university years i practiced to have my own life.I decide with myself though i ask my opinions with my parent's.You know there are eally times they can't understand my decisions that lead to misunderstandings within the family.I want to live my live being with me not with the decisions of other person even my parents.
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@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
24 Jul 12
I gave uo long ago lol . You are being controlled right now!
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@gadrian (66)
• Romania
23 Jul 12
I saw a movie once, I don't really remember the name, where the main character was an accountant with a boring life. After a while it turns out all his actions in life were actually directed by a well-known writer who liked to "kill" all main characters in the end of her books. He tries to contact her after he finds out and finally they meet. After the initial shock, the writer is in a real dilemma. How to write the end of the book? Hmm, what do you think happened to the accountant?
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@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
never been an issue to me. When i was still living with my parents, i was already a homebuddy. I study, i dont go out much to play with other kids, i dont ask for expensive toys.. In fact my mother would ask me proactively to go out and mingle. When i started living away from them (high school), i still do the same most of the time. My sister would give me money so i can shop or whatever. So i never felt controlled. I do bad things (i admit) now that am independent but i always make sure i can handle it. Parents would start taking control when they know ur in trouble but i never let them know haha..
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@nixxx05 (311)
23 Jul 12
Yes i live freely even i am not single anymore i still do what i want.
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@512771751 (1096)
• China
31 Jul 12
It is lucky to live like a free bird. Sometimes a kid controlled by parents, a man controlled by his wife due to love. But do what we want and like is lucky.
@Hatley (154637)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 12
hi velentina pretty username I am in circumstances where I am restriced in some areas due to my health and living in a retirement center but not controlled. I am free in most respects. I married the man I loved and no he did not control me .what adult woman needs to be controlled by any man, thats stuff and nonsense.he loved me and stuck for me but never controlled me.i have always tried to do right and live by the golden rule do unto others as you would like to be done by.I am a widow now for many years but I never felt controlled by any man not even my husband. thats such an old fashioned idea.