Caregiving Tips

@NailTech (6892)
United States
July 25, 2012 11:00am CST
I'm not a mom but I'm sure there are many on this site alone. And as every mom knows, taking care of others is a full-time job. Do you try to reward yourself with breaks often? After all, if you don't take care of yourself, how can you take care of others? What are some other caregiver tips you can give to someone facing a time of caring for others, no matter if they're a mom, or some other person taking care of someone else?
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7 responses
• India
25 Jul 12
Hi friend, the care takers must care about them to care about others. In my house, my wife is the care taker of my kids, i am taking a lot of care about her. It is really hard to do work round the clock, we must take some break to refresh our self
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@Hatley (152092)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 12
hi vidhyaprakash__2 your wife is a lucky lady with a thoughtful hus band. good f or you. yes we all mus take a break occasionally to be refreshed for the job of caring for our loved ones.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Yes his wife is a lucky lady for him to take care of her as she takes care of their children. It is what a true hubby should do. Raising a child is alot of around the clock work, I have seen it with friends in the past who have had kids.
• United States
25 Jul 12
I am not a mom (yet). But my mother was a stay at home mom growing up, and when extra money was needed she ran a daycare out of the home. So not only was she a caregiver to me and my brother, but also to other people's children. Her reward came once a year when my parents took a week's vacation and my brother and i stayed with my grandparents. Every now and then my parents would take a 3 day weekend and leave me and my brother with other family or friends as well. Though there were many 3 day weekends during the daycare time that my parents would gather up me and my brother and the 4 of us would enjoy a mini family vacation. It's okay to take some time for yourself! It's not selfish at all, to need a day, or even an hour or so, to rest or relax or be away from the responsibility temporarily. If you are a caregiver and you burn out or make yourself sick because you're so busy, then someone else will have to take care of you AND the person you have been caring for. Don't be afraid to take a vacation. :)
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@NailTech (6892)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Wow she was a stay at home mom with a mission. To open a daycare at home is something to help her make money and have some extra for those vacations. She was a very intelligent and strong lady.I'm glad they also thought to take you and your siblings on them for three day weekends that your parents brought you along for as well. It helps to get together with the whole family and just go out and have some fun. I agree about taking some time for yourself, that is true. I took care of my grandmother for 9 years and although she did go into the hospital sporaticly during those times I didn't take vacations, but probably should have to help me get my head together.
@celticeagle (111525)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jul 12
I am a mother, grandmother and greatgrandmother too. I am staying with my daughter and her ODD son helping her to raise him. I had guardianship of her daughter for twelve years from the time she was about three until fifteen. Troubled kids with ODD and bi-polar disorder are no fun to raise. You need to do everything you can to take good care of yourself. Fresh, delicious smoothies. Bubble bathes, candles and insense are all great relaxers. Nutritious foods that give a person alot of energy and a treat now and then are good too.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
26 Jul 12
Thats alot of work to help raise a child of your own child, who had ODD. And the daughter for a quite large number of years with bi-polar. I agree they are harder to raise than a child without that, I have often wondered if a few of my family members have had bi-polar.I like your ideas of how to take care of yourself, the smoothies, bubble baths, and so on. You're in the right direction there.
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@celticeagle (111525)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Jul 12
It is/was alot of work. Have to take care of yourself too.
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
Being a caregiver took courage, patience, loving and considerate and without it then i dont think a caregiver will stay long with their employer unless the problem is their employer alone. I took caregiver course just to make sure that i can be a good mother to my daughter since its the first i will be a mom and im dont normally do some house work as i grow up with maid, when i took caregiver i learned a lot of things its almost the same as those nurses and same thing as what maid nor nanny did doing things from the most cleanest to the most dirtiest. Though i know its considered to be a job and i know its not an easy job so i felt bad to those employer whose not being good nor considerate enough to their caregiver thinking they're paying them without knowing that money is not even enough to pay the time and effort that a caregiver can offer to them.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
26 Jul 12
That is awesome you took a care giver course for your daughter's benefit, I think it should be mandatory for most parents as there are so many parents who aren't good caregiver's and probably shouldn't had had children. If healthcare becomes mandatory then this is a mandatory issue with me.
@cotruelove (1038)
• Denver, Colorado
25 Jul 12
Thanks for the discussion! When I was raising my children, the one thing I became aware of quickly, the job wasn't a 40 hour work week. It was far more than that. I didn't have anyone who took responsibility for my children other than me. Even their father didn't. Under my circumstances, it is hard to find time for yourself. When they were of an age that they took naps (neither of them wanted naps), that time became my break time. Maintaining a schedule was the important thing when they were small. However, when they got to the age of athletics..my life was not my own any more. The saving grace was school time or when they spent time at their friend's home. I don't think any mother could possibly be paid any wage equal to all the jobs she performs. When you take care of others, outside of family members, it is far easier to get time for yourself. There are support groups for caregivers when they are providing for family or anyone and those groups can be invaluable to the sanity of the caregiver.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Thanks for the reply, cotruelove. Yes, it becomes very apparent when you start raising kids that it isn't just a 40 hour week, that is for sure. I'm sorry that their father never too responsibility for them, that must have been tough. Yes I believe when they got older and went to their friend's house or school itself it was very rewarding and it gave you a break to start thinking of you. I agree with the notion that it is easier to find time away if you're not family, that is very true.
@Hatley (152092)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 12
hi nailtech I am an elderly mom with just on child, grown adult now living. but I know that you can get worn out if you do not take some me time for yourself. I often did that when raising two toddlers 11 months apart. My hubby often insisted I stop let him watch the kids and just sit back relax with a cu p of coffee and maybe watch tv. this was when he was not working but too my mom came to visit often and she would spell me too. its nic e when you have loved ones who care about you getting burned out.my advice is if a loved one offers to watch your children for a time, let them and get refreshed. Y ou owe it to your family to take care of you so you can better take care of your family.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Hi Hatley. Nice to know you agree with me about taking a break now and then if possible while care giving, it is tiring and you can burn yourself out on it if not given the chance to relax once in awhile. Your hubby was a great man who insisted you take a break and let him watch the kids. Wether he was working or not, it is still a good thing to do for your spouse. It is really nice to have relatives that care that way as your mom and hubby both did and let you have some "me" time.
@srjac0902 (1170)
• Italy
25 Jul 12
It is beautiful as long as you are human to give care mutually. I have observed most of the the moms do everything and never educate or inspire their children too to have an altruistic thought for mummy. Of course you need some break, some outing and something to enjoy as you prefer so that you will be relaxed and be healthy. It is very important that while rearing the children from their small age one should repeat certain affectionate language and indirectly inspire the child to do some favors for mummy or to yourself too and then thank and praise or reward the child. It is beautiful where there is mutual exchange of love and self giving.