Do not Resuscitate order, is it humane for you?

@grenzy8 (183)
Philippines
July 27, 2012 4:53am CST
I have a friend who is in coma for months now because he met a very horrible car accident. Now that family has decided to sign a no resuscitation order where if he will experience cardiac arrest or respiratory arrest the doctors will no longer provide any relief or deed to save my friends life but leave him until he dies.For me his family should give him a second chance who knows he might just woke up and because the family has decided to end him that way, i just think its inhumane? What do you think?
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6 responses
• Bangladesh
27 Jul 12
If doctor might have identified your friend would never wake up then that sign of no resuscitation order may apply. May be better his family thought they wont let your friend suffer any more this way. I have heard a medical term 'Uthanasia' means if any group of docs identifies any patient wont be able to be treated or cured but the patient physically suffers ceaselessly, they decide to let patient die without any pain by injecting slow poison into the patient's body. I think signing for uthanasia is better than that for no resuscitation order anyway.
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
I guess your friend's family made this decision because maybe they don't have enough money left to keep your friend alive. This is how cruel money can be. You have to have it to keep a life, especially in that situation.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
27 Jul 12
Or because after being in a coma for months, the odds are very great that he will never have a life of quality and that even IF he were to come out of the coma which is unlikely...he'd be a vegetable and most people would not want that or want their families to deal with that?? If he hadn't been in a coma so very long, I'd probably have answered differently but months?? It goes way way beyond the money at that point. The family needs closure and to face reality so they can heal as a family. I'm sure it is a very hard and painful choice for them and possibly not even their choice. It may have been something he put in writing prior to this happening.
• Bangladesh
27 Jul 12
Hi front, yeah its money the core thing of life sometimes compells people behave in such a cruel way. Its heart rending. May God bless the patient.
@grenzy8 (183)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
There are times there are people in coma who still wants to live it just takes time for them to have courage and strength to go back but it just so really bad because of the lack of money this chance will be gone.It's really sad that money plays a lot in life.If you have nothing you can't do anything.
@Shavkat (56417)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
The scenario was a very sad. Do not resuscitate order (DNR) is not applicable to all country. For me, I don't agree with such practice, it is only the creature who can decide when it is the time.
@grenzy8 (183)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
We have the same thoughts I don't agree too in this kind of medical order because I do believe that if its his time, his life have already ended but if the patient is just in coma then there is still a slim chance, and that chance is enough to have hope.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
27 Jul 12
Hi Grenzy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I think maybe it would help you to talk to the family and understand better just why they chose to do this. I'm sure that for them, it was a very difficult and emotional decision and one in which they discussed it not only with each other but the doctors as well. While yes, there is that slight little chance that your friend could make a full recovery after being in a coma for months...the odds are great that even IF he were to come out of the coma, he would not be able to lead a life with any semblence of the quality that he once had. He is being kept alive by machines at this point. I don't think it is inhumane at all. He may have signed a paper ahead of time stating that if he was ever in this sort of situation then that would be what he wanted. That's what I'd want. I would want this. I would not want to live my life out hooked up to machines or being a vegetable. I would want my family to "pull the plug" so to speak. I would not want them to suffer the financial burden of keeping my body alive when odds are, I am long gone. I would not want them to go through the emotional pain indefinitly. After months of waiting, the family is probably emotionally drained and the odds are next to nil that he will ever come out of it and be the person you once loved. Its time to say goodbye and end his suffering as well as all those who love him.
27 Jul 12
As a nurse, I have encountered a lot of situations like this. But almost all of the reasons why some families have came up to a decision like this, is because they no longer want to prolong the suffering of their love ones.
@suzzy3 (8368)
27 Jul 12
How sad is that.I always say if it was me laying there turn it off.If I had no chance of getting better or recovering to live a life worthwhile.Being a burden on loved ones is something that would not suit me.I would hate to think my loved ones could never take a holiday,never have any spare time.Having to lay in a bed useless for the rest of my life no, turn it off.It is not inhumane it is kind.It is not nice and it is heartbreaking.Some things just need to be done.I am very sorry for you losing a friend.If your friend is still thinking ,can you imagine how boring life will be if he is kept alive,just laying there like a cabbage.Take care and my heart goes out to you.