are you too dependent with your love partner?
By missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
Philippines
July 29, 2012 6:13am CST
as to say, before when i do not want to see or to have a phone call to my boyfriend because i were resenting something towards him, but then came this necessity that forced me to communicate with him because i need this and that to be fixed or so. afterwards, i deeply realized that it is bad to be too confident or to rely to your partner as if you cannot do the thing alone. so, what about if both of you will decide to separate ways? you will still call him for a matter? what if he is not available for that call now, what will gonna happened, you going to leave it undone? gosh, how dependent are you to your partner anyway?
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
it is okay, or do i need to explain further more. here it goes; are you being dependent with your partner in terms of everything you are doing, for example, you have an assignment, then you do not feel like doing it, so you call your boyfriend to do it for you.like that thing, okay? tell me if you do not still understand. maybe i will call some companion to explain the thing further. thank you
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@GemmaR (8517)
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29 Jul 12
I do not depend on my partner in the slightest and I will admit that I like it that way. He doesn't have a job at the moment, so I am the one who earns all of the money which means that he can't look after me in the way that a lot of other men like to do for their partners. He also doesn't like to do very much work around the house because he is lazy, so during the time that he doesn't have a job, he actually contributes nothing at all to our relationship, and this means that there is no way that I depend on him at all.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
oh really! out of curiosity, how do you feel about it? on the other hand, you are so tough at that, you do not need other people to keep going in life in terms of financial aspect. for me, i manages to do things as long as i can if there is nothing to turn to to lend a help for me. but when i can see that if my partner can do it, i will have this notion actuations to depend that thing to him intentionally. but there are things i want to do it myself because even he knows it how to do it, i still believe that i can do it much better if i will lend a hand on it personally rather trusting a thing to him for that task.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
I depend on him when it comes to earnings online, he knows better.
But with other things..no, I want to do other things on my own and don't want to feel immobile.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
really, she is so wise at that. it is true jai that there are things we do not know better more than our partner. so in that case, it is nice to rely that thing to her. like me, when i have a project in school, i do not entrust it to anyone. i would like to finish it on my own so that i can supervise it personally. seems that i am a perfectionist by my own basis when we are talking like that. but there are things they can do it better; like carpentering, driving, running errands for me and for my family and so alike. he is good at that. for as long as i am concerned when i do not love my boyfriend i do not have the feeling to be dependent on him. isn't it sweet? aww
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
I think that I am just in the middle. I am dependent with my husband by choice and I wanted him to do the same because I wanted him to feel that I am his closest confidant in this world and vise versa. But in terms of money, I am not really relying on him because I have a job of my own. With regards to being too dependent, I think that no matter how dependent I am to my partner, once we have decided to have separate ways, I won't really bother calling him to lend me a hand. I've been in a relationship for 7 years and I have been dependent to this guy as well as in terms of money. After we broke up, although I had the most difficult times in my life and wanted to ask for help, I never called him and I guess I never will.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
yes, being balance is also good. you can ask a favor if you want to and at the same time, you know how to behold yourself not to plead because you know you can do a thing or so. that is one of the reasons why i am not married yet because i want to have my own earnings for whatever gonna happened in life, with or without him, i can stand all alone in terms of financial aspect. there are things we can do and there are things also that we cannot do. ;)
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
29 Jul 12
i love her totally and what so ever be the important thing i will go for her and make sure she feels comfortable with me and enjoys for sure.since i will keep calling her and make the schedule and commitments prior itself and occupy time and life for her itself
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
ah good for you that you really give the best you have to spare a time for your girlfriend. it is really nice for us girls to be pampered with the one we love. that way we can feel our importance as an essence of a woman. and nice that you know your commitments , it just means you are really true to your girlfriend. i hope guys are all like you. thanks :)
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
29 Jul 12
Hi friend, i am not so dependent with my wife, i have the ability to live alone, but i am not interested in it. I like my wife and kids and always wish to live with them never want to leave them
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
hello there, nice way of thinking. we must know how to stand and do things for us alone because we do not know what will going to happened along the way. maybe if we will use to depend every bit of our activity, when time comes we need to decide for our own, we will be groping what to do for a way to solve it because there was a time in our lives that your partner decide and do it for you. it is nicer when there is someone we can rely on but set a thought that you there are things that you alone can do or as long as you can do it alone without depending on others even is he/she is your partner. :)
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Jul 12
oh yes, right at that. but for me, being a dependent is not a caprice at all, i guess it is just a notion showing you love your partner that much. because if you do not love your partner, you will not entrust something important thing to him. i do not know others but for me, that is the way i show my love to him because if he is not important and that i will not even would look and approach him to do a favour for me. oh nice, it is still good when there are things you can do alone.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
30 Jul 12
Well, in my opinion, we must place the utmost confidence in our partners. Sure, he/she, being a human made ??of flesh and blood, will never be perfect!
If there is no mutual trust, in my opinion, the relationship might be interrupted.
However, having said that we must all try to do our best to be independent.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
he and she have equal rights in terms of everything even we said that there are things that woman cannot do what a man can do or vice versa. trust/ reliance and confidence as what you are saying are virtues needed in a relationship. these would give a smooth-sailing relationship along for if not they will live in misery. thanks for posting here ;)
@GbSb19 (26)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
It is not bad to become dependent and independent on relationship but there should be balance between the two. There are situation that need to be independent for example, you have to study for masteral or higher learning or you have to work to support your family. This situation needs an independent decision.
There are also times that need dependent decision for example, if your planning to get a house, planning for wedding, sometimes two is better than one.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
well said, thank you :)
you are trying to emphasize that there were things in its proper usage and applications for there are decisions that needed two heads and sometimes deciding a thing for yourself for any betterment will be done alone, just let your partner listen and informed. because above all, there are times that you better know what is this decision that must bring good points to yourself and to your partner. i believe that doing things alone is tough and shows braveness and it is like training ground for you that when time comes there is no one you can turn to, still you can do the necessary things to be complied with or without anyone's help. thanks for the ideas! _:)
