My grandson called at 1:00 am saying " Nana I need to talk to you"

@bjc66bjc (6745)
United States
August 7, 2012 6:40pm CST
So of course I was asking when he called, "Why aren't you asleep"?? thats when he said, Nana I can't sleep I am so scaredd...Being the nana I am I was then really concerned,..He did not want to talk over the phone he wanted to talk face to face..Well needless to say I was worried the remainder of the night... So this morning I went to his house and we sat at the table where I said, "ok baby whats going on" when he told me what it was boy was I releived...It wasn't so bad at all...as a matter of fact his nana(me) will fix the issue....He didn't want to talk to his mother about and thats absolutley fine with me.... He will be 13 tomorrow and I don't want his life to have to many complications at such a young age...I will do all I can to protect him and make sure he is alright... Can you tell, I REALLY LOVE MY GRANDSONS,,,
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@kingparker (9698)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I would do the same if I have a grandson of my own, and I would definitely worry if he called me at the middle of the night, and he doesn't want to talk over the phone. But you didn't actually tell us what was the issue. Why your grandson would call you at the middle of the night while he can't sleep. Some issue that bother him?
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Hi kingparker, he called me at that time of morning because he pretty much knows my schedule and he knew most likely I was up/ awake and on the computer...But I am a nervous Nelly sometimes.. So he just needed some assurance that we would talk in the AM and he said afterwards he went on to sleep... No I did not actually say why he wanted to talk intentionally.. because it was a secret just between him and I and thats the way it will remain... It wasn't some issues it was a minor issue, but because he is raise properly, he made an error that was really minor , he knew it was wrong and it worried him if anyone found out...But know one will fine out because we talked about and fixed the issue... I promised him that secret will go with me to the grave...it was just that minor.....
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
8 Aug 12
that's exactly how it is with my grandson. To them it FEELS huge when it really is not. It goes with the age. Thats what grandparents are for. Oh and my daughter know that if there were any real serious issue...we'ed be having a family meeting on it. She knows that so it's cool that he can talk to me.
@SJ112760 (132)
• United States
8 Aug 12
bjc66bjc I know the feeling when it come to your grandkids. I love having a realtionship with all of mind each one of them are special in their own way. They all know that Mema will always have time for them no matter the time of day or night. Thank God for them. the love that I feel when I see them is so special .
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
That's so sweet. I wish I have a good and close relationship with my grandmother, too. I'm sure grannies are a joy to talk to. However, I didn't grow up with such relationship with them, so, now, I am very distant to elderly people. Your grandson is lucky to have another woman, aside from his mom, who loves him so much.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
WOW. jureathome, your reponse brought water to my eyes...I agree grandparents have that special bond and I just love being in the position to give love and receive love.. Being a Grandparent is absolutey a great title/position.... I love it!!!!!
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I want to say that I am so so sorry you did not get the opportunity to experience your grandparents...You would have enjoyed it immensely.....
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
My friends who grew up with a great relationship with their grandparents, became very sweet and caring people. I really wished I had good times with my grandparents. They've all passed away, except for my mother's mother. You deserve to be happy with your grandson and family.
@celticeagle (117141)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Aug 12
Well, you seem to be a very good grandmother. I live with my grandson and his mom. It must make you feel very good that he felt he could come to you with this problem. 13 is a rough age. Not quite a man, not a kid anymore. ALl that confusion. Ugh! Glad I am not there anymore.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
thanks so much my friend...I am blessed...with them as well as I was with my son and daughter,,,
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@celticeagle (117141)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Aug 12
I live among alphas. Ugh! Strong willed all of us.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I have a 13 yr old grandson too. He spends all my days off from work with me during the summer. It's a cool age. We talk about all sorts of things that he can't talk about his parents with. The hard part is balancing what to say and what not to say ...saying the right things. I would never ever go against my daughter's parenting...she and my sil are great parents. It's a balancing act to be sure sometimes. I've taken care of him since he was an infant while his mom worked and so have had a huge influence on his life just as my mother had on his mothers life. she got a great influence from my mother whom I'm nothing like and he got a great influence from me(his mom's mother) whom she is nothing like. We listen to the same type of music and he loves incense and candles, etc. and she hates all that stuff. It's fun. I try to direct him the right way in ways that don't go againsst her ways. I think it's a good blend. We might have different ways but the one thing se do share is the same moral code and I think in the end that is what matters.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
oh yes sid, my daughter is a great mother and I would never go against her ways of teaching her children..Because she was raised properly and I can see the results of raising her boys.. But its that Nana bond that I have with my grandsons and I am very happy about that...I love my grandsons so very much...
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I can so relate to this!
@GardenGerty (96618)
• Marion, Kansas
9 Aug 12
You are really lucky to live close enough to be that involved. I also think it is terrific that he trusts you so much.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
9 Aug 12
thanks Gerty, yes we live within several block of each other.. but in the same village...I see them very often, ThanK God....
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Wow, I think children nowadays really talk about their problems with peers, but seeing that your grandson trusts you with his problems, then I can conclude you're one great grandparent.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
well thank you for that conclusion...I truly want to think I am...they are my world now...mu children are old enough to take care of themselves...and I do still love them, they are mine......lol
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
That's so sweet of you. It is good to have their confidence and to keep the trust among members of the family.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Yes the trust is very important to me..I would never betray that trust....thanks so much....
@Bhebelen14 (5071)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
While reading your post I remembered my late grandmother because she also always there for me when I need someone to talk too. Your so sweet and good grandma. I know your grandson loves you very much and never forget this very touching moments.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Yes they think I am the "Bes-test"...LOL and I am fine with that..lol
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I don't know how you waited so long to talk to him. If we lived near my Mom and my son did that, she would be at my house in the middle of the night!
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
It was quite a night after talking to him,,,however he was ok to fall asleep knowing I was there for him and he did not have to tell his Mom...besides I could not have gone there in the middle of the night without causing suspection.. Its all taken care now....
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
Sounds like you have a special relaitonship with your grandson, it should feel comforting to know that they come to you with these things. Not only are you their nana but it sounds like you're a friend as well which I think is awesome.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Hi J, awesome is a good word, I like that, and thats the way I feel when dealing with my two boys(grandsons) thanks for responding....
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
Its nice that he knows he can go to you with a problem, and have someone to talk too. I know when I was that age I would dream of talking to my grandmother even to this day I would say a peep because I knwo the world will find out in a minute. Same with my Mother, she would have the entire world knowing, or she would sit there and put you down.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
No way would ever say or do anything to put my grandson dowm, that was really unfortunate that you did not have that type of relationship with Mom or your grandmother,, I think its very important to have someone to relate to...Sometimes you can't alway talk to your parents without being chastised...
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
8 Aug 12
your a good grandmother..and your grandson really trust you a lot that is why he talk to you face to face...
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
thanks marketing, and I am very happy he trust me to be able to confide in me...Makes me feel very very happy...I love my grandson....
@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
7 Aug 12
you are a good grandmother.That is nice that your granson can talk to you when he needs someone to talk to. I would do the same for my grandkids.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Aug 12
thanks babystar, yes I was very happy that he even felt he could come to me and trust me...I love that, and I love him...