Should we welcome the blessing when it is brought by shame?
By sender621
@sender621 (14894)
United States
August 8, 2012 6:41pm CST
So often we go through our lives and meet with experiences and circumstances that will be looked up on with shame by others. Yet during this miracle moment we are also touched by an unxpected blessing from that experience. How do you feel that we should accept this new blessing into our lives and our hearts when it was brought to us by shame? Do we accept the blessing at all? What do we do with the shame that is left behind?4 people like this
8 responses
@blummus (451)
• United States
8 Aug 12
If you do something that would be looked down upon by others, I see no reason to not take the good as well as the bad. After all, you might as well accept the benefits you've paid a price for. It might also be reasonable to ask yourself if perhaps the idea of shame is outmoded or merely a way for a group or person to control others. It's hard to answer this question clearly without some idea what happened.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I think that accepting acircumstance can be the hardest to deal with.l We may think that everyone is tring to cpntrol our lives when we should be the ones in control.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Why do we feel shame by the way with such blessings? Because we don't want to be look down to by others? Because society dictates?
When one gets pregnant out of wedlock she feels shame because other people are judging her. But that's only if we allow others to to do that.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Getting pregnant out of wedlock is just an example. And i totally agree with you that there's nothing to be ashamed about. But other people are ashamed of that and refuse to consider the baby as a blessing. They are like that because society says they should be ashamed.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Aug 12
Life means taking the good with the bad.
Things go wrong.
People make mistakes.
It's wise to take what is good and leave the rest behind. Besides, who is qualified to judge what is sinful or shameful or bad? Only someone who is free from such things and no-one is free from such things.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
9 Sep 12
Well in the case of a child possibly being born to someone out of wedlock or a love that blossoms even though others are against it. Then I say those blessings can be wonderful things. A child should receive no less love because it was not born to a mother and father who were wed, or a love cannot be measured by what others think of it. I say take the blessings, love them and enjoy them.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I MUST HAVE MISSED SOMETHING OR FORGOTTEN , WHATEVER. i DON'T KNOW WHAT U ARE TALKING ABOUT.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 12
I would still accept the blessings and be happy with it even though it was brought to us by shame. Of course, I would feel ashamed at first, because others would view it as something shameful. That's human. But when we have time to look it over, we would be glad that it came to us anyhow.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
10 Aug 12
Hi sender: I hope I have understood your question correctly. What I could say is that we should always take the most positive things even from bad experiences or the uncomfortable ones. So my answer would be, if there's a blessing on this shameful experience it's a blessing after all and it could help your life so I would take it in the end.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Aug 12
Hi sender
Though I fail to completely understand what you really want to dicuss here, still I feel nothing is shameful - because if it was shameful you wouldnt have done it at the first place. Now that leaves us with one thing - the others think it was shameful - who and why should I care? I did it because I felt it was okay...
And if any blessings come along the way... great for me.
