Showing kindness because you just want something.

Philippines
August 9, 2012 9:11am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, Its quite disappointing to meet people who are just showing their kindness because they want something from you. As they just want to borrow money, so they are showing the best for you. Then after they have had it, they will return to their usual and normal attitude. I really don't know what to say to them, they are absurd.
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30 responses
@mariaperalta (19229)
• Mexico
9 Aug 12
I have a sister in usa like that. She wont even say hello unless she needs something. She must think Im blind and dont see that. When she calls me on phone I know she wants something. So wrong.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
as you have said, you have a sister like that. well, with me here, mine is my brother. and i really can't take what he is doing to me. i am not asking for him to repay all of the good deeds i have done for him and to his family but, i just wish if he can give me a little respect. that he didn't even respect me at all. before he always show his kindness because he always borrows money from me but now, even a little respect was not being given at all.
@Byamee (84)
• India
9 Aug 12
Its hard to identify such people and they will seem too genuine to be true. A sudden change in attitude should warn you enough to understand their motives. But do help them if you feel like it, not because they asked you too. keep trusting people though as they are gods creation and you might find a genuine gem within the fake ones.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
11 Aug 12
Amazing response! I particularly loved the last line you have written. Great thinking my friend!
@riyauro (6435)
• India
9 Aug 12
I have seen many people like this. They change their colors time to time when they are in need. We must learn to recognize these people and be carful not to lend them anything. good day to you
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
hi riyauro, how i wish i can truly avoid. in order for me to do this, i really need a lot of courage.
@asliah (11153)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
hi, that is true and many of them exist in the world even in our society,and because we have a store at home,there are some people or neighbor who wanted to owe to debt for our items in the store and before that they will show some kindness but when we ask for the payment they will hide and never pay their debt.
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I think you need to keep away from that kind of people, they take advantage from you. If they show kindness to you, show them kindness back but never lend them money. Just talk to them in a proper way as to prevent from fighting each other over money.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
11 Aug 12
I actually tend to be the kind of person that won't really pay attention to the people that aren't always kind to me. I am a person that is kind in general, but I do know that there are plenty of times that people only change their attitude toward you is because of the fact that there is something that they want from you. I will definitely tell you that when someone wants something from you and you deny it, their attitude will change very quickly.
@devi53 (348)
• India
10 Aug 12
Now the whole world is like this
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
10 Aug 12
I simply cut them out, don't let them affect my life. Be strong and they will understand that they should not mess with you. They will thing a lot before asking you for anything.
@jugsjugs (13037)
10 Aug 12
There will always be people like that, these people will never change no matter what.I tend now not to lend money to people as all they do is keep being the same and aty the end of the day, you are not letting them be responsible for looking after their own money.I had a few friends that were like that and in the end I just could not be bothered with them as they were using me for what they could get out of me.
@jricky1 (6810)
• China
10 Aug 12
Sometimes it's pathetic coz they wants to close to us because of their benefits.However,this is hard for us to deal with the situation.Because i know what they want so sometimes i know how to deal with that.This can't not be avoided,learn to accstome to that and be really the "nice" one.
@litvillegas (1282)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Oh that's totally annoying airasheila I guess I can't afford to face these kind of people.. Hopefully they will realize that it's totally bad. They're like leech the sips to our blood and release us until we die..
• India
10 Aug 12
Hello my friend Ji, But everyday is not sunday, one day they will raelise and taht will be dooms day for them. And for you after understanding someone, make it last. May God bless You and have a great time
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Good Day mylotters...yeah you're right Its quite disappointing to meet a people showing only kindness if they had something to get. long time ago i experienced having a friend of mine were in she was soo nice to me,soo caring and loving friend.She always borrowed money but she never pay it until now, but maybe she knnews it that its okay for me,,, but to think or just a common sense 'IF YOU BORROW RETURN IT,PAY IT,
@freqspaz (224)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I try and avoid people like that, but if they do get me into giving them money I literally just suck it up and don't expect it back. It's, on the rare occasions that I do get it back am I surprised and don't know what to say. I've taken to just saying, no I can't. To pretty much anything that anyone asks me. I have been burnt too many times and the last one cost me a really good friend whom now won't talk to me for helping this person. So yeah.
@ARIES1973 (8753)
• Legaspi, Philippines
9 Aug 12
Hi aira! I have a lot of friends who fall into this category. As of now, I don't know how I could handle them. After my previous experiences with similar kind of people, it's really very hard for me to trust anybody.
@kingparker (9700)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I met many people just like that. Quite disappointing isn't it? I understood, and I had experienced too. I guess that is life, people always pretend to be something they are not, to tempt you into their trap. After they got what they want, they show their true color.
@Aggy91 (49)
9 Aug 12
Hi...Such people are just annoying.I think the best thing is to ignore them and not have them as priorities in your life..
@Micmac (4063)
9 Aug 12
I hate these kind of players; they are the kind who like to butter you up for their own selfish purpose. They talk all sweet words and it's all play acting and then they walk on top of ou. Had a friend who wanted to impress his boss so he could have a chance of getting a higher job position, so he treated his boss like a King and attended to him by hand and foot. I wouldn't be surprised if his boss must have smelled that rat a mile away.
@alfkay (12)
9 Aug 12
I find its best to keep it civil, but don't be walked all over For example if the favour they want is no skin off your nose then do it, but when its out your way make them aware that you can't be relied on for things they should be covering themselves
• Bangladesh
9 Aug 12
In all sphere of life we want recognition. I would say we have turned into a social bussinessman. Frow view of extreme philanthropism no one comes to help each other. Everywhere we want benefit and or one kind of hidden recognition. But a help seeking people have the right to get help from others and he must get as a right from others, not as a mercy and he must not ready to give any recognition to other. Usually I see needy people happen to lose their personality after they have had any help from others. The man who helped looks down upon the helped as a mercy seeker. But we should forget the event or the person to who we helped others. Poor people are unfortunate and the difference between a poor and a rich is the poor have not money and the rich have. Just this is this easy figure. Ok? So to bear any mentality of underestimating others is kinda inhumanity.