Art of Letting Go

August 10, 2012 1:39am CST
I'm no longer checking his FB account, unfriended and blocked him, no more connections with his family and I'm now thinking of changing my number. I think this is it. I just really wish that I will never ever see him with his new girlfriend again. That we will never ever have a chance to see each other around. I don't want to see him ever again, because I know by then that I still love him.
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@rsa101 (13344)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Well good that you removed all the things that could still link the two of you together. I think that way moving on would be easier to accept and things would be for the better of one another. But I guess the better challenge for you is meeting him accidentally again. I think that is the real test if you have moved on once and for all. I think if there is still a pinch of a pain when you meet him then I guess that is a sign you have not totally moved on already. But if by any chance you meet and the feeling of pain is gone then you can confirm that you really have move on already since the feeling is gone already. But of course it should take time so for now, I guess avoiding him is the best thing to totally forget him.
10 Aug 12
You're right, that could be really challenging. I just really really hope that we won't be meeting by any chance or circumstances. I know that if that happens, I'll be disturbed by the thoughts of him again. :-(
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@rsa101 (13344)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Yeah I guess if the separation is just very recent then I guess it is better to avoid all kinds of contact and chance meeting since it could make the wound open up and healing and moving on would not be reached. I just hope for your recovery from all of this since I know how hard it may be for you to handle it.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Aaww, that’s sad. But I am glad that you are making ways to totally move on with your life. When I had a break up with my boyfriend in the past, I try to do what you’re doing now too. I tried everything to get rid of him, and to remember him no more. Changing numbers, but just for a while, 2 months to four, I get back to my old number. Like you, I don’t want to see him, I don’t want to talk with him, I want to forget his existence, but when I know that I have moved over him, that’s the time that I become a friend to him again. It is true that someday, you will just remember the past with a smile. You’ll just laugh over the things that made you cry before, and you’ll realize how crazy you are to do those stupid things for him. I wish you good my dear, I hope one day, you’ll remember all these pains with nothing but happiness in your heart and smile on your office. I salute you for being brave enough to start the difference.
10 Aug 12
Thank you! I really hope that one day I'll be able to look back on this part of my life with happiness. I really hope so.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Someday, you will learn to forget about him. Maybe, there is a special place in your heart for him and he will stay there forever. Breaking up withsomeone you really love is one of the toughest things to do. If we are the only ones to decide, we'll not end our relationship. However, he or she fell out of love, with us. We can't keep them for long. They have their own feelings. We should be glad because once in our lives, they became ours. We should thank them that at least, maybe, they molded us to become a better person and for letting us to experience love. To love and to be loved. Happy myLotting!
10 Aug 12
Very well said. You are really right about that. That is also what I kept on reminding my self. True, they will always have that special part in our heart forever. Bittersweet reality.
@riyauro (6433)
• India
10 Aug 12
Well love is such, there is pain. I think to did better by not keeping in touch with his family and him. Because he has a girlfriend now and you have to let go of him. I know it is not easy and I see that you are trying your best. hats off to you. good day
10 Aug 12
Thank you! It's really time to let him go. :-(
• United States
10 Aug 12
That is love for you feels good one minute and hurts like hell the next. I am thinking changing the number is not needed unless he still calls you. I was going to change mine once as well. What I did was not answer his calls and soon he got the message and stopped calling me. I have yet to see him with a woman.
10 Aug 12
He calls at least once a month. I don't know if I could just ignore his calls if ever.
@chiyosan (29394)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
i am sad to hear about this, but then happy at the same time you are doing something about it so you could let go and move on from the experience. sometimes we just have to know what we need to do and take actions. if you change your number you sure will be a step ahead as you will no longer be able to contact the person. Your statement, wish never to see him again, is part of it too but with it you are trying to say you just might realize you love him again... it is like that for me too with my ex but then when i did see him there is only part of him that loves him and the reality was time away from the person makes me feel that i am no longer loving him as much. maybe you would realize that too in your case...
@asdomencil (4276)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
That is a good way of moving on and forgetting him. My subordinate has the same issue that really hurts him that he cannot hold his tears when I aksed him what really happened. I just told him to forget her and try to avoid the things that will make him remember his ex. He confined it to me a couple of days ago, now he seems to start moving on but he admits he still feel some pain but starting to move on.
@MsTickle (24726)
• Australia
15 Aug 12
The reality here is that he has moved on so it's obvious that he is not "the one". Holding on to the love you had for him that wasn't shared is such a waste of time because your true love is still out there and you need to go find him. Go out with your friends, have fun, make new friends. Honestly, life is too short to choose the pain.
@clocks123 (1230)
• United States
11 Aug 12
you took the right step in your letting go of your relationship. you may still see him, however, it may not be preventable. yes, it feels funny and awkward to see him again but your feelings for him are not the same. you will still go on with your life with someone who really loves you and you truly love them. Letting go if for your good and his. the best to you.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Letting go is a very hard phase especially if you still love the person. But first you must love yourself first before others. And since he has a new girlfriend, then that means that he no longer loves you. So he is not worth loving either. Try to focus on other things and mingle with your friends. It seems to me that when you are still in a relationship with him, your world revolves in him. Now is the time that you change your priority and the first move is to love yourself. Have more time with your family and friends.
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 12
Well, I did what you did once. It helps a little for the pain... but sometimes, because we love them too much, their face just come haunting us. That's what happened to me. So, to prevent that to happen, I always make myself busy. So busy that I don't have time to think about him.
@hinitin5 (12)
10 Aug 12
Love is sacrifice, forgive him and you can feel the peace in your mind. If he was yours, he'll come back, if not he was never yours. And if it still bothers you, yes you might just avoid him and change your phone number and you'll feel normal after a duration of time. Note: The duration of time varies from person to person to overcome the old memories.
10 Aug 12
the art of letting go, you have to master it to be strong and face your new life without him. It seems hard to accept at first but as time goes on you'll get used to it and the wounds or whatever you feel will be lost gradually if the communication has been lost. I really think that' the right thing to do if you are serious to let him go.
@Raine38 (8655)
• United States
10 Aug 12
First of all, good job on the first step. I can just imagine how hard it is for you. But you did it, and that's a good thing. Second of all, do not change your number just for him, because that would only mean like you're still willing to change your life just for him. I consider numbers as very important and personal, and you might miss on a few people if your changed your number. I don't think it's worth it. You can always choose to ignore his calls or text messages. That's another step for you on your moving on process, be able to keep up with your resolve even if the opportunity to keep in touch with him presents itself.
@toniganzon (31818)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
I admire you for having the courage to block him and delete everything that has to do with him. I just hope you maintain that and be strong in not making any contact with him. It's easier to let go of someone when we stop everything that is connected with them. I hope you won't see him again until you are fully over him. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Love and Pain are always together. I know it really hurts to end a relationship with a guy that you really love. So it is really hard to let go and move on..But, if you won't let go and move on then you will be stuck in one place, unable to move..and you will suffer alone. However, when you start to ACCEPT the reality that you two are not together anymore and that he already has a girlfriend... that's the time that you are already at the first step of letting go and moving on. And eventually, the following steps will take place. I can just advice you to accept everything, even though it is painful. Also, this is the time to LOVE YOURSELF more. :)