Who should understands more?

It appears that you are equalising 'understanding' with 'adjustment'. I think understanding and adjustment should be from both the sides. It is difficult to quantify who would do more or who is more understanding. Each of the partner thinks in his/her heart that s/he is making more adjustments than the other.

I am very lucky! My guy and I give equally. he understands me. I understand him. I think that women learn early on that some men won't verbally say what is wrong so women look for signs. They learn to read their partners. and by doing this they understand more.

both should understand each other^^ its not fair that one tries to understand all the time. both should make an effort for things to go well. if there is one that fix things all the time he will start to be sad with it. i say that cause everytime i liked a guy i did almost everything. and i was always sad bcs i felt i was the only one caring. so if you love someone always show it and try to make things right^^ it will be worth it.

Well, in the country that I live in. I noticed it is exactly the opposite. More men who gave in and understand and accept what the female have to say. This is pretty true as people around me do that. This in turn affected how females behave in a relationship which they would just express what they want instead of understanding their boyfriend and man. This is unhealthy in a relationship if you ask me.

as for me, the one who is more mature would likely to understand more since you can handle things in a more mature way.

In my relationship I am the more understanding (the women). He only sees thing in one perspective, his and only his. He thinks he is right about everything and even when he knows he's wrong he will not admit it. There is always a better way of doing things, his way. After 6 years I've learned it is just easier to agree with him and let him have his way because 9 times out of 10 it blows up in his face anyway. Thats even better than saying "I told you so". Huh misunderstanding, there are none of them it just he is always right.

Family problems are solve by both partners squarely or it is sometimes solve my just the man because he was the head of the family.I do not think so that most women are good thinkers in matters of family problems because it is the male gender that decides most so his approval is a must.

I believe both should always extend their understanding. If you can widen your understanding, do so. It doesn't matter if you are the guy or the girl in the relationship. If at that given situation, you have the capacity to understand the other one, then do so, it won't make you any less of a human, and for guys, it won't make you less of a man. I read this somewhere in a marriage do's and don'ts list-- when the other one is angry, don't fight it with anger. I think that principle really works. I mean, there are times that the guy gets in a very bad mood, and even you are so pissed because you didn't do anything, since you are in your right mind and has more control of your emotions, then you have the more responsibility to understand the other one. Also, when a girl become too emotional for something that the guy has nothing to do with, the guy must not get mad to the girl for being too emotional, but instead comfort her and hug her, and make her feel better. It's always a give and take in a relationship, and that goes as well in the understanding part and the patience.

Hi, It is very true that understanding is one of the key factors that secures a relationship. I think in every relationship there are some misunderstandings occasionally but if both are in love, they try to sort out these and continue happily. I have been in a relationship for the last 7 years and we have had our series of ups and downs. I would say that we both have tried to resolve any problems at different points. Sometimes he has been more understanding; sometimes me. Our goal is to keep our relation strong and smooth sailing and I think for this the contribution of both partners is necessary. In case of a friend of mine, I have seen it is always she who understands more and compromises rather than her boyfriend so when you say that women seem to have a better understanding, it is applicable to her. But for me, it is not fixed. It can be him or me who resolves any problems that arise. Have a nice day ahead.

that really depends on the grounds of the topic the couple are in. like in an argument, both should share their point of views regarding the situation and must be able to reach a win-win solution where both will find happiness and satisfaction. in my case, it is usually i who understands more. but if i see that it is already unfair then i speak out.

It should be both. But in my own personal experience, during the times of misunderstandings I am the one who makes adjustment. In my 3 years in marriage, I observe that my husband is not that good when it comes to analytical skills...:) He is not open minded and his ego always comes first. It really depends on the attitude and character of the spouses.

I think in a relationship both parties need to understand each other and have a long patient in order to maintain a good relationship. Better to give in take in terms of understanding in relationship so that you can able express the feelings easily. But I admit in my relationship with my husband for 7 years he is more understanding and have a patient to me maybe because of age gap and way of thinking.

In a relationship it is obvious that fights and misunderstandings happen. But then one must know how to handle it. staying with each other for a certain time, makes you realize and see things about a person. I have a thing in our relationship that my husband shout I keep shut and when I shout and am angry he will shut up. If there is force from both end then it is sad case. I think both partners should understand each other well. good day to you.