Good lies, bad lies
By didi13
@didi13 (2926)
Romania
August 14, 2012 7:31am CST
There lies good, helpful, friendly and bad lies, reprehensible, hostile? We share the untruths in two categories, one of which is acceptable?
Of all human weaknesses, the best me I get upset, hurt, humiliate me lie. I think the worst form of insult to the resort, naively and arrogantly they all still imagine that your interlocutor can lie without realizing it's so. But I heard very often necessary pleadings to defend lies. Those who shun their loved ones suffering, worry, fear. Those who pretend to be friendly pleasantries ...
Because, during my life I suffered from their untruths or others, are tempted to not give justice to those who promote the lie that charm. I can not believe those who support it rather corrupt practice sports in their lives and conversations, but I know it's very possible I am wrong. There are situations where it is easier, better or more inspired to miss the truth - by omission or trick, which is all a lie, of course ...
You lived such situations, it was better not to tell the truth? Is there any history that I could soften firmness, which I put in combat lies? There are events that can be placed, voluntarily, under the umbrella of " lie me beautiful"?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
I don't want to be lied to. I don't want to live in a lie.
Sometimes there are people who can't just live on truth and continue to lie as they see it as the best option. Sad but true.
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
It's hard to be outspoken in terms of lying ....
Nobody goes through life without committing this sin, but there are sins more serious or less serious??
We can tell a small lie, or a larger one??
No!
There are lies and-so.
Lie is untrue. Beautiful or not, still lying is.
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@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
15 Aug 12
I absolutely agree with you.
We just could tell the truth even it hurts , but something hurt that doesn't kill you makes you stronger and more realistic.
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@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
15 Aug 12
I personally don't believe in "good lies"... Lie is a lie, period... When my girlfriend or daughter ask me a question, I always start my answer by asking them, "you sure you wanna hear this?"... On a flip side of that, I would take it as an insult if one of them lied to me, dispite of their intentions... They could be well meaning but it doesn't matter to me... If they really wanted to make me feel better, they'll tell me the truth... I don't care how "hurtful" or "disgusting" the truth may be, I'd rather have that then a lie... There was one time she worked so hard to prepare dinner for my birthday... It was during earlier state of our relationship... Food didn't turn out all that good... When she asked me how it was, I told her, "Well... Food sucks...!!! But you know what? I love the fact that you went all out for my birthday... You have no idea what this means to me..." She had puzzled look on her face for few minutes & said, "ummm... ha ha ha... Yeah, I was gonna say, this was first time for me trying to make this (food)... I didn't know how it was gonna turn out & didn't know if you were gonna like it... Now I know to work on it... Here's the situation... I'm Asian & she's white... That was her first ever atempt at cooking asian food... Turns out she talked to my mom & my sister & few of her asian friends about it before trying it... She wanted to know if she did it right... If I would've lied to save her feelings, I don't think she would've gotten it right, ever...
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
There are no situations favorable for lying to sit properly, somewhere.
Needless to want to find excuses for the lies offered one way of truth, at least temporarily. From the start these be lies told before, even spontaneous. However spontaneity in the use of lies instead of truth is an everyday reality and however we would meet and we all wonder how we find much originality in it.
I want you to keep your first thought, one in which you prefer the truth, whatever it is, a lie told well. Finally her short legs, will ring under the table dialogue.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
Well, lies are everywhere, but you'll be suprised to find out that there are also truths that come with most lies. If you can read between the lines, you'll see how some truths are bundled with the lies, and sometimes it's enough for you to figure out the answer. In my opinion, there aren't any full lies, only half lies, or part lies/part truths. Even the smartest @ss out there will reveal some truth within their lies. For example, when I ask "Where were you last night?", and you answered with "I'm with my friends." The truth is you were somewhere you don't want me to know since I asked you Where you were last night, not Who you were with last night. Pretty basic example but you'll get a hang of it quite easily.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
Lying is above all an instrumental function. It is useful to an end: we lie to disclaim / to mask something / to protect ourselves or others / to protect us, etc.. Paradoxically, lying is not really radically separate. May have as a starting point a fact, then at some point it breaks. I think we each have our own moral axis. If it is vertical or longer bend, is a personal choice.
There are reasons for that lie.
As there is reasons to choose truth.
And I am the truth.
But not at any price.
I stop when it might hurt someone that love him.
..
But I know that's the only truth that frees us.
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@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
14 Aug 12
I think there are some situations in which people lie or at least try not to reveal the truth for good reasons,and they have the impression that by hiding the truth for as long as possible will prevent them from suffering or making others suffer,but eventually the truth comes to the surface and the pain of those involved in it might be much greater,so a lie may sometimes be considered beautiful,or even noble if there is a good cause behind it,but in the end it's still a lie and it can't last forever.Eventually,telling the truth,no matter how disturbing it may be,is preferable to any form of lie,good or bad.
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@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
Lying by omission of truth or the desire to protect someone's done something serious because the person to trust people or situations "deformed", if I may put it this way, people perceive as different. But you can not protect someone forever, and when the time comes to be affected in a lie when it is possible to lose confidence in his protector. Maturity and responsibility of a person depends very much on honesty, how honest you are with yourself as an individual but also with others.
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@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
bad lies and good lies is also i think i good because some good lies are the only way to us keep it in our self in order to us to hide our feelings and emotions we have many pursoses in life we should keep in our life few people can't understand us, so that other people can't manipulate us
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
The truth is that a match can be light or burn everything ,I heard it recently in a movie. We women have what we have with telling the truth, with despovararea soul. It's good to tell the truth but if built it will destroy a hard time, then maybe it's better not to say it? May have mistakes in the past that you should look there for unearthed would ruin everything. And yet, I am a lover of truth ...
@moulee87 (320)
• India
15 Aug 12
Didi!
Lies can be categorized into many forms. Good lies at bat time, bad lies at good time and much more! In India we have a famous proverb!
"We can say thousand lies to do a marriage successfully"
I'm not sure how many of us take this proverb positively. Today I find many people who take this proverb as an added advantage if the bride or bridegroom have some problems in them. Particularly information will be passed as the bridegroom is getting more salary compared to the actual salary he is getting!
It also happens with bride too! Some will say that bride had completed Masters degree but actually she would have completed an undergraduate program alone!
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
I think people are conditioned to believe the truth that the first option. In general, almost no one says good things about the same lie that commonly say about truth (although one would not exist without the other). Instead, I read the testimony of a great man, Octavian Paler, who said in old age he came to understand that there is no truth, there is truths. Since reading these words I have interpreted and understood in many ways. And I am the truth. And I'm wrong. Because there are truths.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Aug 12
hi didi sometimes when someone asks me if their dress becomes them I will always soften things by saying the cut is great but that color does not really suit you. tact not lieing .just not saying unkind things when there is no re son to do so.look didi the world is not black and whi
te but nuances of all colors. to use tact is not to tell a lie but to soften the truth. why be cruel to
any one as what is gained by that.
te but nuances of all colors. to use tact is not to tell a lie but to soften the truth. why be cruel to
any one as what is gained by that.@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
I believe with all my being to reveal the truth at all costs, but do not think there is this world person who has not ever lied and I do not think there will be. Again I call human nature in this argument. If ever were invented device that would make possible a listening party I thought that we take the hands of the head. We are not totally honest so that we can not at some point. If I send even think outside what we get to civil war. From the finding that we have no tastes in common with others, has no sense to fight in fashion ideas, likes cinema, or recipes, for example! Total honesty is essential not only in love! Love is conditional on the existence of a bridge of absolute trust between the two! Otherwise, an attitude that you talk a bit reserved and that does not make you a liar! Just as the fact that no ballast discharge our anger against loved ones does not mean lie! The truth is we all feel alone at a time, press the truth that worried or nervous and really do not have waved a flag! I was educated to keep my fiery outbursts, wailing and nerves inside I did not throw the first came his way, because no matter how serious it seems most problems, all alone in this life we find solution!
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@delfajumamil (62)
• Philippines
15 Aug 12
theres a good lies and theres a bad lies.. people sometimes preferred to tell a lie rather than to say it. because theres a lie that could help you.. if you tell a lie just be sure that no one will be hurt,, except you,, accept the consequences if you do it, work and solve it
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
I believe strongly in truth value. I think that although it is harder to endure the pain of truth is one that is healing. While doubts left by a lie break down, destroy, poison life and love. But I wonder, very often, unless you, bitter me so much in my belief that I do not deviate ever wrong, to me, and to those I love.
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@pestengbata (180)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 12
The reasons why people lie and manipulate may not be negative always.In some cases, a lie is spoken to ensure the well-being of a person. In many situations, one does not have the time to explain the entire situation to a person and convince him/her that what is being done is right. In many cases, a lie can help to control a particular situation from worsening. Thus understanding the psychology behind why people lie is not difficult, but individual motivations might be hard to pin point. However, a lie spoken for a good purpose (white lie), should not be looked upon as dishonest behavior. As possible, lying should be avoided, as it creates misunderstandings and erodes the trust that other people have placed in you.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
In life, in one form or another, depends on the individual, may have lied, but not willingly, not so?
Life in one form or another, I was there in November, cowardice and fear, the little mouse, scared, a lot of life, who preferred the wild rush, but, in fact, it did not ..
In life, can often prefer, let us create a world for things that would hurt too much, too hard, and then, one could say that we are lying, or prefer lying .
I know for sure is that silence, banality, naturalness of a second will not come and I'm never, built on lies, many others .. are not, and can not be .. Because, then, would mean that that to you .. it actually lies our lives, and then, if we do that, would mean that we start, to rotate unconscious, some rotated, we do, let us be.
I always considered that, then, is that you two get along much, and any number of life appear, you can sit in front of the man you love, to tell him, look in his eyes is the most suggestive form of respect, which, you can give him.
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@bdfreelancer (518)
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15 Aug 12
Thanks didi13 for writing this nice piece. I believe that lies cannot help and protect people eventually. Lying is a very abominable vice and by all means human beings should refrain from lying. Now there are lies that are not meant to cause any harm, these lies are called 'white lie'. If someone tell somebody that they have nice taste or that their new home is well-decorated,which is not true, but just to please them, it does not cause any harm. Rather, telling these kind lies make others happy and might motivate them to achieve better things in life. Anyway, if it is possible to not even tell good lies it is even better.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
15 Aug 12
I always hated lies and many times I was disappointed in people who have lied and I did not recognize, even if they were discovered, blaming everything on me. I often feel inadequate this society where lying, deception, lack of morality have captured almost all men, became normal. And even if I try to say I detach all, all the bad things affect me coming from outside. But, yes, I admit, sometimes I had to lie to my turn, it was about my private life. And I think there is a difference between protecting yourself by making others omissions or, if absolutely necessary, even lying, but to give everything in the house and then to be trampled. There are things related to my heart, only my own, some things people may say later, and right now they hide for my own good. And so we all eventually, and tend to not necessarily consider it to be called a lie. But I hate when people lie to advantage, to give the most important, to deceive, to hide the bad things they did.
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