Is it difficult to be a good parent?
By BethelSophia
@BethelSophia (538)
Philippines
August 15, 2012 7:01pm CST
Parenting is not an easy job, it's a life time contract. Once you are a parent, you will always be a parent even if your children are married already. Parenting is not as easy as other jobs for it doesn't come with a user's guide or manual. Every mother and father has to rely on actual experience or in a work we call that on-the-job training rather than their prior experiences. In parenting we can also experience the process of trial-by-error for we can make a lot of lapses along the way. In my own opinion, to become a good parent is not so difficult yet it has a lot of challenges. If you can touch the life of your kids then you are a good parent, if you are thinking the best for your kids then you and specially if you do your best to become a good parent and to give your children's need then you are!
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8 responses
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
yes, becoming a good parent is not hard as long as you know the responsibilities of becoming one. However, we cannot still please anybody, even we knew that we are already good for then, some will still comment about our way of upbringing our kids.
For be the best measure for a good parent is through the kids they raised.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
yes, you are right asdomencil we can't please everybody. Well, they said you will know the attitude of the parents the way they raise their children or through the behavior of their children; before that's also my basis but this time I don't put all the credits to the parents, why? because their are times that even if you are trying your best to teach you kids morals and good ways they sometimes walk and follow the crooked path. Yet, if you continue to teach them time will come that they will follow you. Though what I've observed is not applicable to all but there are really times that you don't understand why this kids behaving this way will in fact their parents are good. :(
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Sometimes, kids has been affected by other people. Let us say as parent, you have limitations for your kids but other people that interact your kids does not follow or obey what you limits, kids might get confusion. Sometimes but not all, kids raised by grandparents are mostly growing spoiled by the grandparents.
Other factor is their peer group. Sometimes because of afraid of being rejected in a group, they tend to follow instructions and made some bad attitude.
As parents, you must still monitor your kids not only inside the house but also outside.
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Yes that is true, there is no rule book as each will have different experience and learning from their children. We as parents must know our role as guardians and counselors for our children. We can guide them to live the life we want from them but we could not enforce everything if our children would not want to follow it. Once they are on their own our parenthood may somehow diminish but then it will not relinquish our title as a parent for them.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
yah, exactly we can't force our children to do the things they don't want to. We can tell them and suggest them the best idea that we have but it's still their choice to follow them.
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 12
Actually I do not think it is difficult to be a good parent, it depends on our will and love towards being a good parent. It's same as other jobs, if you have the strong will and interest in them, you'll perform excellent in that area. There are also many parenting guides where we can learn from. Of course, as you mentioned, on-the-job training is important, as every child is unique and different, and we still need to learn and apply different techniques on different child. But I do believe, when you love the child, you will learn and find the way to treat him the best you can.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I am a parent of three wonderful kids and i could say yes it is difficult. As there would be time you need to sacrifice your ownself for your kid's sake. It is difficult because there are times when you need to be tough even tho it hurts to see them crying but you need to really teach them a lesson... so yes it is very difficult.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I've always dreamed of becoming a good parent. One that could raise a child who can grow into a responsible adult citizen of my county.
I don't want my child to be an extension of my failed dreams. I'm a parent who wants to see my son spread his own wings. I am very supportive of his dreams. And I want him to reach the potential of his talent.
Am I a good parent? Well it's too early to tell.
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Big YES!
It is really difficult to become a parent. But I'm happy taking good care of my two kids. I don't look at it as a job or an obligation but I just do what I think is best for them because I love them. I am teaching my kids the best to mold them as a good person as they grow but it's not only them that is learning,I too,learns from them. I became more patient,more responsible and more mature because of them.
It is really difficult to become a parent. But I'm happy taking good care of my two kids. I don't look at it as a job or an obligation but I just do what I think is best for them because I love them. I am teaching my kids the best to mold them as a good person as they grow but it's not only them that is learning,I too,learns from them. I became more patient,more responsible and more mature because of them. 
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 12
Being a parent is a difficult but rewarding job. There are no breaks, vacation time or sick time but it is worth every minute of it. =)
We do have to base parenting on our experiences and it is trial and error. We do the best we can and pray we did everything right.
@wagkangmakulit (69)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
Honestly it's difficult but you can be good as what you experience or learned. There's a lot of tips and advice how to be a good parent to your kids and to raise them better. HAve a great day!
