Forgiving Someone That Hurt You

Philippines
August 18, 2012 12:34pm CST
"If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart." In life there is a lesson to be learned in all of your victories and all of your defeats. Don't let things like failed relationships bring you down or stop you from ever wanting to trust another human being again. Forgive those who have abused your trust, those who are supposed to be with you but act as if they are against you, those who have been willing to not only break your heart, but willing to betray you as well. These are the people who have helped you the most, because these are the people who have taught you who and how to trust, when to be cautious, warning signs of someone who is becoming untrustworthy, and ultimately they have helped you to determine in the future who to open your heart to, and who not to as well. Live your life, don't let the feelings of hurt and pain live your life for you, use your wisdom from your experiences but never let them hold you back from seeing greatness.
15 responses
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
Ues, I definitely agree with you. Love for me s a cycle. We love then get hurt, then we forgive and forget and then love again. Well, it's always in the long run that we forgive those people who have hurt us, in the same we learn from the mistakes we made, making a cautious with the kind of people that we meet after that. But it's not easy to forgive someone, you still have to heal all those wounds inside of you for you for you to forgive that person. Healing those wounds would definitely take a long process. I been through this stage alot of times already and it's really not that easy to forgive the person nor it would be easy to give that full trust to someone again after what would been through. It is in indeed such a learning process in both our mind and heart. It's by getting hurt that we learn to be strong and stand up everytime we fall.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
True indeed,once you've loved you always find that feeling of being in love. In fact for me,falling in love is easy but staying in love is the hardest part. You have to maintain that feeling in the process of love. And then time comes the relationship gets cold. Your lonely nights will start.You give a piece of you to that person by giving your pure trust and it will end once its broken. What else would you expect you can't just put it back together as before.Guess forgiving that person and accept what happened is one thing you can do. But it depends on what's the right thing for you. Time heals almost evrything. So you might give it a time and as what you said joankath29 stand up evrytime we fall.It's not necessary to forget because it happened but it's more on accepting despite of what happen.:)
@tetris15 (541)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
I've tried my best to move on with the hurt that I've dealt with in the past and learned to forgive those people who had hurt me. I agree with you about those people who had hurt or betrayed me helped me to be more cautious and alert. Unfortunately, there are times when I know that I should never put my guard down and choose who to trust again but it hurts me even more knowing that I can never deny my trust to them because they are my family. It really hurts me knowing that those who had betrayed me are the same people that I have to give my trust again.
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
People come and go but your family will always stay with you.You give them a piece of you by trusting them.But unfortunately even how good you are to someone.It may be a family or just a person you know not quite long.It may hurt you somehow in a long run.Your family or that same person who crumpled your trust may give you pain in a little while.But it doesnt mean it will give you the right to hurt them too.It"s better to do the right thing and forgive even that person once betray you.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
hi, there were times in my life that i forgave all people who hurt me and made me sad left pain in me,i can forgive them but i can not forget what they did to me and how hurt was that,that is why all my ex partner has been forgiven even they cheated me and left me and broke up with me.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I have to admit that eventhough I have learned to forgive, forgetting about how hurt I was is hard to do.
@margiegay (158)
• Philippines
11 Sep 12
this is so hard though, specially if the most hated person is the one you love. there are times that you will not know where to place yourself for them to realize how hard it is. this is also one of the reason why i am choosy when it comes to friends making. friends making as we all know is just like a wink of an eye but its the trusting part that has the most percentage to complete that person of not hurting you at all.
@Ciel08 (29)
27 Aug 12
that's true...! but.... you know on my part it's easy to say the words "I FORGIVE YOU" to someone but its hard to meant it.... for its not easy to forget what they have done to you..... there are wounds that even time cannot heal and scars that you will carry for a long time... and I know that those things will never hold me back in seeking for a better future..
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
i agree with what you've said, we should forgive the people who have hurt us in the past, it is not quiet hard to do, but forgetting is another thing. i don't want to forget the things and my mistakes in the past. so if the person is part of my mistake,i just forgive but i don't forget what he have done. this are the lesson learns in the past, so that i won't commit the same mistake of doing it again. and i don't hold grudges too, i don't keep hatred as it is a punishment to ones self. so that when someone example, breaks my trust, it would be too hard for me to regain it again, although i could have already forgiven that person.
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
I don't think that anyone should say that you should forgive someone who hurt you. It is your business and nobody's. I think it will always be up to the person if she or he chose to forgive or not. Sometimes, things are a lot more complicated that it is on the outside. Most people who are looking from the outside may see something else that the actual event. I do think that holding on grudges from the people who hurt you is not really that great but I see no reason why someone should be forced to forgive someone.
• Philippines
21 Aug 12
All you've said is right. But then, it's not that easy to forgive especially when you've been hurt badly and you'll realize you have forgotten yourself just because we had so much love for them but still they hurt you. You're right anyway. We learned from our mistakes. Those experiences make us more cautious the next time around.
@joicerey (46)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
I agree with you. There are people who had a hard time forgiving someone who hurts them and what to forget the pain, for me i do believe that forgiving is the best way to forget or remove the pain.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
19 Aug 12
i cant do that all the time,it all depends on the magnitude of how much they hurt me,if i feel its so horrible, i would rather ignoring him always also
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
19 Aug 12
Nice discussion. Although we do forgive those who have betrayed us, it is still difficult to trust another fearing that the same thing might happen again. Yes, they have taught us lessons but at the same time, build a wall between us and others. Trust is something that is not easy to get, so when someone trust you, never betray them.
19 Aug 12
yes i think it is very right,also i found that if i heat one person is so tired,you always remember the bad things of them,so you become not happy,so try to forget and forgive them is more important for us,we can feel a more better world!
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
It is true that one should be forgiving. i really get what you are saying. We should turn the other cheek and forgive those who have done us wrong. We are not perfect and we do commit mistakes. If we cannot forgive others, then how can we expect for God to forgive us? This is why we must forgive others even though it seems hard.
@R109948 (71)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
time flies so fast so in case someone has hurt u, lets look deep down our heart to just forgive and forget..easy to say but i guess it's really hard to do..but we can always try...