Long distance relationships
By daisychain1
@daisychain1 (5)
Germany
August 20, 2012 8:50pm CST
Hi, I'm a dancer and soon I'll be going to university in a big city and will be leaving my boyfriend behind in our hometown is he is doing an extra year at college! :( we've been together for nearly 3 years now and are very much in love. I'm a smart girl and I'd never want to give up on a career or my education to stay with him (he wouldn't let me do that anyway) but I can't stand the thought that us being apart is going to cause us to drift away from eachother :( right now we see eachother near enough all the time and fur that to go to next to nothing.. Well it just seems to drastic to me :(
I know he also worries about the amount of male attention I get from losers.. He knows I wouldn't do anything to hurt him but he gets paranoid sometimes even now (which in a way I love it shows he cares) and worries if anything might happen to me, but will this get worse due to us being apart?
I'm honestly not exaggerating we're a near perfect couple, I just don't want this to be affected by us being apart for a year :( dies anyone have any personal stories or advice for us? We want to spend the rest of our lives together? If anyone has any stories they can tell us to get a better a picture if what were about to do please share it would mean a lot...
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3 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Aug 12
hi daisychain welcome to mylot.I have no personal long distance relationship ever but am wondering could your boy friend change his college to go to your university so you both could have more time to see each other? long distance sometimes eventually ruins many relationships,it depends on how faithful to each other you both are.If he could switch colleges you would not have to endanger y our career.its just an
idea.
idea.@daisychain1 (5)
• Germany
21 Aug 12
Hi @Hatley no the college and university don't offer the same sort of courses unfortunately :( but we are very faithful to eachother and have been for the past 3 years... I might just be paranoid but I don't want us to grow apart
@GemmaR (8517)
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13 Sep 12
I have been in long distance relationships in the past, and they are things can work. If you are only moving away to study, then this is not really the same, as you will be able to visit home all of the time and would be able to see your boyfriend when you go there. You would only be away for a couple of months at any one time, and would then be able to see him for a couple of weeks. You are off for almost four months in the summer and this means that you would have a lot of time to see him. If he is busy doing a course then it isn't as though he would be bored, he would have plenty of things to do with himself.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
21 Aug 12
If you guys really love each other that much then I think you'll be fine. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years left for the army for a few months ago. He's currently in Oklahoma and I'm in South Florida. To go from seeing and talking to him every single day to not seeing him at all and hardly talking was kind of hard for me. He's my best friend in the world and without him here I just feel lonely and sad. I have other friends but none of them can fill the place of my boyfriend just because he means so much to me. I was able to see him a few weeks ago at his graduation from basic training. He's still in Oklahoma until the end of September but at least now he can text me and call me at night.
He's the same way with other guys and worrying that I'll cheat on him. His past 2 girlfriends cheated on him and it took a while for him to really trust me. He still fully trusts me but it's always a worry at the back of his mind. I also thought it would get worse since we were so far apart but he's actually been really good about things and we don't get into arguments over stupid things. It's not easy being so far apart all the time, but I'd say things are going pretty well with us and I know he even plans on proposing soon :)
