The Relationships We Have with Online Friends ...

@gtargirl (5385)
United States
August 24, 2012 3:48pm CST
I'm watching the documentary "Catfish," where a 40 something woman started an online relationship with a young man. She had over fifteen profiles on facebook and sort of made him "fall in love" with her aka her daughter Megan (who wasn't real). How do you feel about your online relationships?
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@GardenGerty (98229)
• United States
24 Aug 12
I think most of my relationships online are real. Of course I am not in the market for romance. I have even met a few of my online friends in person.
@Tina30219 (33706)
• Onaway, Michigan
24 Aug 12
I think of my online relationships as real as well. I am married so I am not looking for a man.I have met a friend online that I have actually met and I am looking forward to meeting a few more of my friends I have met online.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Yeah, I'm single but I don't look for romance online. I don't respond to those kind of things. But in the documentary "Catfish" she started sending him amazing art of his photograps (he's a photographer) and telling him it was painted by her 8-year-old daughter. Anyhow, I've also met a few on my online friends. It's all good so far.
• India
25 Aug 12
Hello my friend gtargirl Ji, Well, I consider as mere a fake and illusion feelings and relationship.People get cheated without thier fault. It is very dangerous for teen-agers. We all go as per profile and information available added with personal conversation among members. It is far away from reality and one must be careful. May God bless You and have a great time
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
It's good for us to be wise and be able to pick out the scammers and the unsafe people.
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• India
27 Aug 12
Hello my friend gtargirl Ji, Well, I think that i smost correct way of apprach. We all have to be very careful and keep teen-agers away from net. May God bless You and have a great time
@winterose (39921)
• Canada
24 Aug 12
I feel they are mostly real the ones that are not, I quickly find out about and ditch them. I met my boyfriend of 13 years online.
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@Otanetix (509)
• United States
3 Sep 12
Building relationships with people online can be very interesting. Compared to face-to-face, offline relationships, online relationships are generally anonymous unless you volunteer giving out personal information about yourself. In the past, I did have some online friends from various online forums. For the most part, the relationship with online friends helped me gain information about various topics. I did not look for online friends for love. When you develop online relationships on online video games like World of Warcraft, it gets even more confusing. I have read reports about gamers falling in love with other people's avatars, which seems somewhat strange to me. Anyway, being anonymous can often create false identities about people. In gaming, there's a lot of cross-gender identities, which means there are people who create female avatars when they are actually guys in real life and vice-versa. Basically, with developing online relationships, you need to be very careful about who you befriend and not become too attached.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
5 Sep 12
Yeah, I can see where those gamers can get into some real trouble. They spend way too many hours with those people. Interaction must get pretty intense and personal. Good thing I don't even have the talent to understand those games.
• United States
27 Aug 12
I have met many people online. I know they are real because I have personally skyped with them or seen them in Youtube videos. I believe anyone should be careful on the internet but if you can skype with the person before really meeting them that's a great way to know they are real.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
SKYPE is good. It's actually free on Facebook. You can video chat right from Facebook. Anyhow, in this particular movie the woman and the young man (Angela and Nev)talked on the phone. She disguised her voice when Nev was supposed to be calling her daughter Megan. The scam was very elaborate. Very interesting. I couldn't keep it up. I think the red flag would be when the person makes excuses to not meet.
@Porcospino (16679)
• Denmark
25 Aug 12
I have had both positive and negative experiences with online friendships. I have met some people who were fake and hid a lot of things from their offline lives, but I have also had some really positive experiences. Two of my online friends have become my close friends in real life. The meeting with one of those friends was especially memorable, we got along incredibly well and we talked 4 or 5 hours on our first meeting. At the moment I have 3 online friends from my own country that I have never met. I think that they are real, and I have been in touch with them many years.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Yeah, I think after many years of authentic communication you can feel comfortable with online friends. I've had both experiences online and off. It's all part of life, I guess.
@celticeagle (117868)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Aug 12
I have severe depression with panic attacks. I have gotten to a point where about my only social interaction is online. I also have some agoraphobia tendencies too. I have been hurt by several men online and I just don't go there anymore. One guy I really thought was the one and he and I had chatted, talked on the phone and gotten to a point where the next step was to meet. He began to hedge and started to back away. At one point he was saying he was broke and we couldn't meet for awhile because of this. I set up a fake profile on the social networking site we had met on and sure enough...he made immediate plans to travel to meet. Yes, when he had just told me he couldn't afford it. As the fake gal I gave him my number(the same one he had been using for months to call me with)so we could discuss our meeting. So he calls, it rings, I let it ring several times. Finally I pick up the phone, and when I said 'hello' there was this pause and then he hung up. I loved it and I feel he had it coming. He was liar and I doubt that he ever was going to really meet me. I think it takes all kinds and you really have to keep your heart in your pocket and be very careful. As far as friends I have some great ones online and I appreciate them very much. I think I may have seen that movie but I don't recall the title being that. Not sure.
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
I'm so sorry you have depression and panic attacks. I've dealt a little bit with it, nothing major though. The only panic attacks I got was when my husband left. I got over it. But I'm also sorry you got hurt like that. But you WIN with that awesome sting. Good thinking. I would have been so nervous and probably wouldn't be able to pull it of. Kudos to you.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
24 Aug 12
Oh wow! That's just crazy! And illegal. It's a same a person can stoop so low as to do that to another person..what would someone find appealing in crushing someone like that. It's deranged. Now you have me guessing who is real or not on my friends list..it's no different in my book then those people who prey on young kids. It's just not right.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Very true ... it just isn't right and it's the same as people preying on kids. Very sad. And don't worry about your online friends, the fake ones will eventually show their true colors. If someone is lying, as was the case in this movie, it becomes a very tangled web and they forget which lie is which. And you know the old saying; "You can't cover up a lie with another lie."
@ARIES1973 (9533)
• Legaspi, Philippines
24 Aug 12
As for me, we should not be playing with others emotions in any way. Aside from facebook, which I consider as my communication line with my family and friends, my online accounts are mostly about online works.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Yes, me too. Most of my online activities is about marketing and business reasons. My friends and family (I feel sorry for them) are being used to my advantage. Kidding of course ... sort of.
• Canada
24 Aug 12
I am me, and there is only one of me. I am honest with everyone I talk to, and don't try to embellish or hide anything. I don't understand what people are trying to gain by being dishonest.
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Must be that people are unhappy and lonely, which of course, is really sad. But going to these extremes is kind of scary.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Aug 12
I dont have one like that I am in my coffee crew and a freinds fan club and my neices and nephews who never ardly even come on
@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
27 Aug 12
Sounds like you're having fun with that Coffee Crew. And, trust me, even if your nieces and nephews were online, if they're anything like my kids, they don't keep in touch with you on social networks. Once in a while I get to know that they're reading my stuff. KIDS!!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
27 Aug 12
yup I sure am the coffee crew keeps me up on all that are getting into the coffee business and we pass ideas success and every thing. and our sponcer keeps us up on everything I now have about 100 friends in the coffee crew SO many are joining to make life better for them and family me too lololol love the coffee as its healthy to has Ganoderma in it an herb thats been around 4000 years and has just a time ago is getting to us westerners world lololol. It has helped me alot health wise I drink it every day with no coffee crash or shakes as I drink alot!. and my son that lives in Tenn will talk to me on FB if we are on at same time and use chat well 2 of my sons. My daughter and I live together so we talk al the time n o need with FB for that. neices and nephews up dte what they do eery great once in awhile and I started useing FB more when I found they all are on it and now they hardly on at all lolroflhnk