Will you marry someone that you don't love but could save your life?

@blinjk (613)
Philippines
August 28, 2012 4:31am CST
There are some people who marries a girl or a guy just because of money or because of their parents.They wanted their life to be better and had no choice so they marry someone who can actually save their lives.Being practical is always the reason but how about the love. Some may learn to love but others just can't. For me, marrying someone should be the guy or girl that you want and you must have a right decision in choosing who to marry and you should not have regrets.How about you my fellow mylotters? Will you marry someone just to save your life?
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19 responses
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
It's hard to tell unless we are on their shoes. it's easy to say we want to marry someone we love. but we cannot judge those who choose practicality between love. If given the chance (for the second time) I will choose the one who can give me all the comfort and luxury in this life.
@ligwan (44)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
I agree to that! We may never blame anyone what their decision would be like. We have on our own lives and circumstances. We have different cultures and races. Things to deal with without minding others' opinion. Some even say that you can learn to love a person over time. I am not married yet so I am still in a process of thinking what would be the best if I will come to the point of no return, that's marriage. :)
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Sep 12
Owing someone my life because he saved me doesn't mean I have to give my life to him. I could be grateful for him for giving me another chance in life , but I would still want to find the person that I truly love, than force myself to someone who just saved me.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
No matter how I tried to change myself and be practical. I still could not. There was a guy who loves me and wanted to marry me. He is not so rich. But I must say he is the type of guy whom you know can support you even as you both grow old. And can ever help your family. He got a good job. His own house, properties, business... he was there waiting for years.. but I just can't feel myself falling in love with him even when we became really close as friends before. So my answer to this is NO. I cannot. I wanna wake up each morning beside someone I am in love with.
• Indonesia
29 Aug 12
If I don't have someone I love, I would go for him. but if I have someone in my life, then I will follow my heart and run away from him. I also will consider what his sacrifice and how much he sacrifice for me. this won't be easy decision..
• Malaysia
29 Aug 12
Definitely no. Marrying someone just because of money is something I do not encourage even though nowadays there are many of them do this...Marrying someone is a long term relationship. If you found a wrong one , you might ended up regret your whole life.
@HomeBase (1054)
• United States
29 Aug 12
That's a tough one. I could always say, "No, I would never do that," but one really does not know what they would do unless they were in a dire situation and marriage seemed to be the only way out. Of course it is good to marry for love, but one has to have their stuff together or else the marriage is not going to last. Love is the strongest force in the world, but a marriage takes WORK, and a lot of common sense and the co-operation of each partner.
@toniganzon (53314)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Thank goodness i'm already married and of course out of love and not convenience. However, if i were to marry someone for convenience, he must satisfy me financially, physically and sexually! I'm just being honest. I don't love him so in exchange I just want him to be rich, handsome and good in bed just to compensate for my entire married life with him.
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
No, may be it could save me for now but how about in the future. Marrying someone you don't love is a big risk for me. It's like ruining your whole life and ruining someone else's life for that matter. Some people learns to love someone because of money but some cannot, it's better to think twice before deciding to marry you don't really love than to regret later.
@fantabulus (4005)
• India
29 Aug 12
Dear love marriage is not allowed in every community. Some men or women believed on parents and they know their parents choose the life partner very well. Life is safe in love also and in arrange marriage.
@Shavkat (65169)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Some countries practiced fixed marriage, I have seen it. Since I am a foreigner, I asked my local friend that same question. He said, "I should do it. If not, it will put the whole family in shame."
@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
No, I won't. Whatever will the reason will be, I won't marry someone whom I don't love. I was made out of love so I would make my child out of love too. That's a big nono for me. How about the others?
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
hello blinjk,for me,No i will not marry someone i did not love,because its a long term relationship, there's so many ways to improve our life,find ways to uplift your life,buy working or start new small business that will help your family have good lifestyle,marrying someone because of money is not good because your selling yourself because of money. Find ways to improved your life,and dont commit to someone because of money.
@freedang (320)
• China
29 Aug 12
it is a hard question,yeah..i cannt imagine that i maryy a person that i dont love.but i have to consider so many things such as life,familys and so on.anyway,i wish i can found a girl whom i love very much and marry with her
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
Marriage to me is a lifetime commitment. In this sense, I don't think I'd marry anyone unless I love him. I don't think my need fro money would ever lead me to marry anyone. That is a very wrong motive. I believe marrying a rich person would ever make my life better so I won't really do that.
@toyota4k (1212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
nowadays because of miserable lives we have to admit that some marry for security. Others, due to ambitions putting at stake their future. However, others had seen it as a blessing in disguise having experienced joy and contentment and most of all, a successful marriage.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
29 Aug 12
The situation is more like of a soap opera being aired on television, lol! But the truth of the matter is basically based on the situation that requires judgment based on what could hopefully be the solution to what you really want in life, i.e. money, power, etc. On the other hand, if it would save life especially someone whom i dearly care for and love, then it would be much easier for me to take such decision to marry.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 12
Marrying someone who can save my life is not the kind of situations you mention. Saving my life is that I will die if.. might be an operation, organ donation or something like that. What you talk about is happening all over the world since ages and ages. Fact is everybody is looking for a better life, kind of social status or whatever. Nobody prefers the poor basterd, a partner with many debts. The so called marriages out of love are way less as most people make us believe. Fact is love is over in many cases if the love or your life turns out to be not the person you think he/she is. Also it's a fact that love can grow, gets stronger if you survive together bad times (good times is easy). You can't say you will never get regrets since time changes.. it changes you.. it changes your partner, which is normal. We should develop ourselves in our lives, get stronger, get who we are without anyone stopping us. If you grow and your partner isn't you already have a problem. We all see, hear more as our anchesters, we get older, we are more educated, so sooner or later it's possible you regret your choice. And this shouldn't mean you have to stay or be punished for ever. What counts is you think over your choices, if you make them you go for it and make the best out of it and you admit if it doesn't work for you and are strong enough to start something new or all over again. I will not marry anyone who can save my life or let anyone save mine. I am capable to live alone, make my own decisions, to manage with less money and also not willing to provide for someone who is not strong enough to do the same. In this case I am not talking about the kind of circumstances a person is (temporary) in but the kind of character that person has (too lazy, too comfortable with anyone else doing the job).
• Kenya
28 Aug 12
Personally no, When I marry someone it will be for love. marriage requires a lot of work for better or worse and I can't even begin to imagine what happens when the conflicts start and no love to act as a shield. I dated someone for four years because he was so good and he even paid for my schooling and no matter how much I tried I could not love him back and lets just say it did not end well. I learnt my lesson.
@tetris15 (540)
• Philippines
28 Aug 12
Yes, I am willing to sacrifice my own happiness for the sake of my family. I know that I will also be happy if I was able to make them happy.