Have you tried to find a lost friend?

Greece
September 8, 2012 11:11am CST
Moving around as much as we do these days it is easy to lose touch with friends, even best friends. It is much easier to find them now through the internet but you may hesitate from concerns that they may not want to be contacted after many years have passed. I contacted a friend 25 years later, she had been my best friend. I rang her on her birthday and she did not recognise my voice. She sounded pleased to hear from me but it was not until I received a very long letter from her that I realised that she was very pleased. We picked up our friendship as though it had never been severed. Now we are as close as we ever were even though we live far apart.
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@VGDesigns (102)
• United States
8 Sep 12
I did. A few years back...with no luck. Then one day I got a message from him on Facebook. Never even thought to try and find him there.
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• Greece
9 Sep 12
The same thing happened to me, I lost a first cousin but couldn't trace her and then one day a message popped up asking if I was related to my father! It is lovely when this happens isn't it?
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
8 Sep 12
No, I haven't had the opportunity to finding a lost friend because most of my friends I from my past have found me on Facebook. Most of the time even though we don't speak too much anymore. Every so often, we send messages like "how are you doing?" or "hey, it's been awhile" and the occasional happy birthday greetings. Getting in touch with friends that you either have not seen face-to-face is not easy because of distance or just in different phases in their lives making them busy. I feel as though with some friends it became inevitable that we would drift away. When some of my old friends started drifting away from the group, we noticed everyone's interests and ideals slowly started to change as we grew up. However, I do not regret having them in my life. Without them, I would not have the experiences that I cherish deeply.
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• Greece
9 Sep 12
All our friends impact us in some way or another. There is a time for making friends and leaving friends behind but it is good to know that there is always time to meet with them, however briefly on Facebook.
• Canada
9 Sep 12
yes i know the pain of loosing friend. i was having very close friend in my college days and i almost lost him., i tried my best to find him .... i send letter ... called him and his friend but phone number changed and i did almost everything... but did not find him. But one day i was just browsing i found him on facebook and i was so happy that on his profile i found his new phone number and i called him.... he was so happy to meet me back. so after about 13 years we meet again and due to this we are again connected with many other friends.
• Greece
9 Sep 12
That is a happy ending, not just for you but for a network of friends! I think perhaps when we are young we do not appreciate friendship as much as when we get older. Now thanks to social networking we can put things right.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 12
hi 41 Combedaleroad my experience was the opposite and I feel so b adly as we email one other but when she learned I had changed political parties she never sent another personal email just articles she thinks I might enjoy and oh my chain letters I hate chain letters so I delete.I try to get her to talk to m e,.tell me about herself her family and our home town.we were playmates in kinderrgarten and all through high school then we lost track as I ended up in Arizona then Californioa and she is still in South Dakota.her daughter got her a laptop and theyh found me through my sons website, i was totally thrilled to find her again. she did st op to see me while in Ari=zona and myhubby was still alive.then we lost contact. we are now both 85 and shes upset because I am not a republican. I ha te that politics can get inthe way of friendship?I am glad yours has gone well and happy for you as thats the way it should be.wish I cou ld prevail upon her to open up with me as I have with her.
• Greece
9 Sep 12
That was sad and somehow chain letters make it feel worse because we can't help but think that if she did that she could have just as easily written a short note. It is rather like someone arriving on your door and then refusing to come in and have a cup of tea and a chat with you.
• Thailand
8 Sep 12
Not exactly i lost the friend by distance, i lost friends from betrayal.... My long distance from are still sending me messages on facebook... But the friends i lost because of betrayal, i wouldn't wish to see again or ever call them. For me friendship is very precious, but some friends don't know the value of it and they are just taking it for granted.
@Pattitude (1287)
• Newton, North Carolina
1 Dec 15
That's so wonderful! I have found a lot of high school friends on facebook. There is only one I can't find - a guy named Kelly North. Sure would love to know what happened to him. He just vanished after graduation.
@tedifa (1232)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 12
Now many social network sites can help you to find your lost friend.I did it with facebook and i found my college friends.But still i can't found my child friends.It feel so happy and comfort if we can meet again with our lost friend.But don't be shock,maybe your lost friend attitude and habit was not the same like many years ago.It was about condition, culture, or family maybe.Relationship is being fun and make you happy if you comfort with your friends.If you're not happy so leave it soon.
• Indonesia
12 Sep 12
I could feel the happiness you have to communicate back with old friends. 25 years is a long time to start communicating again, there are many stories of you both miss each and you must both be very enthusiastic in sharing stories. I have not trying to contact my old friend for 3 years now,, may be someday..
@Shavkat (137215)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
I did, my best friend passed away in a very young age of 12. I still remembers him. He showed me to love the things he wanted to do, to live to the fullest.
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Yes, Facebook helps, funny I thought that she was my best friend in High school, she studied in far place after graduation. she was in London now and she just treat me just like a casual friend, I'm still happy for her because I found her and have a good life now. We just have a casual likes in Facebook... Lol
• China
9 Sep 12
Congratulations. However,i had a bad experience. When i got the phone number of my old friend,who i haven't met for 6 years,i was so excited. I gave her a call without any hesitate,in my heart,we were still very intimate as former.But,unfortunately,she didn't remember me ,though my heart was hurt,i can understand her. Then i tried my best to keep touch with her,but she was very cold. Because she has been enter into society for many years,and i am still a student,so there is little topic we can talk. Gradually,i gave up.
• United Arab Emirates
9 Sep 12
The moment is so precious when we meet our friend who had gone far away from us and met us suddenly after many years.I understand deeply your feeling when you listen your 25 years old friend voice. Have a great life combedaleroad.
@zeonstar (54)
• India
9 Sep 12
YES it is very easy to find the lost friend on the internet , but very difficult if they are not register on the net . My one friend was lost 10 years ago i was finding him on the net but he was not there because he was not register himself to there ...then one day his father was eventually find to me , he gave me his mobile no., so i find to him .....
@Lushlala (4028)
• Gaborone, Botswana
22 Aug 15
Aww that's great, and I'm glad you guys could pick up where you left off. I have friends like that too, who I really cherish. We could go ages without contact, yet the next time we hang out, it's like we were never apart. But I recently had to let go of a couple of very good friends on my return to my home country, after living in the UK for 13 years. We met up, tried but failed to reconnect. I just reasoned that things like this happen, we change and sometimes go in very directions. It's nobody's fault, and I made peace with it.