what should be safe and correct age for last delievery
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
India
September 10, 2012 5:35am CST
Hello all my friends and all members Ji,
Well, I migt be wrong, but I gave birth to my last child in 1975, when I was 31 yrs old. As I advanced in my age, I started to know that mostly marriages are taking places now after Girls even turn 29-33 yrs, and medically, they are getting late, as such some eggas-Banks too started with the view taht they can become motehr as per their availbility of time. I was under impression that women should not be subjected for labour pain after 33-35 yrs. It is not safe.
Today, while going through family datas on DOB/DOM etc. my hubby broke the news that his eldest brother wife, who is running in her 91 yrs of age delievered her last son in FEb 1961, when She was running in 39 yrs of age and remmeber She never went to any hospital , all her children were born within four walls of our house and only our MIL with some other Ladies took care of total labour work.
Now my question is :-
1- why Medicos opinion such and create a stressed feelings among women
2-Is it life style/living style responsible these days (to mention, Lady in question was a graet swimmer in her prime age)
3. Also, women have been making safe delieveries even after 50-55 yrs of age other than for record sake.
I have come out so taht all our women should not be depressed. Your frank/experienced opinions would be appriciated.
May God bless You and have a great time 
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Sep 12
I know women who have had children in their 40s and everything went OK. My sister just had a baby in January right before she turned 39, even with her oldest one being almost 20 and none in between. Personally I think this is an issue within a woman, their husband or significant other and their doctor. So in reality anymore, I think there is not a right answer.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Yes totally I think anymore a lot of it should be on the parents themselves and what is Healthy and best for them. Since so many people are waiting to marry until they are older there are older parents, and many even here in the US forming clubs as well. Personally there are a lot of factors, but always consider what is best.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
27 Sep 12
Hello my friend KrauseHome Ji,
Well, I fully agree as my hubby's elder brother's wife (who is 90 + yrs ols as on date), gave birth to her last son when She was 39 yrs old. But earlier time marriages were conducted whe girls use to be around maximum 20 yrs, there was no question of career in those days. Under present conditions, it becomes duty of boyh spouses to plan in such a way taht they get rid off all parenting duties by the time they cross at least 55 yrs. Now, one should calculate and find out when one should marry. I am talking about social obligations by both parents to continue our human race, as done by our ansectors and parents.
May God bless You and have a great time
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
10 Sep 12
My daughter was 39 before she had a child and they sent her toa special Doctor as she was that old great DOctor and older one that had the old ways with him.
any way she lost 2 babies before this one took.
and then she ended up haveing a csection for cord was wrapped around he babys neck.
DOctors monitor older woman more incase of birth defects I guess for more deffects come with age?
I have seen people 61 years of age Pregnant dont kno how birth turned out tho and my own mom was 41 when she had my sister which I thought was funny we went thru pregnancy togethr as I was on my 3rd child.
my sister is 9 days older than my 3rd son and 4 years older than my daughter feels weird to me on that.
To me its up to the woman when she wants a child and being a swimmer she should be in good shape!
I owouldnt want one after the age of 29 which I was.
wnted to be young enough to raise them al the way
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
12 Sep 12
and +what if the woman DONT want to marry just have a career?
SOunds to me like the presure is being put on them to mary early just to have children and what if they CANT have children like it happens with some women even if they want chldren a heart break fror them and they were forced to marrry to have children . I dont know just seems to me that that is what is happening.
as with my daughter she didnt want any children for awhile then she decided ok now time well she lost 2 and so by age 39 she finallyhad one
and we have a ball with grand daughter but if it had happened earlier not sure how it wold have went!
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend Lakota12 Ji,
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 12
As long as a woman still has her mensus she is still in her reproductive circle and is capable carying full term pregnancies despite being in her early forties. Doctors would not advised women to have babies late though as the mortality rate is high for aged mothers. Complications like bleeding and cervix not opening can be fatal. Women should not go beyond 35 to have the last baby.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
Where you got hibernated for so long. We missed you very badly.
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
5 Oct 12
One of my colleagues wants to get pregnant for another baby, but it is so hard for her since she miscarried four years ago. Now she is forty. She is worried for that. She and her husband have been to see a doctor for many times, but without result of getting pregnant. I wish them to be successful in having another baby with good luck. Take care, friend. Be blessed!
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
5 Oct 12
Hello my friend williamjisir Ji,
Well, first of all I wish that your friend and his wife's dream come true. Forty yrs is nothing, in our family, one Lady is expecting to deliever by 21 December-12, that too at the age of 44-45 yrs old now, further that Lady is presently mother of 17 yrs old shool going a engineer aspirant next year student. Please tell me waht Gynic people have recommanded, else I will give you email ID and other details of on eknown Doctor here, who will make such delieveries possible through the net. I have seen, Ladies are becoming mother even after 55 yurs of age. Let them keep tehir morale high. Please come back to me throiugh personal message. Take care. She should keep her mother feeling burning.
May God bless You and have a great time
@marguicha (215604)
• Chile
12 Sep 12
I think all suggestions doctors make are based on statistics. There are several ways of checking whether a baby has genetic problems before it is born and it seems that there are more ods that a baby will have some problems when the mother is older. But thatm as I said, are statistics. My youngest daugter gave birth to her youngest child when she was 44 years old. Sofía is quite a bright child and doesnt seems to have any special problems. I do think though that it is better to have your babies when you are younger. I think it is hard on the parents to take care of teens and young people when they are older.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend marguicha Ji,
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Sep 12
Basically because of the advent of medical science and developments, age is not a problem till an extreme cases. However, when we are talking about the ideal time, upto the age of 45 is also not exceeded the limites. Suppose a women give birth to a baby at the age of 50 also will enjoy the life. But she may be worried about the chile and when she is at the age of 60 the chile may be just 10 years, which the mom may feel some kind of emotional pressures while compared with the normal practice.
If a women admitted for delivery at the age of 65-70 also, the doctors would manage with the advanced medical technology. However, the couple should take a precise decision whether they need to go for such a risky decisions where both the mom and child should be in good health, especially the mother.
So, considering each and every aspects wishing for a chile at the age of 40+ also fine with normal circumstance. Especially people already have a child with 15-20 years old and at that time the mom getting delivered also is a matter of though with the already existing children's perspective.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend thanks1961 Ji,
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 13
My mom had my sister when she was 34 years old and me when she was 39 years old. My sister also had her last baby girl when she was 39 years old and she is a perfectly healthy little girl.
My last baby was born when I was 36 years old. I am glad I finally had my daughter born. One of my friends married at age 38 years old. She had a baby girl born when she was 39 years old and a baby boy when she was 40 years old.
My son is five years old and his is disabled. He went to a playgroup for children with additional needs. There I saw some down syndrome children. A pregnant lady that is older has a higher probability of having a down syndrome baby than a younger lady statistically speaking.
The midwife gave my sister a score of probability if her last baby would have down syndrome in her pregnancy. She got a relatively high chance of her baby having that. I am glad she gave birth to a totally normal baby girl.
I know an aged 22 years old lady had a down syndrome baby at the group. I would like to point out I like disabled people.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Sep 12
I think women at their 40's is still safe to give birth for as long as they are healthy. women giving birth in their 50's have menopausal bsbies. it is consideted as a high risk pregnancy coz for one, the pelvic bone is could no longer stretch as those of younger women.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend jenny1015 Ji,
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
@riyauro (6421)
• India
10 Sep 12
I really don't have any idea on this actually and I am in my late 20s. I have no children as yet and I was planning on having one soon. My cousins have given birth in the mid thirties and all was good. I have other cousins who are in the late 2os and early 30s but still have no kids.
I know some actresses who got babies in their late 30s and all was fine with them. I think with the advancement in the technology, late 30s delivery is very much said to be normal. yeah it is true that many girls are getting married in late 20s and early 30s, so there is still chances to have babies in the 30s. It has become very common I guess. I don't know exactly what is the correct age for last delivery still. Hope to know it as well. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
12 Sep 12
Hello my friend riyauro Ji,
Well, first of all I wish to thank all responders for such and convincing responses with all valied points. Mostly we are not clear, I wish to explain with my hubby's experience. We have our one family close friends, who had a problem taht his 29 yrs old daughter was not ready to marry, our side it is too late. Once we went to them when her parents were missing, so my hubby was talking to that girl in question. Try to find out what She was engaged, as she told taht She was in her last SEMESTAR for her MBA, my hubbyasked her how she would plan to administrate all formules in her life. On discussion, we understood taht whatever, task assigned as a human-beings (Men & women), must be completed before 60 yrs of age, that means anyone's children should get settled by the time perent attain that age of 60 or so, and their last daughter has to get married 'when', when parents should complete education. It is true that after 40 yrs, many problems come up for a lady fpor her natural delievery and go for operation. So I com eto conclusion that normally, marriage time must be before 25 yrs in all cases and last delievery may not take place after Lady turns 35 yrs, so that by sixty yrs, She should complete marriage of her daughter . Thanks for all responses.
May God bless You and have a great time
