Would you change there name

By C
@ShyBear88 (16740)
United States
September 15, 2012 11:51pm CST
Would you change your child/children's name if they didn't like it? I wouldn't change my children's name if they didn't like it. To it's to bad your stuck with the name I gave you till either one I die or two they turn 18 and can go to the court themselves then and legally change other wise then that I'm not changing my child's name for anyone including themselves. To me that would be like disrespecting or dissing my parents for the name they took time thinking about to them. If we all had choices to our name ourselves then we would be born able to talk and pick it ourselves.
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7 responses
• United States
16 Sep 12
My mom hated her name so she changed it legally. My sister hated her name so she changed it legally. Me? I hate my real name and that is why I go by Sarah here. I would Never , Ever legally change it . Why? My mom said it was her favorite girl name . The problem Everybody either changes the spelling of it or says it wrong. When I was younger I took this as a sign I was less than everyone else so my name didn't make a difference. Ever since I started using Sarah , I am more my true self. So it really doesn't matter how the other name gets butchered!
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
17 Sep 12
People misspell my name and say it wrong all of the time. It's a pain to legally change a person name. I wouldn't do it for the kids but of course I think I would be okay if they changed there name legally to there short name but to a totally different one I wouldn't be okay changing it for them. They would have to wait till they where old enough to do some. I have no problems calling them by any other name just the legal changing of it I myself could go through it but I'll stand by there side if they want to go get it done.
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• United States
17 Sep 12
It is different for me. My mom is gone and I still remember the hurt in her eyes when I told her I Hated my name. So I'm stuck with it on the legal stuff and I get to use Sarah here.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
22 Sep 12
So Sarah is getting use to being Sarah.
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@krupar5 (287)
• United States
26 Sep 12
Hi shybear, I agree that when we pick a name for our children a lot of thought is put into it. I will not change my child's name,but I would consider doing it if my kids wanted to add a name. My 15 year old wants to add my last name to her name. She has her father's last name and we are divorced. When we got married I kept my maiden name and continue to keep it even though I am remarried. I asked her why she wanted to add my name and she said because she wanted to let people know she is half Asian and is proud of who she is. Her father is Italian and she looks it and many people did not know she was Asian until they meet me. I told her let her be certain she wants too because it costs a lot to do it. I cannot get upset because to me that is special. It makes me happy to know that she is condfident and proudof who she is.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
28 Sep 12
That's cool. I could accept something like that. Most all girls after they get married change there last name any ways so it wouldn't bother me if one of my kids took either mine or my husband last name or even the guy or women that they marry instead. But every parent puts a lot of thought into the first name.
@krupar5 (287)
• United States
29 Sep 12
I agree we do. I think names people choose have deep meanings and when my children get older I plan to tell them how we decided on them. My 15 year old hated her name until we explained why we gave her those names.
@jenny1015 (13398)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
I think it is total disrespect to the parents if a child wishes his name be replaced coz he just didn't want the name given to him.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
16 Sep 12
jenny1015 I never thought of it that way..I just knew my parents liked the name they gave me whether I liked it or not and never even thought I had a choice except for the last name when I was married...
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
17 Sep 12
stary1 you can change your name at any time once your 18 but it's very hard not easy at least not in the US it's not that easy its hard to do. A lot of people use there short name and get there real named changed to that. That wouldn't bother me as parent but a totally different name och that would hurt me as parent. Yeah you get to choice your last name kind of when you get married. You can change it, not change, or make it both of your last names.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
18 Sep 12
Honestly, I have to say that I grew up hating the name that my parents had given to me, and though there were times that I chose to go by my middle name, I would have never considered changing my legal name because of the fact that my name is a gift that my parents had given to me. With that said, there would be no way that I would consider letting either of my children change their given names. The reason for that is because I think that they have wonderful names and both of their names mean a lot to me.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
22 Sep 12
Yeah we don't get to choice our names but we get to choice your kids. I think it would hurt any parents feelings if there child name. I wouldn't let my kids change there names either. I always use there short names when talking to them unless they are in trouble then I call them by there whole name. I didn't care about my first name either when I was younger it grow on me over time. I really didn't like it because people would never say it the correct way or they would change how it's said which I hated. They would always change it to a Spanish name when it French. They took one look at my last name and changed how it's said. They still do it even though I have a German last name now.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
17 Sep 12
I not change my name before marriage or after marriage but my friends not like my name Surekha so they called me Sandhya and only on Govt. certificate or on college certificate my name is Surekha but people calls me Sandhya.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
22 Sep 12
People only change there last name if they get married well really if they want to because you don't have to. I was talking about a person first name which were I live it's a pain to change your first name. Last name is way easier to change then your first name but that is only if you want to legally change it if not legally then on any none government official paper you can put what ever name you want to.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
16 Sep 12
ShyBear88 ..LOL I am with you on this one..Many kids don't like their name or find a name they think would be beter. Too bad..I would tell them when they have children they get to pick their names, but not now. Of course you are also correct they can legally change their names once they turn 18, but it will cost them and be a lot of trouble.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
17 Sep 12
Yep. I would hate to see my kids change there legal name. If they want to be called by something else I have no problem with it.
@kris3rdE (156)
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
Hi Shybear! I'll never change the names of my kids even if they didn't like it. You're correct it took time before we came up of a name, their dad and I even argued about it. They can have different nicknames if they like.
@ShyBear88 (16740)
• United States
17 Sep 12
We call both of my kids by there short name that is just how me and my husband like it. we love there long name but it just as good with there short name. As mommy I can live with that if my kids wanted to change there name to there short name because it took us just as long to think about if we liked it not as well as there long name. I wouldn't change it all my kids can do that themselves when they are old enough to go through that process of wanting to change there name. I'll call them by what ever they want as a nick name or what not but I'm not legally changing it ever.