I tend to my boyfriend elder than me

@cmy1004f (381)
China
September 22, 2012 10:36am CST
Now I still single, but it doesn't mean that if I meet someone I feel he is my Mr. Right I will refuse. Just one thing I would not change my position, he must elder than me. Becuase it can give me more sense of security. Feel even the same age, men immature than women, it will more obvious if they younger than women. Till now my character still like a kid, so I think our character will easy to complementary each other. In mum's view, physiologically of female get old faster than male, so not fit to find a man younger than me, but love is blind, so when you in love with someone probably would ignore this.
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@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
22 Sep 12
I think maturity does not rely on age alone. I know lots of men, older men who are irresponsable and act like a carefree kid with no care in the world. While my husband was already matured at the age of 16. But like you, I also tend to be attracted to men who are older than me. My first bf is 10 years older, and my second bf who also became my husband is 13 years older than me. I just find older men attractive because I like to be the one being treated like a baby sometimes lol!
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• Portugal
22 Sep 12
yes rain^^ being treated like a baby is amazing^^ its so rare to find guys that treats us like we are so precious. i wanted a boyfriend like that. maybe someday he appears. being treated as an important thing everyday. i would be so happy. im really glad that your husband is sweet to you.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
The elder men will know how to take care us more, feel like a father take god care of his daughter. Do someone said daughter was her father's lover of pre-existence?
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
Women are actually two years mentally mature than man. That's the general belief but of course there's always an exception. When I was young, like you, i had the same principle. I only wanted to marry someone who's older. Two to ten years older than me. I had the same reasoning as you. I wanted that because age for me meant stability. But i ended up with someone younger than me. Three years younger.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
26 Sep 12
As long as he really love you, and you feel happy together, the question of age is not important. And I, the single person will insist this point unless I meet my Mr. Right who is younger than me.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
23 Sep 12
My present husband is younger as I am. My ex husband and ex bf were older as I am. If it comes to mature my present husband is way more mature as my ex ever been. Age is not everything, what counts is life experience and character. People are different. There are plenty of 50 year old men who still behave immature..something many men like and abuse by saying: men will always be children. Some people are already mature if they are 4 years old. And yes if it comes to love is blind.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
26 Sep 12
Everything is not absolutely, just each person has different choice. If the course is very much, even if a young guy also can be very mature, the key is, if there is fate between two people.
@youless (90272)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Sep 12
I prefer that my spouse is older than me. I don't want he is younger than me. As you said, women grow older faster than a man. And men are less mature and they need more time to grow up. A maturer man will know how to cherish you and take good care of you. Even though, I don't want he is older than me 10 years because it will lead to a generation gap.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
I think age distance about 10 years is fit, I know some of my frieds's spouses still like a kid, even they elder than their wifves more than 1 year, addicted to computer game or network game with varying degrees.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
23 Sep 12
Having a boyfriend who is older than us definitely has its own advantage.So i also prefer this way.We make take life easier and he can also understand us more.So i think this is good idea,which is often told by my parents.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
I probably thought so, elder men in all aspects of life should be more assertive, to deal with things better.
• China
23 Sep 12
Haha,tha same with you.I prefer to choose a elder one to be my bf. As you ever said before,the elder is more mature than us. In fact,i am a little childish until now,sometimes i feel very sad for this character. But it's hard to chage ,so i hope i can meet a person who can tolerate my naive.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
People's character is difficult to change, so the more important thing of two people get along is inclusive. Young men not only impulsive, sometimes even less patience than us, so it is difficult to let them forgive us. Elder male relative to a certain amount of life experience, patience will be better than younger's.
@loonys (418)
22 Sep 12
Just follow your heart . The younger the better. I would choose the one who likes me.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
Yes, we should follow our heart, but just the man who like you is not enought, you should also like him.
• Portugal
22 Sep 12
i think its normal that we girls like guys that are older than us^^ bcs they are more mature and sensitive^^ younger guys are like kids. im not saying that some are not sweet. sure there are but they still want to play around. if we want a serious relation we more likely to have it with a older guy^^ i like guys with like 22 till 26^^ that are more like my age^^ that way we can have fun together.
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@cmy1004f (381)
• China
23 Sep 12
Right, although the age is certainly elder than me, but it the distance of age too large, there will be a generation gap appear, so 10 years or less than of the age distance is suitable.