My life is no longer my own
By kimL
@kimilawini (111)
Philippines
September 28, 2012 7:46pm CST
Before I got pregnant, I was carefree and careless. I had a typical (but boring) single life. I have a job and the money I earned was spent over some senseless things (mostly 'wants' that didn't last long anyway). But everything changed after I saw two red lines in that pregnancy test. It just hit me that my life is no longer my own and that someone is already dependent on me. I can't just live my life thinking of myself. Getting pregnant forced maturity into me, I guess. And for that, I feel blessed. I am proud to share to the world what a wonderful baby he's turned out to be. He added meaning to my life..
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
3 Oct 12
I bet! I imagine how a woman's life can change, they say we are more selfish while not having kids but to have a life growing inside of us, and after being born everything must surround the new born incarnation for sure, we must take care because it's our duty and of course, how not to love our own child? That's great, but I know also that you loose a lot of sleep...
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@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Yup, sleep has become an expensive commodity for me since I had my baby. I mean I'd wake up several times during the night just to ease my baby's discomfort.. Then there's the need to check if the diaper's still okay.. Things like that.. But then, everything's worthwhile especially when I see my baby growing bigger, heavier, and healthier with each passing day. And those dimples simply wipe away the stresses of the day..
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@sheila2666 (90)
• United States
29 Sep 12
Babies are a blessing. Sometimes things can be a challenge. But hopefully along the way, you get to wake up one day and you and see this wonderful human being that you have created and helped become this great man. Enjoy your baby while you can, one day he'll be grown up before you know it.
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@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Very, very true. I will definitely have to enjoy kissing my baby, kissing his tummy, making him laugh.. Before he thinks that I'm embarrassing him already. :) I am very hopeful that he will become the man that I want him to be. :)
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Oh! wow!! congratulations to you kimi! =) That is true, what you said in here about your life not being your own because for sure you are to be a mother soon... and this will change everything... =) your priorities will change, your life will change as well too! :D
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@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
really a beautiful story. Congratulations on staying strong and true to yourself! I wholeheartedly agree that you first should be aware of the next consequences. it would be better if the challenges are shared by you and your significant other.
@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Yep, my husband shares both the joys and the trials of being parents to our little angel. Thanks! :)
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Oct 12
I believe that this is something that is true of most women when they find out that they are going to be a mother for the first time. I remember with my daughter, I didn't actually find out that I was pregnant until five months before she was born. However, from the moment that they took me back into the room to tell me the results of my test, I instantly knew that there would never again be a decision that I made in my life that was a decision that I was making for myself alone.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Congratulations Kimi! Indeed, babies are blessings from above. I am sure you'll be a wonderful,selfless and loving mom from the way you speak.
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@kimilawini (111)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
Wow thanks for such esteemed regard! :) I may not be the perfect mom to my kid but I am hopeful that I could give him the all the love that he very much deserves. :D after all, being a mom is a real workout too, :)
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 12
It was a lovely that you were carefree in your younger days and you had an enjoyable time as a single lady. I think that your whole outlook changed when you saw the pregnancy result of your home pregnancy test. Now you know your life is looking after your little boy. From the moment he was born you have had responsibility for caring well for him. You seem to be happy with your life as a caring parent. It is lovely to think back to happy times in the past, like the current time and have some hopes for the future.
@olliekobra1 (1825)
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19 Oct 12
That's really nice , and your right when you get pregnant do have to grow up because every decision made has to involve the family but it is a exciting time and its Definatly worth it in the end
@watchamacallitz (1171)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
That has happened to me too when I became pregnant (which was unplanned) but my baby has helped me become more mature and more responsible. As mothers, we are no longer living our lives only for ourselves but for our kids, first and foremost. Cheers to all the mothers!
@STOUTjodee (3572)
• United States
24 Oct 12
I was in awe every time I found out I was pregnant, to know that my husband and I had created a life. It's nice to have some one be dependent on you and of course knowing that a life is dependent on you, you gain maturity. You now learn that every thing just doesn't affect you, but you have another life growing inside of you that you must have to take care of. Once they grow up, they're still dependent on you to teach them right from wrong, how to love and many other things. It's great to know when they start a family of their own , do you then realize, I didn't do such a bad job after all!
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
That revelation happened to me too, when I had my son, I am worried now about my health and my financial capability. I pray that I will always be healthy and financially able for my son and his future. No one can take care of my son other than myself alone.
