What if your bestfriend is having a secret affair with your lover?

@zip12ph (179)
Philippines
September 30, 2012 12:04am CST
I've watch a trailer of a local movie regarding bestfriends, but one is being cheated on by his lover and her friend. Thinking of it, i'm not really sure as to my feeling will be,if this situation happens to me, How about you, would you still keep your friendship? Happy mylotting.
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15 responses
• Thailand
30 Sep 12
Hello friend, if you can see on my previous discussions i was cheated by a friend who had an affair with my boyfriend online. It rally feels bad, i don't expect that they can d it to me, but now i am already fine and just let them be happy if thats what they really want. After all i can't do anything more but to just let the be happy....
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I'm so sorry to know that this had happen to you but i'm glad that you're better now. As what they say if someone leaves then probably someone better will arrive. and i hope that you will. thanks
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
I haven't seen that discussion of yours, when did you post it? would you mind sending a link so that i can read it first? people think they can just do what they want for a simple lust of temporary joy. yeah, you can't do anything if they have some connection to each other, but that's just rude and am sorry you had to go through with that. he should have broke up with you and then chose her as to be fair
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Best friends are made to care for each other not back stubbing to offend by making a relationship to the same girl,who he knows was the girl friend of his best friend.If I was the one made by my best friend,our friendship would never be the same as before,because I could become his worst enemy.A reconciliation might be accepted but our closeness as a friend could be different that he made a scratch to our friendship.We could still become a friend but not as best friends anymore.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Oh well, we can never really prevent those person who would rather hurt their own friend as long as they satisfy themselves. No reparation can be done if trust is ruined. happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 12
You are correct there,because it could also happen to me or to anyone including you,that love conquered yourself,yet even if you know that was for your best friend,you still can not afford to just leave it,because it could also hurt your feelings not pursuing your emotions. You are enjoying the wonders of love within yourself,yet you are just destroying your only friendship,who is like your brother.You are the affected person,so better solve your problem than leaving it up for yourself to support your friend.If you are in love you are going to do all you can just to win her heart,no matter what would be coming soon for your best friend as long as you are also happy,so let it happen no matter what may come.
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I will not keep anymore my bestfriend because she already betrayed me. I know falling in love is not a crime. But she should have thought of what will i feel when the truth will be revealed. She should have resisted the temptation.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
resistance is sometimes hard especially if attraction is stronger. But if a friend really cares for you, they would never do this, but we need to accept the fact that sometimes they would forget the relationship as long as satisfaction is attained by them..what you say?
@baby000 (29)
• United States
30 Sep 12
Wow that is tough. I mean if my "best-friend" did that I don't think I will hate them. I mean my reaction will be more of a shocked one you know. I would not look at them the same way again but on the other hand I am not going to hate them and stuff. I will have to ask them a question regarding why they did what they did. I will have to ask the person I am dating as well too; why they went out with my friend etc. If they give me a straight answer, then I'll proceed form there. If they try to lie, I will most likely try to move on from the relationship. I will have to do a deeper investigation before making any rash decisions.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
wow, baby your kind if that's the case, if this will happen to me, no enough reason can be provided to erase the hurt or even maintain even a single, tiny strand of relationship. LOL, i'm not saying i experience it, but even imagining this provides me a lot of emotions actually. thanks
@shm1975 (38)
30 Sep 12
if your boyfriend /girlfriend didn't want to stay with u & like to stay with your friends .let them live . I know it hurts still its better to leave them .otherwise u three will suffer
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi shm, i think that's true, but they should just inform you right, rather that doing some secret affair behind your back. Letting go is just one of the process of getting freedom, but the way that it should be done is the question. thanks.
@WakeUpKitty (8704)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 12
then it's not my best friend and he is not my lover.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Totally, and who needs them right?
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Hello Zip12ph, this is a sad story by that movie but i think that's how the movie is portrayed latey. it's actually more gruesome in the real life because some people cheat even though they are married. I think it would be too heart breaking and then get depressed if the love of my life starts cheating on me. i dont think i want to keep the friendship but i will be civil just to be fair
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I agree with you Letranknight, I have this friend who has a relationship with a married guy, since i'm a friend, I've tried to talked to her regarding the pros and cons of this relationship, but unfortunately, my friend got angry with me and forget me as her friend and chose to keep her illegal relationship. but i'm not really frustrated since by that reaction of her, i came to know that she is really not that true on our friendship. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
Well if that thing would happen to me, I would definitely won't forgive my best friend as well as my boyfriend for cheating and hurting me. Because its really hard to accept that the one whom I consider to be my best friend cheated and having an affair with my boyfriend. :)
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi toxic, forgiveness maybe given but it would take sometimes, but forgetting well never happen especially if it hurt so bad. And friends who can cheat on you is no friend at all. thanks
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
this is very unlikely to happen to me, my bestfriend is already married with a child. =) i have no other close friends who are very close to me and my partner... (actually i have no partner right now) and is just about dating. hehe but if this happens to me, i think i just might just let them live and go on with their life... without me!
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi chiyosan, i don't think that being married of one is really a security nowadays, since even married person do engaged in this kind of situation, but since your single, why not enjoy it for the meantime. happy mylotting.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
that would be difficult. i might as well stay away and forget them. nothing could repair a broken relationship for me although others would opt to give a second chance.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hello bingskee, second chance will never be an option for me, since i don't like recycled relationship, since i believe that if they did it to you once they can do it again, and i don't think that it would be worth the effort either. thanks
@SunGlow (48)
• United States
30 Sep 12
I personally have not experienced that kind of situation. But if someone who was suppose to be a friend did that to me they would no longer be my close friend. I would distance myself from them immediately!
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi Sunglow, i didn't experience this either, and i'm glad, cause im not really sure on what will happen if this ever happen to me, but in case, i think i will not only distance myself but i will forget the friendship and the relationship. thanks
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
30 Sep 12
This would be an unexpected turn of event that would surely cause a dramatic, traumatic and devastating effect on friendship and relationship for me. This kind of episode would surely be far from my mind since I value friends like my own family and perhaps they too in return.
@zip12ph (179)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi obe, i for one would never do this, cause trust once ruined is not easy to be reinstated, especially for someone who is dear to you. have a nice day.
@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
1 Oct 12
i can say, Oh My God and how dare you cheat me and have affair with my lover.. i can`t say anything maybe
1 Oct 12
It would depend on the circumstances, If they were in love and still together it would be tough but if the friendship was worth saving and we both had the will then I think we could work things out but it certainly wouldn't be easy.
@marguicha (112632)
• Chile
1 Oct 12
THat person is not a friend and the lover does not deserve my love either. So I would end the relationship with my lover and not talk ever again with the so called friend.