Why would I miss work now?

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
September 30, 2012 7:12pm CST
This girl I went to school with who I honestly wasnt good friends with was getting married. Now she was more of a friend of a friend deal, I havent talked to her since high school. She invited me to her wedding, i had to work, and Im sorry Im not going into debt just to go to your wedding unless your someone important I mean someone much closer or family. She is the same age as me just got married, her boyfriend (or husband now) works part time and lives with his parents, she lives with her parents and doesnt work (wow perfect aint they). She kept bugging me and saying its only work call in sick. I flipped on her, she has absolutely no responsibility or care in the world. I told her unlike her I have bills to pay Ive been supporting myself since I was 16 and worked even before that. She carried on how no wonder Im not married, and not complete. I just rolled my eyes, and ignored her. I told her I dont want to be living with my parents, or my *husbands* parents with no job, or lack of a job being supported by them. She kept coming back saying I was jealous, I told her clearly since I'm not married I'm nothing like the rest of them have to say. I just blocked her, and ignoring her I have better things to look forward too, and getting married isnt going to make me complete or accomplished in my life. I can say I support myself without my parents, nor a man and have a work ethic the last thing that makes me complete or accomplished is getting married.
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5 responses
@deazil (4605)
• United States
1 Oct 12
What a loser she is! I can't believe she had the nerve to say those things to you. Her life is absolutely nowhere and you are soooo much better off than her. I think she's the one that's jealous of you. I mean you have a real life and she has nothing. I think she didn't like you making her see reality by what you said. She better wake up. As young as she is and her life is already going downhill. It's admirable that your work ethic is so much better than a lot of young people these days. You're such a hard worker. And that crap about being "complete"?????? Is that what she thinks is going to make her life wonderful all of a sudden? Get married and you're complete? Then what? Life gets magically perfect and you never have a problem again? She's been reading too many fairy tales. You keep the attitude you have. It's better for you.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
1 Oct 12
Yep, I cant bellieve the number of people who have said this usually the ones who are married. I told her I would never depend on anyone to pay my bills, and no man or marriage will make life perfect. I am 24, and told her I am still reaching goals, she has accomplished nothing but high school. I wonder in 10 year even 20 how many of them will be divorced and regretting it. No ring or paper will make my life complete, my lifetime goals arnt to get married, and thats it.
@deazil (4605)
• United States
1 Oct 12
Smart girl! And thanks for commenting! I appreciate it.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
8 Oct 12
Your welcome!
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
1 Oct 12
I don't think marriage makes you complete. You are much better of than she is. Being able to support yourself - just the knowledge that you can do it - is invaluable. Being married is something you do because you love someone, not to be complete.
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
I agree with you. Some people just have too much time on their hands and don't use it wisely. I think in the future she'll be in one rude awakening and she'll definitely not going to be laughing. Just because you're married, your world is not already perfect. Then again, marriage often gives the hardest problems to people.
• United States
1 Oct 12
I would not feel that getting married would complete me either. I have a man and that is as far as i need it right now. I think what completes me is taking care of myself and my family and not needing anyone to step in to help me. I can't wait to be able to take care of myself even more without help.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
1 Oct 12
I agree, being married or having man doesnt make life perfect, or complete. Sadly, many have this view, and they are usually the ones who accomplish nothing but being married, and being dependent on others. I told myself I would never be like that, I would never be just someone who got married, had a few kids, and nothing more I will never depend on others to support me. I know many who I worked with, who were just like this girl and in 5, 10, 15, even 25 years they had no life skills they were in the world by themselves, and just kept dugging themselves in a hole because they never knew how to support themselves, and live by themselves.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
2 Oct 12
I hate to break it to you but as long as you live under your parents roof you are not completely independent, independent means being on you own doing your own thing.
@dorannmwin (36696)
• United States
2 Oct 12
Honestly, getting married was not something that completed me, though I can honestly say that I love my husband with all of my heart. Instead, the thing that I really think has completed me is having my children. Now, my husband and I did live with my mother before we bought our house four years ago, but it wasn't because we weren't supporting ourselves. We were paying her rent and paying all of our other bills as well. It basically boiled down to the fact that my mother was helping us out by giving us a break and we were helping my mother out financially through a very tough time in her life.