Make your personality louder.

@roshigo58 (4871)
Pune, India
October 1, 2012 4:00am CST
In our housing society there are only 6 flats. So it is very small housing society. We held regular meetings for discussing problems and suggestions regarding the problems. One of our society member is very aggressive and arrogant and always talks in loud voice. He thinks that he knows everything. But everyone neglects his suggestions. I think we shouldn't make our voice loud to make others listen, but it is better to make our personality louder so that other wait to listen us. What do you think?
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14 responses
• China
4 Oct 12
Yes, only when we do or say something reasonable, people will respect us. However, if we just pay attention to what we feel and ignore others, our ideas can hardly be accept because people may think they are ridiculous. If we dare to speak out our ideas, that does mean we are confident. But if we think we are omniscient, we are completely wrong, and people will also regard us as an arrogant and ridiculous persons and ignore us thoroughly.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
4 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. We should act or do something reasonable. If we behave arrogantly or rudely then everyone tries to avoid us. So we should be polite and soft with others. Thank you for the response.
• China
4 Oct 12
Indeed, I find many peolpe who think they are omniscient in my class, and it is really very hard to get along with them. Sometimes, I express my own opinion with them when we are discussing, but they will ignore my ideas completely. It really makes me angry, and now, I do not want to talk to them anyway.
@olliekobra1 (1826)
2 Oct 12
i dont know why some people feel the need to get angry and shout to get their point across, all these people do is upset other people and if the they think that there right its worse. If you want a proper dicussion it should be civilised and friendly.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. If you want a proper discussion it should be civilized and friendly. Some people feel that their loud voice makes other people keep quiet and they don't oppose them. But it is not true. People don't like to listen such people suggestions. Such people don't get respect from others. Thank you for the response.
2 Oct 12
That's a good point you have made about respect, because respect is earned if people think they can earn respect through shouting load they can't
@else22 (4319)
• India
1 Oct 12
The member you have mentioned here seems to be aggressive.I have also encountered such persons several times and my experience says that nobody listens to them.People dislike such behavior.We all like polite and soft speaking persons who don't tend to force us to accept their suggestions and toe their line.People who speak loud try to dominate others,but nobody wants to be dominated.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. Such people want to dominate us but nobody is dominated by him, because such people make baseless statements with loud voice. People who have pleasing personality are respected everywhere. Thank you for the response.
@else22 (4319)
• India
2 Oct 12
Polite and peaceful persons are respected everywhere.People love them and remember them.
• India
5 Oct 12
Nice discussion, congrats, shouting in public places, meetings, works at times; but it has more effect if your personality is impressive
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
5 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. Your personality should be impressive and we should not be rude or we should not shout while explaining our point of view. It should be accepted whe we are explaining politely and softly. thank you for the response.
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
3 Oct 12
I do believe that if we use a loud tone of voice all the time and we act like we know all that there is to know about everything then people will have a tendency to not really listen to what we have to say. With that said, I do think that the best thing that we can do is to try to make sure that we use a softer tone of voice and use more positive body language and then people will listen to us more than they would have listened to us otherwise. I don't think the size of our personality so much matters, I think that it really has to do with the way that we say things.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
4 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. We should always ret ro speak in soft tone and our body language should be acceptable and positive. Thank you for the response.
• India
2 Oct 12
Hi friend, you are right, if we are living in an apartment we don't disturb other persons with our activities. We must keep quite and do our talking activities without disturbing other persons, sad to hear about that noisy person. Hope he will change his activity soon
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, I think it is very difficult to change his activity. He is behaving like this for the last 10 years and still there is no change in him. Thank you for the response.
• Indonesia
2 Oct 12
Hi.. thanks for sharing. Yes, I agree with you. The consistent personality will speak louder. People will see, who is behave as his/ her words. And vica versa. Good luck!
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, Thank you for the response.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
2 Oct 12
Making your personality louder does not solve anything. Make your personality likeable, warm and not stand-offish. People soon recognize the person in charge if you are diplomatic rather than bombastic. Listen without interrupting the person, give information that can help the majority. Never shout back; it makes you one of them.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. We should make our personality likeable, warm and acceptable. arrogant and rude people don't get respect from other people. Thank you for the response.
@pahak627 (4204)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
I agree with you. Most of us don't like this kind of person. The sad thing is that they don't know that there are people who don't like them. They continue acting arrogantly.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. Such arrogant people don't that most of the people hate them. They feel that their loud voice makes them stronger. Thank you for the response.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
Very true. In order for one to listen, you need to explain yourself in a way acceptable and not imposed.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. We should explain in acceptable way. We should not force to anyone. Thank you for the response.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
1 Oct 12
Some people are loud because they don't hear very well. Others are loud because they were raised in a boisterous family. The important thing is not to judge people by the sound of their voice, but by the content of what they say.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
2 Oct 12
Hi, The important thing is not to judge people by the sound of their voice but by their behavior. Everyone's character and personality should be good. Thank you for the response.
@naster (13)
1 Oct 12
we can find these people all the time.neglect always make it worse from my experiences,despite it's my first reaction.people of this kind are always tough to get along with,so communication has to be the last card to be played.i really don't know what to do confronted this situation.just run away? it's worth a try...
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
1 Oct 12
Hi, When we try to communicate and try to give some response to such people they begin to quarrel to explain their views and make a scene. So I always likr to neglect such people. Thank you for the response.
@prashu228 (20207)
• India
1 Oct 12
i agree, some people feel that way, they think or have this misconception that they are the ones who have the whole knowledge on this earth, such people are always avoided by others , but poor people wont realize this, yes people should know about us through our works .
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
1 Oct 12
Hi, you are right. We should be recognized by our work and by our bad behavior. thank you for the response.
@SIMPLYD (73783)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
That's true roshigo. Sometimes when a person is outwardly arrogant and so vocal, people wouldn't want to listen to him anymore. So, sometimes we have to tone down our personality so that people will be interested to listen to what we have to say. Let's be considerate of others too, not always Me, I, Myself.
@roshigo58 (4871)
• Pune, India
1 Oct 12
Hi, You are right. We should be considerate of others also. We should listen others ideas and views. We should not be boastful and selfish. We should understand others feelings also. Thank you for the response.