Asking them to drive me is like pulling teeth

@911Ricki (13602)
Canada
October 5, 2012 8:49pm CST
I asked either of my parents if I paid them to drive me to work, tonight, and tomorrow. They made it sound like I asked them to kill someone. I havent asked them to drive me anywhere except to appointment which I cant legally drive, usually once a year for my eye appointment, again on October for surgery twice (which is every 4 years). They were going to Walmart, and driving right bby my work. I was willing to meet them out of town on the way home (more convenient). My Mother is the one saying no, having every excuse, or making it sound like I asked them to drive me across the country. My Dad finally said he would drive me, but it would be about an hour early (which I said fine, even drop me off the edge of town I'll walk). I know now that I would be doing the same to them, they can find their own way. Yet, if the situation was reversed they would expect me to hand over my car no matter what or where I was going. I got my car back tonight, I got it dropped off at work, so happy about it and dont have to worry about other people and their rudeness.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
8 Oct 12
well your dad said he will drive you so if he were to need a lift are you going to spite him too?
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
8 Oct 12
I would make it just as hard, whining and drive him one way only.
• United States
6 Oct 12
Hi Ricky. I'm here just shaking my head in wonder. I wonder why your parents even laid down to have kids when they never behave in a loving manner toward you. We know they love their son, but you are seen more as someone to be tolerated and not loved at all. I Glad I was never treated that way. My parents had their issues but they never treated me like an enemy.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
6 Oct 12
I really don't know, but I know when I was done work if they had to pick me up it would interfere with their drinking time (which is probably why they were whining about it). By the time I got home they were completely drunk, and barely walking. I could see if I asked to drive me around all the time but a few times a year (and I think it was good enough reason I was going to work and my car was in the shop). My two brothers my Mom would drop everything for them, my sister my Dad would and they have. Now if I ask them, they make it sound like it's the end of the world. It's completely different line between us, I mean I have to give notice such as appointments and that's pretty much all they will do. For example my sister didnt buy her stockers for her car plates (you can be fined big here if you dont get them bby your birthday), my parents went to the town over 25 minutes north paid the $140 for them, and drove 45 minutes south and put them on her car because she didnt do it, and they didnt want her to get a ticket. On my birthday (two months later), I brought this up, I was working 7 days a week, 3 jobs and I was told to go get it myself, make time or pay the fine. But I can honestly say I can function and multi task in general they can't work, have a social life, and still meet deadlines.
@NailTech (6890)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Your parents should help you now and then if you need help. You are still their daughter and they have to love you unconditionally and all that jazz. I'm not sure who or why made them this way but for me it's just dispicable behaviour of theirs. You would have done better by asking a total stranger to drive you and pay them most likely. Such neglect people, were they always this way or did you have a better childhood, Ricki? Mine wasn't perfect either but my dad would drive me just about anywhere even if he's not feeling well. They should take some of the attention from your lil spoiled brother and give some to the other kids they gave birth to as well. I would feel so much anger towards them it would destroy me. They are not real parents in my opinion. A ride once in a while is what they are there for, especially a mother to help out her own children adult or not. Disgusting.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
6 Oct 12
Nope, it's been like this since I was a kid. We use to do skating, dance, everything now I am basically nothing without my sister. I was always told to follow in her footsteps since a kid. Once I got to teenager I went to opposite way, and since then I am nothing. We all were treated a lot differently, and especially me even bby my grandparents. My older brother was spoiled by my Mother, and grandparents he could get away with murder but at 30 he's in major debt when something goes wrong he thinks everyone else should fix it. My sister is the same way, my Dad will fix it she has no work ethic, and owes money. My younger brother is the same, cant hold a job or support himself has no responsibility. When I was 16 I was told to get a job, or I'll be nothing in life, and I still get told that. Which is why I work so many jobs, I will never ask my parents or family for money I know I wouldnt get it. So when I move out, I don't plan on getting help, which is why I'm not like the other my age pack my bag and move out when I get annoyed. I know I wont have any place to go as I wont be back here(they wouldnt let it ).
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
6 Oct 12
If it was me in that situation I'd have something to say, wouldn't let your mom just say no like that. She seems to be the one that expects you to basically bend over backwards for her, but won't even help you out a little.
@911Ricki (13602)
• Canada
6 Oct 12
That's exactly it, it wasn;t like I was asking to go out partying, I was going to work (reasonable reason for me - if someone asked and said to go to work I would then). She has that attitude, very negative as well, which is why when something goes wrong with her I wont help her at all, she can find her own way. She thinks everyone owes her something in life, that was 2 long days without a car, and I hope it doesn;t happen again.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
9 Oct 12
The relationship that you have with your mother really stinks and I am so very thankful that my relationship with my mother is a very positive relationship. With that said, I don't even live with all of my family anymore, but I will do whatever I can whenever I can when they ask me to do something for them. There have been times that I've put my plans aside to unexpectedly watch my nieces and there have been times that I have even loaned money to my little sister when she was unemployed. To me, that is an important part of being part of a family.