did you ever flirt in your job? ^^

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Portugal
October 6, 2012 2:00pm CST
hi guys did you ever flirt in your job? about me i never flirt in my jobs. mostly because i just want to do my job without confusions. also i think that if you have a relationship in your working place some people might act mean to you and your relation can be destroyed in the end. what about you guys? did you ever flirt in your job? please share ^^
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
No, I haven't and I would never. I agree with you, it will only ruin a good working environment if complications happen. It would be best if all of your colleagues are friends so as you would enjoy your stay and you could work with no problems.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
5 Feb 16
@sweetloveforeve OMG! f you haven't replied to my comment, i wouldn't have knowm Mylot is back.. I definitely agree with you thou, sadly there are people who really are backbitters and makes gossips. Hopefully they would mind their own business.
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
yes gaiza but sadly everywhere there are good and bad people. even sometimes we are just friends with a colleague that is a guy and people start to gossip. we could even end up losing our boyfriend because of lies that people create. so dating in my job i didnt think about that ever.
• Portugal
9 Oct 16
@gaiza12 yes its been such a long time how have you been? How is your work going?
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
6 Oct 12
Thanks for posting this discussion over here. Well i completely agree to your point. What is the logic behind flirting at your workplace where your motto should be only work. I find this very annoying when people start making relationships at their work places. i mean what is the need of merging both personal and professional lives together. They should be kept separate from each other as much as possible. What say?
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
subhojit10 i agree with you. its not good to be always like 24 hours with the person we love. even though we love to be with him all the time its good to have also our personal space to do our things. we need our independency also. and spend 24 hours with our lover could end up ruining our relationship.
• Portugal
5 Feb 16
@ravisivan i agree with you. its sad that in india it happens that way. but i understand because people spend most part of their day in work and is normal that they start to like someone who works with him. but i avoid those situations and thank god where i work i just have three colleagues that are men and i dont feel attracted to any of them.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
6 Oct 12
subhojit Work and love should be separated. But in the software companies --leading indian companies also --people get married, get separated, get rejoined . it has become routine. About 40 years ago it was an unwritten law husband and wife shall not be posted in the same branch for work.
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
7 Oct 12
I one time work in the same company as my boyfriend , they watch us so much . We flirt because we know each other before volunteering at the same business . If it was other circumstance that I was single and working , I would not mix my working life with personal life . I keep those two as separate as possible . I dont want any co-worker to be flirting with me because I am not into that .
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
yes but in your case it was different. he was already your boyfriend so sure you wouldnt pretend that you didnt know him but i worked with a girl in the past, that she told me that she and her boyfriend worked in the same place but no one there ever knew that they were lovers. just when she left into a different place they knew that they were together. she told me that she prefered like that so no one would create gossips and their relationship was more secure that way and she was right.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
I never flirted with my colleagues or my boss, maybe because i never found them interesting at all! If they were, i would have flirted! Kidding aside, in our workplace before, we try to avoid romantic relationships because it could affect the job performance. However, there are still those who got involved with their colleagues and some were rumored having an affair with our boss.
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
aw toni that happens everywhere ahah in the most part of places there is always one or two persons that have affairs with their boss anyway im happy that you didnt have a crush in any of your colleagues. its complicated because sadly in most part of places people have colleagues who create gossips and lies and you might end up losing your boyfriend cause of that.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
Heyah dear miss you :) It's been few days of not seeing you! I never flirted at my working place yet. Because when I entered the office, I was the youngest and the youngest among the males are 3-4 years ahead of me XD THey are just like old brothers to me. I show respect to them so they wouldn't try to getting near me at all.. And your problem about the failing relationships? Yes i saw some here at the office ;/ and it seems not fun to meet each other on the hallway pretending to be strangers :S
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
i missed you too i was away from mylot for a really long time. i found a job and it kept me very busy. anyway how are you doing? any boyfriend? about me i dont have a boyfriend even though i like someone are you still working in the same place dear? im working as a receptionist now.
• United States
7 Oct 12
I have flirted at my current job and at other jobs as well because I don't see it as harmful. Now there is a difference between a little bit and throwing yourself at some one. I work at a water park and I talk to a lot of different people from around the world so it is nothing. I could say something as innocent as guys working out a lot and being cute. That is nothing and people don't think much of it. I will also flatter the woman about the fact that their boyfriends or husbands are lucky and what not. There is not crime there. I will flirt a little with coworkers but I know that there is a line because I see them everyday. Nothing has ever come of it and no one has ever gotten upset. There has no confusion about my job and I work hard. Now I also know that I wouldn't put myself in the place of working with some one I am in a relationship with because that could lead to jealousy even if I wasn't intentionally flirting. Even if you don't mean to flirt people sometimes flirt a little unintentionally.
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
yes i understand what you mean. but having a relationship in our job is very complicated because people start to create lies and you could end up losing your boyfriend. so im happy that you do innocent flirting what is very normal but dont have a serious relationship with a coworker
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
7 Oct 12
Hi sweet love, actually coming to me I definitely flirt in my job. I work in a reputed company and as a senior ENGINEER I have to move all Patsy of INDIA. So, when I move to that company I will flirt their employees to get my work done. If I am in normal way I didn't use to get response. So everything in my life has changed from then onwards.
• Portugal
9 Oct 16
I see. So to get the best to your company you flirt.well there are many ways to get what we want and yes many people usuaaly in big companies use seduction as a weapon.did you have sucess so far?
@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
hi sweetloveforeve! i do not date nor even flirt with women that i work it. just a hard rule on my part. i never want to mix romance and work. i have nothing against couples who find love in the work place. all the best to them but i myself would not be part of one. my life is already complicated as it is. cheers and happy mylotting!!!
• Portugal
5 Feb 16
i agree with you i understand those who can do that but i wouldnt at all. i mean even if sometimes we are just friends with a colleague that happens to be a guy they create stories. imagine if it was really true there are always gossips in work places and i rather have my boyfriend out of confusions. i wouldnt want to lose my boyfriend because of misunderstandings when i have one.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
6 Oct 12
Nope, I have flirted in the work place or even never dated anyone in the work place. I agree that it is not a good idea to flirt while in the work place, it would give some people the wrong idea. And maybe even some jobs request that you not date or flirt with anyone that you work with.
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• Portugal
5 Feb 16
yes its better not to flirt with people in our work place. we can meet people outside of it and have a relationship. but if we date someone that works with us is very complicated. sadly people create lies and most part of relationships might get ruined and that would be really heartbreaking
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 Oct 12
No I did not. Job is job, private life is private life. I also never talked about home, my kids etc at my job.
• Portugal
9 Oct 16
You do the right thing :) our life should be kept private.sadly some people in our works sometimes seem our friends until we find out that they are fake and they can use informations that we gave them about our private life to try to destroy us.is sad but is the reality we live in.so im happy you do thatto protect yourself.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
6 Oct 12
I have not flirted at work as well. I agree with what trisha said. actually I have seen that many people have affairs with workmates but for me it is a bad idea. There was a girl at my work when i was working, she was engaged but was flirting with a guy who was our workmate. she was not acting decent at all. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
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• Portugal
9 Oct 16
If she was committed she should respect her boyfriend. Sadly there are many girls like that.did the guy also flirt with her or did he ignore her? Have a good day too
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
No I am not, first thing is, all workers from my first job are all women. I am just happy being with my co-workers and we really had a good time. I love my job and I enjoyed what I had with them. I am just normally treating them as a friend of mine.
• Portugal
9 Oct 16
You just have women in your work? Well then they cant say that you and a guy are having something ahah im happy that you like your job and that they treat you well.have a good weekend