Wallowing in my own self hatred

Liechtenstein
October 7, 2012 8:39am CST
Sometimes I feel like my skills weren't good enough or I felt I can never improve. So sometimes, I was busy hating my skills while doing what I have to do. My friends were better than me at what their doing and I wanted to reach their level. But it's difficult unfortunately because of the lack of motivation sometimes. (But I still force myself to carry on anyway)
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@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
7 Oct 12
Busy hating your skills? What a waste of good energy. Perhaps you should ask yourself if your "road" is not a different one as you have in mind. Might be there is nothing wrong with your skill but with the way you use them or refuse to use them. A lack of motivation is already a prove of that.
• Liechtenstein
8 Oct 12
Not really busy hating it. I mean when I was doing my work I keep thinking "this is bad, this is bad" (But when I'm not doing work I didn't think about that, I only think about sleeping, playing video games, etc) Yeah, but sometimes I feel like I'm better than most of the population in a certain site that showcase they same skills as me. (I'm weird)
• Canada
10 Oct 12
Hi, I feel for you trinity, in life we tend to try to chase the better things out there, better job, better house, friends, career, etc..First thing I would do is to NOT compare yourself with other people..Everyone is different, what ever skill you may , one of your friends may not have...We all have a different purpose in life..Asking God to give you guidance and ask for what his will for you is. Meditation and quiet moments are good for your well being. I feel that when I'm trying to get online work but i seem to be not getting a lot of invitation for jobs, I try to move on to the next one..i try not let it get to me. I know also the fact that i haven't been in school for a long time. My solution for that is to take more schooling or take a couple of online courses..It will take some time for me because I have debts to pay off it will take some patience, motivation, support from my husband, and those who care about me..I'm sure there are a lot of people who loves you very much and who care for you as well.. Try to find something that you enjoy and relaxing...Like going for a walk, reading a book, or engaging in sports..Not only it is good for you physically and emotionally, and mentally as well..
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I have the same problems. If you keep thinking negatively, then you will find it hard to improve. keep thinking positively and don't look at your friends. you should focus on your own skills not theirs. don't feel inferior because you see them as better than you. you are probably better at other things than they are so don't let it upset you. fight!
@Traycee (34)
• United States
9 Oct 12
Why do you say that your friends are better at what they are doing? Don't compare yourself to others. We are each our own person. EVERYBODY is good at something in their life. You just haven't found your niche yet.In my opinion, maybe you need to start an excersize routine. That will get you motivated and also, get you pumped at doing what you like to do. Find something that you are interested in and make a go of it! Maybe you aren't as good at what others are doing, but, I bet you can find something that you outshine them all at!!You would be a much happier person. Turn that frown up-side-down!! I hope I hear back from you that you have found that perfect something made just for you!! :)
• Philippines
8 Oct 12
Truth be told, you cannot be good at anything without paying the price or just by wishful thinking. Instead of wasting your time envying your friends, why not work on improving yourself? Reading, though boring for many people, is an important element of learning. Good luck.
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
7 Oct 12
Its best not to compare yourself with others if this is what it causes. Our role in life is different than any one else in the world. We may not be as good or as sucessful or as talented in something. But we have our own things that we will excell at more than someone else too.
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
hi! Its not a good thing to compare ourselves with others because there will always be someone better than us. THis gives us a feeling of inferiority most of the time. I suggest you just enjoy doing what you love. Everyone has a gift and talent. Focus on that. I believe that GOd is fair in giving everyone unique talents and giftings, you just need to discover and unleash that potential hidden in you. :D
@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
7 Oct 12
I know what you feel, I have depression and anxiety disorder and am on medication for it, and a lot of my fear is from the fear of failing, fear of rejection, and feeling like I'm not good enough, and can't measure up to other people's standards. Motivation is a big thing for me because I tend to look at something and get discouraged right away. Not a very good frame of mind to be in, that's for sure. I wish I can help, I mean there's bound to be some gov't programmes that can help you on your feet, and social workers that can work with you and such. And it's ok to reach out for help, I do it myself, I tell the professionals what I'm going through and sometimes there are some resources out there that can alleviate whatever situation I'm going through. In the United States there's a help line you can dial 211 I hope that helps as well. Best of luck to you.