What are your opinions of infidelity?

Puerto Rico
October 8, 2012 3:07pm CST
Mine? Simple and short, NOT forgivable. Why? 1. If you really love a person, you will consider him/her therefore, you won't act in such a way in the first place. 2. You = forgive cheaters? Be prepared to be cheated on the rest of your days in that relationship. 3. Basically, if you cheat, you can turn around, and walk away, if you really love and respect someone, you WON'T be careless of the sensitivity and fidelity of the relationship. Simple. What are YOUR thoughts? :)
8 responses
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
I detest this act very much. Many relationships, marriages and families are being ruined by this act. It's like killing someone while it's back is turned. It's cowardice. He/she should have been brave enough to admit that he/ she no longer love her/his partner rather than staying and being in love with someone else. One wouldn't be able to do infidelity if he/she is still in love with their partner.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
15 Oct 12
I think it's completely wrong, unforgivable, the person who cheats is a coward, shouldn't be trusted. We can control our selves because we have full control of our thoughts but many like to blame on something and we are only seduced if we want. Am I being looked at? I can move my eyes away, there's along way of allowance before we fall into temptation, they just let it happenen.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
10 Oct 12
I think people who don't commit to their words are weak and kind of deserve whatever they get, I don't feel sorry for them. I think it's evil to do something behind someone's back, it doesn't matter humanity don't consider it a crime. If we commited we can't just go there and do whatever we want, plus even if the cheater don't realize he/she is loosing their selfesteem and respect little by little.
@GemmaR (8526)
9 Oct 12
I don't think that anybody should ever cheat on their partner. I hear that marriages break up all of the time for this reason and I just don't see that there is any point in it at all. One of the things that I always say is that if you were happy in a relationship and if you loved your partner then there is no way that you would cheat on them. If you were not happy, and you felt as though you wanted to be with somebody else, then you should try to talk to your partner about it and end your relationship with them before moving on to another person.
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
Infidelity for me is a Big NO NO! The reason that you are together is that because there is LOVE, RESPECT and TRUST. But when my partner cheated it is automatically "we are off" meaning if you are happy with your others why should I insist my self and beg you not to do it again. For me if my partner cheat for the first time it means that even if I forgive him that doesn't mean that he will never do that again. Maybe now he will not do it again but it is still possible that in the future if he feels you trust him again maybe he will cheat again. And I have this attitude that "yes I can forgive but I can never forget". Even if I told myself that "forgive and forget" there is still a chance that all the bad things happen echoes through my brain.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
8 Oct 12
1. there is no need to cheat. If you are not interested in your partner/someone anymore just say so and leave. 2 It's easier to say you forgive someone as do it for real. In reality you seldom do and stay alert, so this will spoil your life (and probably someone else's as well. So be honest. Say you can't and it will take time to find out if you want to make a new start/go on with that person and fool yourself again. 3. You will hardly find someone able to really love, most of us are not even able to love ourselves. If you can't do that, if you cheat on yourself as well, you won't be able to love someone else either.
@Traycee (34)
• United States
8 Oct 12
I don't know where you are from, but, where I am from there is this show on television that is called "Cheaters". What they do is have a private detective actually follow the person that's accused of cheating and they tape/film where and what the person does. Then, they show the person who has been cheated on the film. Then, they take the person cheated on, where their partner is cheating and catch them in the act. That is SOOOOOO what I would do if I had an idea that my partner was cheating!! No if's, and's or but's. There would be no trust left what-so-ever!!!
• United States
8 Oct 12
I agree with you 100%. There is no going back on cheating. If you cheat, you clearly don't love the person you are with as much as they love you. I could never get over being cheated on. That has to be the most demeaning thing in the entire world. How could you continue to be with that person. I would imagine visions of them being with someone else flashing through your mind, never trusting them again, giving them no privacy...that's no kind of life for anyone. From that point forward, everything they said or did, you would question and you probably wouldn't believe them anyway. I'm in total sync with you. 100% unforgivable AND unforgettable act!