When a Gay fall in and out of love....

Cebu, Philippines
October 12, 2012 10:04am CST
I am genuinely woman myself however, most of my closed friends are gay. I find them jolly and very cool to be with. We can talk anything, argue things and exchanged opinions. Some of them harsh enough and some leads to debate. Bottom line, I'm cool with it, I love them so much. It's just that, I don't understand when they fall in love. Why? Because, first both of them are my closed friends, they've been together for almost 2 years. They recently broke up and of course, just like any other relationships there are bad things have been said and hurtful words to each partner at the same time it's painful to let go of the things that has been shared between them. Since they live in one roof, the other partner needs to move out and look for another place to stay. Three weeks after, they meet again, and emotions flashed back and one of them got new partner but the other remains single as he cannot move on and still loving secretly to his ex-boyfriend and hurting inside which I know because he keep on telling me and confiding it with me over and over but still I never get tired listening to him. I know how it feels to be left out with no one to cuddle you at night. I'm torn how the other person treat him as cold as ice... like a stranger from nowhere. I don't know what to tell or say about every time the other partner doing cheesy stuff with new partner. Yes, it's been awhile and still he cannot get over it. Is it really possible for gay men to fell in love and have this kind of emotion just like girls? I find it ironic. Seeing him getting jealous like hell is heart breaking. I feel stressed out too but can't leave him like that. :( Help!
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@jaiho2009 (39028)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Love stories are not the same (always) Some are lucky and some are not. I have gay friends too who have success story with their lovelife- while some end up with heart break. I understand it also affect you emotionally seeing a friend in pain- no matter how you want to console him/her, still we know that deep inside it's breaking them into pieces.
@riyauro (6431)
• India
12 Oct 12
I always thought it would be normal because I have seen some boys fall in love like this where they could not forget their love. anyway you have to make him realize that it was not meant to be for him so he must get over it now. he has to. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
@Asylum (48339)
• Manchester, England
12 Oct 12
Sadly this is human nature, and there are often separations where one partner is struggling to accept the loss while the other is carrying on with a new life. The fact that they are gay is irrelevant, they are human beings and shall always behave and feel as such. There is very little that you can do, except to be a good friend and console him. It would seem unfair to criticise the person who has moved on unless you are aware of some terrible act that he has committed to cause the break up. If twp friends split up it is usually best to remain friendly with both, and taking sides will simply generate hostility towards yourself.
@urbandekay (18312)
12 Oct 12
Why is it harder to understand then when a normal couple fall in or out of love? all the best urban