Is this good way to interfere between two persons to solve their quarrel?

Hi dear I think it is usual in a joint family, where others also interrupt the quarrel or any arguments in between husband and wife. In my opinion, this interruption has its own advantages and disadvantages. Same time I agree with your opinion too, husband and wife will settle their arguments by their own very quickly if nobody interrupt. Sometime the interruptions make the problem worse. But the depth of the problem is high then interruptions may be needed and the family members can help to find out who is wrong (here the family members should play a vital role irrespective of their relation, I mean they should support the right person).

I feel what you say is exactly right. We should give up and stay quiet until our hubby becomes cool minded. We should give some time till his anger reduces because the more we argue the fight may increase. So stay quiet for some time and he will realise his mistake and return back to us after few hours. We need not take any third party's involvement in our personal life and we ourselves can solve it.

My husband's temper is always the issue in my family. He sometimes can't control his temper. My son gets scolded usually. I think he's still adjusting in his studies. It's only his 3rd year as a pupil. I think he isn't still old enough what is good for him. He's still playful so he sometimes forgets his duties as as a pupil. My husband usually compares him to the other students. That's when we argue with each other. He sometimes hits our son in front of me and I don't like that. He should talk to him in...

sometimes being silent is a good thing. especially in family allegations, we have to pay silence as much as possible, because, today they will be angry, tomorrow they will be friendly with us, because they are our family.

Hi, Intervention in an argument is an art. It should be exercised cautiously in order not to aggravate the situation. Being on the local mediation board in our place, I know too well the sentiments, emotions and what the two ultimately parties want: to arrive at a good compromise between their differences in opinion. This is the only way that a third party should intervene, in that manner, the conflict can be addressed in a rational manner but only if the two parties are willing to have it. At the height of emotional outburst, physical harm to one or both contending party is the only reason for using direct intervention short of using force to prevent it. Otherwise, let the words fly freely for all the neighbors to hear, words can't kill, irrational people do.

hi surekha, I think if partners fight it should be the two of us it is better if no family member will see it so they can solve it, it is fine the the elder one will give advice to them as a parents to fix things up but not good if making the situation worst. happy mylotting

I think that usually it is for the best to stay out of other people's arguments, but sadly sometimes they just cannot seem to solve their own problems which means that other people need to get involved. I have been in this position a lot before because my two best friends were dating and they would fight all of the time. I got myself into quite a lot of trouble over it because I had to take sides, so now when I know that people are falling out with each other there is just no way that I will give an opinion because of the fact that it only gets me into trouble.

No, I don't believe coming in between their matters would do any good, but in fact it is going to worsen the problem in most cases. I don't think we should interfere unless they are about to kill one another, and I mean literally. I personally feel quite awkward jumping into such matters and trying to solve it. It's best to leave them for themselves to solve, but yes if you see a way out you can steer them both by being neutral. Everything depends you know, sometimes one party is doing awfully bad and sometimes we need to support the righteous one because sometimes the other on behalf of authority simply tries to take an advantage over others, like in some cases the husband even though he maybe wrong but he tries to put it over his wife and take control, that is completely wrong. So everything depends on the situation, but in normal cases it is best to leave those matters to themselves to solve like proper responsible adults.

If it is needed, I guess there is nothing wrong to make two people solve their problem. There are instances that we must interfere especially to our family members. We do not want to see anyone having trouble or quarreling inside our family.

I know that there are a lot of times that a couple will want to bring someone else into the picture to try to get the fight to come to an end quicker. However, I don't think that this is ever the right solution to take when a couple quarrels. The reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that it is much more difficult to work issues out if you are not granted the privacy to work through your problems. I always try to not get involved when friends of mine are in a fight and I don't have friends step in when I am involved in a quarrel with my husband either.

You are correct and I fully agree with you in this regards. To be on the safer side better remain quite and leave both husband & wife to solve their problem between themselves, after all they are husband & wife. If third person like you had said if in laws step and start arguing in between there may be the chance that son inlaw may take it seriously resulting into insulting his in laws. Better wait till both calm down and if required later asked the reason for their fight and if possible try to solve their problem. By doing so as in law you will retain your respect rather then getting insulted when the discussion is hot.

When my parents are into a fight or even a pseudo-fight, I don't interfere. First, it is their business as husband and wife. As a child born from that union, I might have an idea but not the whole idea of what they are fighting about. Second, it is trespassing to their relationship,which I have I witnessed but it a personal affair all the same. Third, as you said they will calm down and talk. They just need to vent. Every one needs that even couples who are not even married yet. SO no, I don;t interfere but I do have a sense when things go wrong. I respect them enough and acknowledge that they are much mature than me when it comes to these things. I just need to survive the loud and the noise.

I think if a married couple is having an argument, their family and friends must not jump in and meddle with their affairs. It is their business, it is their life, and they can resolve it on their own. The only way they can somehow get involved is when the couple turns to them for advices and that's it. They should limit their involvement otherwise, the argument will never end. Too many opinions, too many words, will just make the matter worse.

You're right! Other people are not supposed to interfere into someone's fight. Because it will just make the situation worst rather than giving them a help. Besides, they should have learn to solve their problems on their own.