What is fair and what is not?
By bembzee
@bembzee (768)
Philippines
October 16, 2012 11:10am CST
Their are many circumstances that i often don't understand. You are being judged by others and call names to describe you awfully. Yet when you tries to hit back and triple the insult it back fires you. When someone cheated you and you try to get even, it doesn't look fair. When you tries to make your enemy your most enemy it looks like you are the worst person to do that. So what is fair? To allow your enemy to mock you? To make friends to your worst nightmare? Or to forgive and forget those who hurt you and make a fool of you? Tell me. What is fair and what is not, then?
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3 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Don't think of revenge- there is one Power who will give justice in the right time.
Instead, do it the other way (reverse psychology )
When someone cheated you, insulted you or did something wrong- do them good and show them care.
That way, you are giving them more insult to their-selves.
@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Hello jaiho. I guess what you said is not applicable to me. It's kinda hard to just do it. I am very temperamental and i easily voice out my feelings. I can be a very good friend but i can be a worst enemy too. Is that wrong? My mom often tells me to calm down and said i had to watch my mouth.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
I understand about it.
Not everyone is calm and soft like the others.
I am one of those who are temperamental- but in the long run from experiences,
I have observed that, the more we fight or say something bad to our enemies- the more they keep annoying us.
So, I do the reverse technique- instead of fighting them back or saying any bad words, I keep quiet and whenever I got the time to see them I smile at them.
Offer them something when they're on my way- treat them well- the result is- they avoid me and stop saying any words.
I won...they stop irritating me and they just shut their mouth as well.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Oct 12
hi jaiho just c ame to me after reading what you s ay what my mom
really meant. treat them with kindness and confound your enemy.In other words do the opposite and overcome them with you
r sweetness and maybe shame them so they slink off and do not say anything.great way to handle it.
r sweetness and maybe shame them so they slink off and do not say anything.great way to handle it. @Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Oct 12
hi bembzee here when you get a response that is really mean you do feel ready to let go with your wrath but best to not flip out, instead you hit the report tab and let the my lot admins to
sort it out.yes I too wonder a lot at what is fair, I mean if
you have been mocked and yow know you have a right to be angry
what the heck are you supposed to do? I feel like a wuss if
I always swallow it back and do nothing but if I fight back
then it looks like I must have deserved it.perhaps we need to
forgive and not forget and if it happens again,fight back.
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
16 Oct 12
i feel like a fool if i do a thing like that and end up regretting everything afterwards. i have told myself several times to count to three before saying anything rash when someone calls me names or says things which i do not like and which irritates me visibly and physically, but sometimes, it's so hard not to fight back but as has been said, i do not even win at all because i find that i am not the sort to say bad things or negative things to people. i'd rather tell them their weaknesses in private. i always lose if i do that, so i'd rather not.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
That is the sad truth of life coz even though how much we want to live a peaceful life, still there will be people who will try to make your life miserable, thus testing your patience. It is hard to be fair at all times most especially when we are badly hurt by these people. It is sometimes okay to fight back just to prove them wrong. Whether they tell you that what you did was fair or not, the most important thing is you have proved them wrong.
