one way relationship

Philippines
October 25, 2012 9:25am CST
A good relationship is when both parties are exchanging , meaning giving and taking love, somewhat two way. It is healthy when both of them know that are truly, madly, deeply inlove to each other. When both are give their effort to make the relationship last. But, now, its hard to find a relationship like that. I wish to have one. Well, for so many years, i can say, im part of a one way relationship. And that's really pathetic. Ha ha. Though I'm not committed to anybody, im doing stupid things for somebody. And that is never good. Im hit many times with stone, not just a small one but a big chunk of stone or should i say stones, yet im still blinded by my love? no i should say infatuation. . . . huhuhuh.. i want to get rid of this feeling. Do you have same experiences like I do? Or have you ever enter a one way relationship? How to escape from this kind of situation? Is it easy?
9 responses
@marguicha (78388)
• Chile
25 Oct 12
A one way relationship is not a relationship. Your counterpart will never get involved with you if he didn`t do it before. So I would move on. Two ways relationships exist. And what you feel is not real love as love is walking side by side with your love looking ahead and not looking dazzled at your lover`s eyes. It`s not easy to escape, but, by all means, try to do it.
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
Yes, i will.,. so far its been a month since i didn't make a move to see him. And neither him. That's why its more painful.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
25 Oct 12
A relationship where both are truly, madly, deeply in love to each other is rare. Mostly one is and that person is thinking the other one is feeling the same. Fact is people are different. Also fact is that both partners seldom invest the same into their relationship. Mostly one is always the one who is caring, giving, giving in, giving up. It just takes time to realize that and mostly if someone does it is because he/she feels empty or lonesome. To get rid of that feeling plus not doing "stupid things" anymore the only way is to know who you are first. To set your own goals and go for that. Not to give up your life, friends, carreer because of someone. If that partner can't accept that get out of that relationship as fast as you can. Since these kind of people will for sure NOT give up their life, friends, family, domicile for you.
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
Thats actually the situation. I know at the end of the day, He will never ever give up any of his things. And not even sharing it . So now, i'm trying to get out. And move on, but it always makes me cry. Seems everything reminds me of him and my stupidity.
• Bangladesh
25 Oct 12
Infatuation. - Love gets infatuated.
Looks like you know everything about love as if you are a love mistress. I would say unfortunately you got infatuated.lol
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
ahaha.. i laugh out after reading your response. Nope. I'm absolutely not a mistress. Its just that i'm crazy to somebody i dont wanna love.
• Belgium
25 Oct 12
The best way to escape is by talking. If you don't do that there will never be a sollution. Or you have to be hard and bannish the feelings or the person out of your life. Life can be hard sometimes :(
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
i did the first one u said, and it didn't work. Though seems like the feeling's mutual, it ended like, im just trying to believe in lies. So, I wish to really vanish that person in my life. And move on. If only that is as easy as I can say. .
@lady1993 (13032)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
i have never been in a one way relationship.. since i do not like it at all. You should totally get out of that. maybe if you do, he would know what you really mean to him.. If not, then you will be open to finding a better person.
• China
26 Oct 12
It will never has a good ending for the one way relationship.In your case I think you should tell the one you love and get a exactly answer,if he/she do not show any interest on you then I think you should get over him/her and move on.Next will be the best,There is plenty more fish in the sea.
• Bangladesh
25 Oct 12
Looks like you know everything about love as if you are a love mistress. I would say unfortunately you got infatuated.lol
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
I understand your situation. I have been in that situation also. It is really hard but after quite sometime I realized that it's unfair. I realized that I have to myself and forget that person. It took me a couple of months.I don't care even if I don't have sleep or I am tired, the most important is I can be with that person. Most of the time, I sacrifice even important occasion in my life, in my family just to be with her. Afterwards, i realized that what I am doing is all crazy things. and should do something about it. I'm glad that I am already moving on to the situation. I am now ready to accept that I can't be with that person forever. Acceptance is the best thing to do to be happy.
@berting600 (3461)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
It is good that you have already realized the bad effects of loving as one sided only,is never as effective as you both love each other.When you are just the one who keeps on giving your love,there are tendencies you would be blinded and never know what to do next,and the next time you know you are already over love and was just left behind because your beloved one have seen the real love to somebody else and that is never you.You better watch out your feelings first before going mad about your love.