When efforts aren't appreciated anymore...

@sharksfin (1098)
Philippines
October 27, 2012 10:44am CST
Am not sure if it's just me or what but I find maintaining relationships a bit tedious. Especially, when you give more effort and others don't. For me it's a sacrifice one gives when s/he truly loves a person. Not necessarily love relationship. Any relationship for that matter. Particularly friendship. Sometimes, I just want to lay low in giving effort just to maintain relationships. I had shared several times how the network signal is so bad in my unit so it takes a lot of effort for me to keep in touch with friends. Not that I am expecting some things in return. It's more of, is it really hard to send even just a short reply? If I can find a way to stay in touch with the situation in my area, why can't they? Maybe they have reasons, ok. But, to never receive any reply is totally questionable. At times, I get to think that I am not receiving any reciprocation at all. It's a reflection that I don't matter as much I they do to me. Which brings me into thinking that maybe I better change the way I give attention to them. Like I said, I don't do things to get something in return but I guess when there's really nothing being given back, I better start thinking twice. Maybe, it's time that I focus my attention on other people who might give the same importance to me. Start better relationships with other individuals who understand the importance of the efforts exerted by another person. What do you think?
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9 responses
• India
28 Oct 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, we must give importance to our friends, in the same way our friends must reciprocate it for us, if our friend is not interested in reciprocating the care and affection as well as never send any replies to our messages then it clearly shows they don't give importance to us and there is no use in keeping friendship with such kind of persons. Better to avoid them and reciprocate their activities
@jenny1015 (13398)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I know how you feel. Been on that situation myself. So I just five them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they are "just busy". Ar first, I was so annoyed, but after a few months, I have gotten used to it. Couldn't force them to be in touch all of the time,if they don't want to, right?
@WakeUpKitty (8717)
• Netherlands
28 Oct 12
There is no reason to waste time/energy and invest in others if they don't do the same for you. Better invest time and energy in yourself.
@bingskee (5241)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
getting no response is being ignored, if there isn't a reason why. if it happens most of the time, then you are being ignored (am sorry to even say these words). i am often reminded that if there is a will, there is a way, and this applies to everybody, lover, loved ones, friends, co-worker, etc. it serves us when we give the benefit of the doubt but we also have to be wary or careful not to be hurting ourselves too much because others just won't care. have a good day!
@Raine38 (8655)
• United States
28 Oct 12
Some people are really lousy when it comes to showing theirs appreciation to others, especially those who are closest to their hearts. But I think if that person's really important to you, what's a few minutes of your time to call and say thanks, or a few seconds to text that you care, or even an hour of 1 day in a week just to spend some time and make that person feel special? We all treat our loved ones differently, but I think we should not take them for granted. If you think you can no longer feel wanted or appreciated, then the best thing that you can do is move on and try to focus your attention to others who would treat you differently. There will come a time that they will know how valuable someone is to them when the lose them, often it would be too late.
@GemmaR (8527)
27 Oct 12
I am working from home at the moment because of the fact that I am struggling to find a job, and one of the things that I am doing in order to help me to do my bit around the house without actually paying any money, because I don't have enough of it to spare at this moment in time. I think that you should be talking to the person who you are making an effort for and tell them how you feel, because at the end of the day it is important that they realise just how much of an effort you're putting into things for their benefit.
@srjac0902 (1170)
• Italy
27 Oct 12
Love is mutual or reciprocal, if one loves deeply then he/she cannot resaist without communicating, will never find peace without communicating. Sometimes selfishness may creep in that is if the medium of communication is too low, if it takes hours to send a messege then he/she may not have the patience to sit by also for the reason is that love is selfish, wants to receive and feels no obligation to return it back. When one love, some may never treat with gift or money exchange but only the interaction of the heart. There is no material exchange but the craving for the emotional exchage is so deep, then one must chek for the genuine expression.
• Bangladesh
27 Oct 12
If he dont feel you then think he is not right for you. Just move ahead. Perfect thing will go to perfect place.
@mariaperalta (19226)
• Mexico
27 Oct 12
I had that same deal with my ex. he always told me thanks and things for what I did for him. Then one day- i wasnt doing enough for him. All went downhill from there. Guess thats why we arent married anymore. His loss, not mine.