The most important relationship in your life.

@GemmaR (8526)
October 28, 2012 8:27am CST
I think that when people think about relationships, they automatically think about romantic ones that you might have with your partner who you would like to have children with. However, I have always believed that the most important relationship in your life is the one that you have with your Mother. She is the first one that you have any contact with during the course of your life, and she will be the one who looks after you when you're not able to look after yourself. This means that you have the chance to get closer to her than to anyone else, and she treats you badly then this will have a very negative effect on the rest of your life. I have always got on well with my Mother, and I know that I am lucky to be able to say this as I do know of a lot of people who either don't have their parents any more, or didn't get on with them when they were growing up. I can only hope that I am able to have this type of relationship with my children when I have them. What is your relationship like with your Mother? How has she changed your life over the years? Would you want to do anything different when you have children of your own?
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@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Relationship that I treasure in life is my relationship to my family (parents and siblings), friends and most of all my own family (my husband and daughter). Mom is important but so is Dad, the two should go along together but I also believe that not all things happen the way it should be. There are those children who loves their dad more than their mom because it is their dad that they develop deeper relationship. Some also of course is more of their Mom for some reason. But for me it would be the two not only one. Mom can't do it alone, and definitely dad can't do it alone either. I have a daughter now, so hubby and I talked most often about her and how we would raise her up. We both will take and extra effort to develop our relationship with her. Hubby and I agreed that we would build up each other with our daughter. She must love us both not only mom or not only dad. We promise not to get jealous as well when one of us is being treated better than the other but instead build the one that is being left behind. Nowadays, parents are likely to compete with their relationship towards their kids specially when the later is able to give them their needs. :)) thanks for sharing your thoughts!
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
30 Oct 12
leeandrew: Good for you and your husband! It is not always easy to have that attitude. Sometimes, human nature takes over and we become jealous. It is of course better for your daughter if you and her father are always presenting a united front and showing her that each of you are valuable people in the family. Children learn so much more than a lot of people realize they do. They really do watch and listen to everything and have an excellant sense of what is being left unsaid as well. Parents should not be in competition with each other, but, in completion one of the other.
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
My first relationship back when I was 16 I believe is the most important relationship that I've ever had. I learned from my mistakes back then and that has improved my life significantly and also now I am wiser compared to what I was before. I am thankful even though that relationship did not worked well. I am still thankful that I have another chance to love in my present. That's what life is all about, it's about learning from mistakes and experience.
@GemmaR (8526)
28 Oct 12
It is good that you have managed to learn things from your past relationship, and I have always said that this is one of the most important things that we have to do. Often, it doesn't matter what happens to us, as long as we learn something from it which means that we can do things better in the future. Our first relationship is often where we learn a lot of these lessons, because we have never been with people before so this is the first time that we have had the chance to be able to properly think about how we should be doing things.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
1 Nov 12
I loved my mother. In fact, everyone that met my mother liked her. I'm afraid I'm not nearly as nice as my mother. She was always supportive, ready to help me if I needed it. Since I decided to not have children I'm afraid that its too late to have a good relationship with any and I did not live close enough to have one with my brother's child. I miss my mother.
@lady1993 (19729)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
I think the most important relationship in my life are with my family.. especially my parents.. since they have been there for me 24/7 ever since the day i was born. I cherish both of them..
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I've been lucky to have always had a great relationship with my mother and I definitely have to agree with you that a person's relationship with their mother is one of the most important relationships that we have in our lives and the first really important relationship that we have in our lives. In many ways my mother has always been like a friend to me, but now that I'm older, she is one of my best friends. Now that I am a mother of my own children, I'm trying to have the same kind of relationship with them as I've been lucky to have with my mother.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
30 Oct 12
The most important relationship in my life is the one I have with my God. Without Him, all the other relationships in my life would not exist. I believe that it is because of my mother's most important relationship was also with God. My mother played many major roles in my life: hero, friend, counselor are but a very few. She taught me the biblical meaning of the phrase unconditional love. I thank God for giving me such a blessing as my mom. She has gone to be with the Lord now, but I am secure in knowing that I will see her again. She will always be an inspiration to me. I hope that when people look at my children, they see my mother's influence and love in them. The second most important relationship in my life today is my husband. He is my friend and confidant. He supports me in all that I do. Some people would fault me for not putting my children above my husband, but the Lord established the level of importance and I do my best to abide by His instructions.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Oct 12
Amen to what you have posted. My relationship with my mother (thank God) is indeed the best relationship I have ever had so far. And I don't think there's going to be anyone who can beat it. I am actually my father's daughter, I'll always be. But I never thought that I would need and be close with her more than anything in this world. She has been a very great mom on Earth and I am really grateful for that. I can't feel more blessed. What makes me sad is that I can't be the best daughter she has always wanted me to be but I will try not to disappoint her too often. We fight often, of course. What else can a mother and daughter do? But she's also the one who I go for a shelter for any trouble that I have created or faced. When I have my own children someday, I won't change anything she has taught me for my entire life. I would really make her my role model in educating my children. Maybe I would need to improve it a little bit as a lot of things have changed today, but everything would be based on what she has taught me.
@mydanods (6749)
• Nigeria
29 Oct 12
the most important relationship i have had...there is none yet. i cherish every relationship i have. i think i tend towards having good relationships with people who care about responsibility and about others. selfish and arrogant people turn me off. as for the most important, where it concerns humans, i there are so many of them.
• United States
29 Oct 12
I lost my mom in 2005. She and I were very close. I would be happy to see her when she came to school, I mean Highschool. The one time I keep remembering is that she took a cab to my work , Just to give me my umbrella! I also will always remember watching her favorite film, Day Of The Jackal, in the middle of the night with her. She was great. So great I knew by age 7 I Was Not good mother material. And I do believe she talked to G-d on my behalf and sent my guy to me. He is the one that I'm closest to now.
@Magz1989 (272)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
My mother and I are very closed since then, though we have some petty fights over my husband but still she had understand me. And now knowing that my married life turns so gray, she comforted me. There's nobody in the world can really replace your mom. Because she just really thinks what's the best for you...I love my mom forever and i will be like her when i have children on my own.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
29 Oct 12
Hi Gemma, I am like you in this regard..whenever someone asks me for most important relation in my life i automatically say- its my parents..both my mom and my father have equal great impact in my life..Here in India there is a saying- The relation with mother is strongest because it is 9 months older than any other relation..`whatever I am today just because of my parents..me and my siblings are well settled and respected in society because my parents gave us such an environment for our growth..They teach us the moral values and gave us everything without asking.. your discussion is about mother so i am going to talk about her only here..I can say my mom is Ideal mother, she is very nice and helpful as a person too..a typical Indian mommy..:) very religious, always thinking about her children and family..best cook in the world, best friend and adviser in the world and most beautiful in the world..:)I never saw her thinking about herself, even when she is not well physically..I consider myself really lucky to have her as my mommy. I want to be like her when i'll have children of my own..:)
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
29 Oct 12
Yes it comes automatically when you think of this question. But I also believe that family's relationship should come first. You can have another man after you break up with the current one, but you will never be able to replace your family as they are the only one you will have your entire life. My Mum also plays an important role in my life. I am not able to replace her despite whatever may happen. When i have my own kids I will give them all my love and make sure they are aware of my love for them. :)
@Ixodoi (445)
• Israel
29 Oct 12
For my entire life - I agreed with you - most important relationship is with our mom. Then I got married, and didn't change my opinion - I love my husband, but still what I have with my mom is stronger. However, then I become a mom too, and I understand that there is a relation which is the same strength if not stronger - our relationship with our children,
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I appreciate more my mother when I became a mother too. Yes, I already knew how she sacrifice for us so we can finish our studies. But only now that I understand it all. I always respect and love her because I will never be where I am without her. Especially now that our father is gone to heaven, I love her more. Lucky are those who still have both their moms and dads so show them how much you care for and love them.
@sjvenden27 (1850)
• United States
29 Oct 12
The relationship with my birth mother.. Yes she was the one who carried me for nine months and rasied me for 17 years.. She taught me what not to do for the most part; to be fearful, to use and malupulate people, to be greedy, and have a close mind to most things in life... My mother taught me what not to do with my life.. What I wont do to my children or close friends or family... I am doing lots better then my mother did... Not allowing my problems interfere with my boys' life.. I am always striving to do better, if I am not talking or doing for my boys.. They are on my mind.. I am trying to be a devoted mother but not overwhelming; looking for the happy medium..
@marshkt (87)
• Sri Lanka
29 Oct 12
best relationship in the world, is with parents! no doubt!
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
29 Oct 12
its the most and crucial and important for sure when you share often a good and nice friendly rappot with friends and also parents
• China
29 Oct 12
As you say,the mother brings me to the world.No her ,no me.because of her ,I can clearly know about the world . When I am a little boy,I often was kicked around by the other boys.Then,my mother help me argue with them.Haha.One day,there was raining.I felt as if I have gotten a fever.At that time,she was very worring.Inspite of the heavy rain,she carried me to the nearest hospital.However,she was ill for it.I felt very guilty.From then,I became very sensible in order to avoid making the troubles to her. I love my mother indeedly.If thers is no her in my life,I will not live on. Thanks for your discussion,It reminds me of my mother's love to me.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
When I read the topic of your post, it wan't my husband who I had in mind but my parents. I think that blood relations is to be given more priority because they will never leave you no matter what. There is a saying that goes: "you can choose any person you want to be with you for life, but you can not choose the parents that you will be born out from". I think that the love that parents give to their children is the highest if not the only pure love known to man.
@Jenniffe (37)
29 Oct 12
Family, friendship and love are three part of our life. Each is important for us.When we born, first we meet is our family. No matter how hard or happy, family is there ,supporting us. In fact, family will comany us in the whole life. So does friendship. Love is impotant too, but finally it will turn into family. So my point is that family is the most important relationship.