Sometimes Being Single is so Sad...

Philippines
November 4, 2012 12:22am CST
I am already 23 years old and I am still single. I haven't had a boyfriend since birth. LOL. (Sigh) Now, I am in the point of thinking, "Am I really that unlovable?" I had a lot of boyfriends and girlfriends but of course it's really different when you have your special someone. Boys would come and go but then, I just haven't met someone who could love me back. Some would court me but I really believe it's not good to be in a relationship if you are not in love. Hais.. Should I just give up and finally accept whoever comes in knocking at my door?
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14 responses
@factorial (982)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Hello Miyazaki... no, being single should not make you sad... be careful in choosing a boyfriend... a person whom you would live with as long as you are alive. For the mean time focus on your job. If ever one day you would wake up and you are still single say thanks to God. In the Catholic church there are three vocations in life (a) live a married life, (b) stay single, and (c) join the religious life.
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• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Thanks for the response. I have to be thankful though that I have a lot of friends and that I have a job and I have God anyway. (^.^)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Yes, hold on to your faith in the Lord...
@lady1993 (19729)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
No, of course not. I believe that there is that special someone who is really meant for you, so you should not just settle. But i guess you should also date other guys first, so you would have experience..
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• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Thanks for cheering me up. (^.^)
@zeedo666 (150)
• Poland
4 Nov 12
You should start enjoying being single. An emotionally stable person shouldn't care about his/her "relationship status".
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• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Thanks for the response. (^.^) You were kind'a harsh with the 2nd statement though but it makes sense.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
4 Nov 12
I've been in the same situation as you. I was almost 23 when I met my boyfriend (now we've been together for almost half a year), and I didn't even have a kiss since my birth until then (nor was a proper guy interested in me at all). And I heard stuff from people saying that if you don't get a boyfriend until 22, you are a psychological wreck and blah-blah-blah, and I believed it, and I thought it was true, and I was gonna die young with 40 cats :). But it wasn't, and now I know that I just had to wait, because it came later for me than for an average person. You should not give up, and wait for your Mr. Right to come. Don't settle with someone you don't like that way, because you could live with him for a while, but later, you and him both would be driven crazy, because he would desire your love, and you could get really annoyed and even disgusted by him. You might have just been unlucky, not a person who is not designed for love. Keep your head up, and I wish the best for you!
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• Philippines
5 Nov 12
That totally made sense dear. Besides it's like I would only be using him. That's not nice.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
4 Nov 12
You're only 23, you're still so young to be talking like you're already doomed. Being single doesn't have to be sad, besides, what made you think that by being in a relationship, you wouldn't feel sadness anymore? Being in a relationship doesn't mean you'll be all lovey dovey and everything's going to be all roses and happiness. It takes more than finding the right person to "be happy". It's being the right person as well. Are you already prepared for it? Are you already matured enough to take it, or would you rather experience the infamous heartbreaks and all that before you finally meet "the one"? Wouldn't it be better that you have enjoyed your life as a single lady before you commit to someone and be well equipped to make the relationship work? Just a few thoughts to ponder. And don't worry, your time will come. Each one of us have our own time and chance to experience that love. For now, enjoy and be the right person.
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• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Hello Raine! Thanks for making me somehow feel better. Yeah it's not like the end of the world anyway. (^.^)
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
4 Nov 12
its very depressing and makes you feel bad,i agree,i experienced it
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• Philippines
4 Nov 12
You said.. "I experienced it." That may mean you already found your special someone? Wow! I hope I find mine soon too. (^.^)
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
You're still young my dear and nothing to worry about having no boyfriend since birth. I have lots of friends who are single and much older than you are. Thu, I can say they have past experiences with relationship- and those bad experiences made them decide to stay single till now- thu they are waiting for a new love and their right prince charming, but I can say that they are indeed much older than you are. The oldest among my single friends is 38 and the youngest is 27- they are good looking girls and successful on their chosen careers- but never regretted being single till now. So, don't rush up- wait for the right love at the right time.
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• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Hi! Thanks for the response. I'll cheer up then. I'm pretty sure my "future" is somewhere out there. I just wish he steps in soon. LOL
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@Harold_ks (1674)
4 Nov 12
Being NBSP(no boyfriend since birth) is an advantage. That made you precious. Don't be sad coz you have a plenty of friends around you. You will meet your mr. right at the right time. God has a plan for you. So don't be so sad, just enjoy life and be good. Have a nice day!
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• Philippines
4 Nov 12
It's an advantage because you draw more attention. LOL. I sure wish God hasn't forgotten me. I am a Christian and I do believe my special someone is out there somewhere, I just wish I meet him earlier. Oh my!!! I guess he forgot his car.
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• Pakistan
4 Nov 12
Your just 23 and you started thinking that it's time for some one to come in.i'm almost 29 and haven't find any one yet and still looking. Don't upset your self that you are not love able,may be some one is expecting you to love him. So try but don't try too hard coz in this way you will end up heart broken.
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Thanks for the response. It's just that you know there are those times when you just wished someone special is there. Oh well.. I don't know. Maybe I am just starting to be impatient.
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@sishy7 (27606)
• Australia
4 Nov 12
I'd say enjoy being single while you are. Relationship will come naturally when you least expect it. No need to hurry and force it on yourself; besides you are young...
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• Philippines
4 Nov 12
Thanks. However I can't help thinking.. "what if he never comes?" It's just that my officemates has been bothering me for quite some time teasing me. And then when I go for a walk in the park, I get to see couples. I envy them. I promise though that when I find that special someone, I am going to love him forever.
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@512771751 (1096)
• China
3 Dec 12
23 years old? I think you are still young, and your mr. right is not coming, that's all. You should hold such opportunity if he comes. By the way, I have a friend who is already 27 years old and haven't had a boyfriend...... Have a nice day.
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Hello! Yeah I guess I was over reacting. Thanks for the response though. About your friend... is that for real?
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
28 Nov 12
Ohhh God you are worry in 23 years old dont worry 23 years is not much more and why need boyfriend direct find a partner means a person for marriage. dont worry your parents will search the partner for you.
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
Is it? Well.. Here in our country it's not our culture for parents to look for our partner. It's much better I think so rather than being forced to be with someone who you really not love.
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
oh you are still so young and there is not much need to hurry. i had my first bf earlier than you were but then it wasn't such a big deal and it could have worked better if i was older and more mature to handle rather than have my emotions cloud me.
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
Really? How old were you back then when you first had your boyfriend?
@AkamaruKei (5218)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 12
Not only you is still single but me to. A lot of my friend is a girl. Some of them want to make a love with me but i say for them i'm not ready. I still not ready to make special relationship with someone. I want successful in my life first.
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
yeah... but I tell myself I'm not ready as well but then again there those times when you just can't help but wish someone was there to cheer you up and all your friends are busy with their personal life. I do thank you for the response though. (^.^)