Were you & your mother close growing up? And are you still close now?
By RescueLady
@bizness (866)
United States
November 8, 2012 2:09pm CST
As a child my home life was not very good. Parents drank, dad beat my mom, etc, and I left home at 15 years old. So to answer the question, no we weren't what you would call 'close'.
But now as an adult I love my mom dearly and we talk almost every day. I know she did the best she could, or at least thought she could, while we were growing up.
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@dodo19 (47082)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Nov 12
Growing up, I thought that I was close to my mom. However, when I went away to university, things kind of changed for me. I started to feel differently about my mom. Things she did began to bug me more. Some things did bother me before, but they became more annoying when I left for university. I do still talk to her on a regular basis, but let me just say that things she does and says do still bother me.
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@bizness (866)
• United States
8 Nov 12
Well I think that's part of growing up and getting older. Things aren't the way they would normally seem. Remember, though, she is your mom and she loves you. You don't have to like or agree with one another but do try to love one another.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Nov 12
I was very close to my mom. But she passed away from cancer about a year ago. I miss her very much. She was my best friend. There was nt a day we did not talk to each other on the phone.
@GardenGerty (157598)
• United States
8 Nov 12
As a child I was not close to mom, as an adult, well maybe. We visited by phone a lot. She is deceased. There were also times when my opinion of her went something like "What could she be thinking?" but there is also a big part of me that knows I am who I am because she was who she was.
@bizness (866)
• United States
8 Nov 12
Yes I know what you mean. Although growing up wasn't what it should have been, I am the person I am because of my mom and I like who I am.
I have often thought the same thing, "What could she be thinking????". I think when we become adults we are who we are; we have our own minds and thoughts about things and realize that we don't always agree with mom.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
10 Nov 12
My brothers and I were lucky in that we had loving parents. Our father was harsh with us, but that's all he knew. He loved us in his way. He just wanted us to be perfect, which we were not. Our mother was different. She was affectionate and took time to explain things to us.
@bizness (866)
• United States
12 Nov 12
Wow! 101 yrs. young, how awesome is that!! That is so wonderful you had a close relationship up until she passed. Sorry to hear about your loss, but glad you had a good relationship with her.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
8 Nov 12
I was very close to my mother until I was about 8 or 9... Then there were quite few things that happened.. Now if I can get away with not talking to her for months it wouldnt bother me.. We do not have the greatest relationship; I tried to mend things in the last couple years but it didnt work.. To keep my santity and my mind focused on the things that I need to do with my life I do not talk to her..Now I do find out from others if she is ok.. I do not wish her any harm.. We just clash; and I do not need the negative influnces in my life..
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
That's nice bizness. You are now close to your mom now.
I can tell that I wasn't close to my om before until now. We communicate and get along but I feel that there is wall between us. Maybe because her favoritism in my other siblings is obvious and maybe because I am closer to my father..
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
So like my mom. She takes sdes and she feels she is always right in many ways.
