Mistress Shouted at me! You are bitter like bitter cucumber!

@Magz1989 (271)
Philippines
November 13, 2012 12:41am CST
Since i had discover my husband cheated last 2 months ago and his keep on asking forgiveness on me. Then i had discover that i am pregnant and he pursue to ask for forgiveness and ask for a second chance for our marriage. I always think to forgive him but still i cannot accept him right now. Then what a small world, a close encounter with the mistress at the mall and she look at me with fierce eyes. As if, i had destroy something from her. she snap my wrist and said you are bitter! So, I thought like a bitter cucumber. Well, I laugh harshly and said "you are the one bitter for even my husband left you had a hard face to harass me". She replied: If you can't forgive him, i will accept him with arms wide open. So, i said: Get him, lock him at your closet....? I really want to punch her but i focus on myself and said to her: I AM NOT YOUR LEVEL....YOUR AN ANIMAL..STAY AWAY... Is that okay? that i did that? who's bitter among us?
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13 responses
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I just posted a discussion about a mistress also a week ago... But it was about my friend's mistress. They really have the nerve to show their face and be like that. They should even be reserved enough and feel sorry that they have just broken a home. They are literally home wreckers! And now she has the nerve to do that to you??? You have not done anything wrong. It's just natural for us to get angry even though how we control ourselves not to stoop down to their level. Because you are emotionally hurt. But just let her be what she is. Her mentality will always stay that way... well that is why she agreed to become a mistress right? I just hope I won't experience that. Just take care of yourself and avoid being too stressed. Especially that you are pregnant now. Focus on taking care of your baby instead.
@Magz1989 (271)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
The are really a home breaker and i think she's already paranoid knowing that my husband had leave him. Honestly, I am very angry and want to explode and i want to kick her and drop her face to ground but i just stay calm and stay away from her. Need to have a good mood for my baby.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
You've done the right thing. You really need to think about your baby's welfare first. Good that you were in your proper composure, or else your baby will be hurt as well. Leave that b-i-t-c-h to feel rejected and miserable. She deserves to have that kind of life anyway! Take care of yourself and your baby!
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Nov 12
I always look down upon to the mistresses. I never understand why they can seem to be shameless to face others' wives. Even if you slam her, she still deserves it. So it is fair and kind enough for you to fight back with her with words only. This kind of b-i-t-c-h should go to hell. Please don't get mad because of this kind of evil person. You are pregnant now and you shall take good care of yourself and the baby.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I agree with you youless. They are the ones who committed the sin, but they are the ones who who has the nerve to show their face to the wife, and even initiate the clash. mistresses deserve to be beaten. Oh I'm getting too emotional now...
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Nov 12
It's good that you did not stoop down to her level. You're a class act. Mistresses are always like that. They are the ones who are bitter. Better stay away from all those negativity because you're pregnant and it is not healthy for the baby. As for your husband, it is up to you whether you have it in your heart to forgive him. Think of this seriously because it is not nice for a child to be born in a broken family as well. I know the cliche everybody deserves a second chance but it is easier said than done. Weigh everything out, give your decision and hope for the best.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Wow! What a scene! Looks like something that I have seen in the movies! If I were in your place, I could have said more. But what you did was fine. Atleast you should her who won.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I agree with you jenny. If I was in that situation, I would have done more.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Nov 12
Hi magz! You have just done the right thing. That was not even enough. But, anyway be calm as it may affect the baby. She has all the guts, my goodness!
@Magz1989 (271)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
She had the all the guts in the world and she even said that she never commit a sin. The only thing she commit is that she have a love the husband of others.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
I think what you did is just right. I had a boyfriend and we had a baby. Apparently when I was away for maternity leave, my officemates were seeing him and a colleague of him always eating out together. That time I had no idea that he was doing that. I was led to believe that we will be a whole family. But he never showed up when I gave birth. After I gave birth I went back to work he started avoiding me. When I confront him, he said that he no longer love me. I asked if there's someone else but he was not a man enough to admit it. I had only learned the truth when a concerned colleague of mine told me the situation about my bf and the other girl. I was so furious, the girl even know that I was pregnant when she flirted with my boyfriend. Till now, I'm seeing those two. An while I am working my a** out to provide my daughter's needs. The two of them are so happy because they just got away from what they did.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Oh that was really something, and this woman sure had the guts.. mistresses are really thick skinned nowadays, you would wonder how or where they have lost their dignity and values to. I just think that it is really hard, perhaps for them to accept as they are hoping they will be chosen by the man. But most of course would not choose these kinds of women who knows they are dating a married man. it is very rare that a man would leave his family for a mistress. I can understand your feelings too that you are hurt right now, and you probably are very mad and angry as well even if you were looking at your husband you might as well just want to kick him right where it would hurt a great deal. in time, perhaps you would forget if you love your husband and if you can trust him again, you might as well try and give it a shot but never be the paranoid wife that would doubt your husband if he vows to change.
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
hi Magz, First I did not know that cucumber has a bitter taste Well sometimes other woman has the guts to act this way they never know where to stand well try to avoid her it might end up that your baby will look like her (just kidding) what matters now is your husband is with you and you must have a healthy stress free life right now not just for yourself but for the baby also. happy mylotting
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Nov 12
You both are bitter! You both are involved with the same man and he cheated on both of you. I am sure he made promises to both of you and what is worst.. you two are angry on yourself, angry on eachother and he is staying out of the fire(line). I think it's wrong what you said to her, you are on her level by saying that. What she said to you is wrong as well. I don't think she will welcome him for long, he will go on to the next one and so on. Once a cheater always a cheater.
• India
13 Nov 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about your story. Your husband activity is not right, he is deserved for punishment. As you mentioned his mistress shouted on you, it is really a great unfair and she don't have any rights for this.. You proved your kindness with your activity and i agree with your last line..
@Shavkat (137220)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
This is really a very sensitive topic, but then the word bitterness is not the issue. The issue of betrayal and being cheated our loved one. The mere fact, you don't need to level yourself to her. In the eyes of God and the law we abide, you still have the right to suppress the feeling to feel not guilty. Otherwise, the legal wife can file a corresponding case if this woman pursue such act. Touching is one offense, it could be a big NO NO. I am sure you get my point.
@estremms (324)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
The nerve!! She did that? She doesn't have any right to do that to you, you're the one wronged at not her! what you did is okay, it's a normal reaction and I don't think that any of you is bitter. I think that she is also hurting just like you. But if you crossed paths again I suggest you just walk past and ignore her no matter what words she hurl at you.
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
LOL haha XD The title of your discussion makes me laugh. haha, Anyway back to your question, who's the bitter, well obviously it's the other lady. Her actions already prove it. And in your case, well you just have to defend yourself, that's the right thing to do. :)