Offsprings-Is it really necessary to make your marriage work?
By euridicy1984
@euridicy1984 (70)
Philippines
November 23, 2012 3:01am CST
I'm watching a regular tv series here in our country. The plot is about a couple who's desperate to have a baby. They did every tips and tricks they know just to have an offspring but they continuously failed. Until one day, a friend doctor told them about the surrogacy procedure where in a sperm cell and a healthy egg cell will be taken out of their body to make a baby out of its mother's womb. They will get a surrogate mom for their child who happens the wife's half-sister. As the plot thickens, because of the wife's self-issues of not having a child, the conflict begins... the surrogate mom flew away with their child. Because of that incident the couple almost called it quits until they adopted a child.
Here's the question, how important is a child to make your marriage work? Do couples only get married just to have a child and to make things legal? Does a person's disability to bear/produce an offspring makes them less lovable? Does having a dysfunctional reproductive organs make you less of a person?
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6 responses
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
This problem is very common nowadays. Couples tend to do everything just to produce an offspring. Some succeeds, some fails. But for me I do not think it is the measure of how couples should be more lovable with each other.Off spring is a blessings from God and if an offspring is not been given to couples then they should still be thankful that they have each other.
@euridicy1984 (70)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
In my opinion, people get married because they want to seal their bond as a couple. they to make things legal, to strengthen their love and commitment for each other. Having a child should be a treated as a blessing or a bonus from God. People should not feel pressured about not having a child just because of the common mentality that a couple needs a child to be considered as a family.
Good thing about having a child, you don't have to worry about school fees, parenting issues and security of your child. Plus you've got a lot of time for yourself, your significant other and for lots of loving. :-)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
23 Nov 12
To me it's not. But I doubt it is too most of us. There is something else that is wanting a child which is in many women: hormons. The wish to become a mother (no matter if the man is a great dad or not). The more you get "fixed" on that the harder it will be to get pregnant because of the stress. There are so many couples who do try everything but no pregnancy. At the moment they give up on it, decide to build their life without children the woman does get pregnant (and now I am not talking about a man or woman not being fertile). In the case you describe this is also not the case. I hear nothing about the medical imposibility of not getting pregant. I do find it strange the "surrogat" mother run of with the child. Was this her eggcell? Also.. if the eggcell of the mother was not fine and the only problem it was way easier (less problems as well) to put that fertilized eggcell in her whomb. This story doesn't make sense at all.
@euridicy1984 (70)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Yes, that's it. They put the fertilized egg inside the womb of the surrogate mother. While the surrogate mother is pregnant, the wife began to get jealous of the surrogate mom. They had a confrontation, and the next day, the surrogate mother flew away along with the unborn child inside her womb.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
I have seen one show just this morning about this issue too.
I understand that every couple wants to have a child of their own- but I don't think that being childless is enough reason to break the relationship or make the situation worse.
If they really love each other- with or without a child, they will stick together- that's what the marriage vow is all about..."for better or for worse"
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
A couple decided to get married because of their love for each other and wanting to be together until their old age. Bearing children is part of that union which could be the bonding agent for a couple. When I say bonding agent, it means that the kids are their center of their union. All the sacrifices they do are for the children's sake. However, not all couples are blessed to have their own children. And that should be okay for the couple coz they never planned to be that way, it just happened. However, if one of the couple has some medical condition that could not bear them a child, this becomes a cause of trouble between couples because insecurities start to kick in. Endless fight. Jealousy. And so just to save a marriage, couple decide to adopt a child or just like the one you have mentioned, doing an in vitro fertilization.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
For a family to be complete and happy a couple really needs to have a child otherwise that family is not complete.But if you are not given a chance to produce a child, you should not risk your relationship, there are lots of ways for us to have a child, one best example is to adopt, though it is not your flesh but it is still a child.And that alone can fix the problem,don't put so much big deal on it.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Not having a baby shouldn't be a hindrance to having a happy marriage. In the first place, a couple married because of each other, and they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Having a baby is a gift and a big bonus for the couple, but not the only reason why they married.
I still think this would make a big difference in the couple's relationship becaue it does make the marriage even more meaningful to have kids in the house and have one you can call a family. If this happened to me, I would consider as my last resort -- adoption.
