I can't do this, I can't do that!

United States
November 24, 2012 2:33pm CST
I heard that every day from my ex-boyfriend. His feet got messed up by taking a shower in a homeless shelter where we met. He worked at The Board Of Trade here in Chicago. I see so many who are capable of work but don't. Even my ex could have done more than beg everyday. When I first saw him, he was working at the same shelter, even with his foot the way it is. When we first met, he watched me on the library computer and saw how fast I am. He told me that I have potential to make money online. I do more than taste test gum. And more than work online, though it is hard for me to get around! I see homeless people who do get jobs to help them get back on their feet. I know people who want to start their own businesses, even those who have no or little money coming in. For anyone to say "I can't do this, I can't do that" when that person has expressed desire to work again but to keep going back to saying can't just shows me that they don't want to work, but continue begging and getting free money. These words coming from the same person who back in March of 2009 said to me "I promise to get us into our own place, pay you back every cent and I promise to get you a laptop!" I bought 2 netbooks which stopped working because I wrote for 3-5 hours daily. I bought to laptops, one 15.6 which I am using now and the other, 17.3" which I gave to my fiancee to help with the online surveys he does.
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@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
24 Nov 12
There is a dutch expression saying: I can not and I do not want to are burried next to eachother on the graveyard. It means that both (can not and do not want to) are exactly the same. So if you say you can't do that or are not able to do something it's not because you are not able to but you are not willing to (too lazy). I think the lesson of this discussion is to take care of yourself first before you give to others. Not to accept these kind of people who are too lazy to make something out of their own life and find it normal/take it for granted you pamper them and put yourself at the sideline.
• United States
24 Nov 12
Your right.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
25 Nov 12
hi desertrose, i know what you are saying...I feel there are some people in this world who don't do better because they don't know better, and then there are some people who just don't do better because they are trifling...
@glenng01 (71)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
Just as the saying goes, "If there's a will, there's a way". People will always find excuses for things that they don't want to do but always finds ways to things that they want to do. I myself don't tolerate beggars who are physically able and giving money to them cause it just shows that you are somewhat tolerating that person's laziness and irresponsibility. They'll be having so many reasons why they can't work but so little on why they can. But on the other hand, it's okay for me to give to those physically disabled and the super old.