mean firend

Uganda
November 26, 2012 4:08am CST
i have a friend whom i sacrificed my pocket that i had saved for some good time, i went to town and bought her some good shoes and sent then to her. to my disappointment i waited for a thank you message but all in vain. when i asked the delivery company to conform the delivery they said that she recieved them. it is now 3 months since i bought them but still nothing from her. is she really my friend or she never liked them? or she is just mean.
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12 responses
• St. Peters, Missouri
26 Nov 12
I think if we do things for other people and expect something in return, we're setting ourselves up for lots of disappointments. The polite thing would have been to acknowledge the gift. But I'm sure your friend is not intentionally being mean. Maybe just a little thoughtless.
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@yugocean (8353)
• India
26 Nov 12
Did you forget to told her it was you who send her those shoes? Are you sure your friend's address was correct? You have to inform her since you send her by the delivery company but not yourself.
• Uganda
26 Nov 12
she knew who sent her those shoes because i put a note inside saying it was coming from me. and it was the write address.
• Thailand
26 Nov 12
a true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down, on that situation, for me shes not a friend because she don't even know how to thank you for such a little thing that you given.. oh that's not a good friend.
@nelerkz (467)
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
Ues Hellokitty, Even a a word of thanks, she don't say it. If she don't like it then she must to say that because it's a blessing. She should be thankful that she have you but never acknowledge your goodness. Don't neglect her, love her more despite of her unexplain attitude. Stay good. Have a great day ! ;)
• Uganda
26 Nov 12
it is kind of hard to love you the same way as i did because if there is something that brings me down it not to acknowledge a good towards a person. i don't want him to do the same thing but atleast say thank you it is enough for me.
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
26 Nov 12
Whenever we do something good for someone, we shouldn't expect anything in return. I do admit that it is a bit offensive that we do not even get even a simple "thank you", but just think, it is and will always be better that you are the one who have the capacity to extend help rather than be the one who needs it. Do not think too much of that incident, if she really won't thank you properly, then that is something that she will carry in her own conscience, if she's got one. Just move along and be your usual helpful self; someday this good deed of yours will come back to you two-folds (or more). Of course, don't give up on the hope that she might return the gesture someday. Only she knows why she hasn't said anything to you about your "gift" and it is really hard to judge her especially she is your friend. You are a good person and she's lucky to have a friend like you. I just hope that she realizes that sooner.
• Uganda
26 Nov 12
thank you but i don't think she knows that she is lucy.
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
Why did you buy shoes for her did she ask for it? Maybe she's wondering why you gave it to her, it's possible that she's thinking you're starting to do things like this because you want something more than her friendship. Maybe the gesture made her feel awkward. I suggest you talk to her instead of waiting for her reaction.
• Uganda
26 Nov 12
how can she think like that about me?? it was a gift and she knows that i love giving out gifts to anyone regardless if she is girl or boy. and i didnot expect anything from her except a thank you.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
26 Nov 12
Does your friend know the shoes are from you? Did you speak to her directly? Or did you have someone else deliver the shoes and your name never came up in the conversation? Maybe your friend thanked the person delivering the shoes and you never got the message back. This is why direct contact is better than going through other people. Never doubt a friend unless you speak to them directly. You asked the delivery company to confirm the delivery instead of talking to your friend directly, this tells me you are not even speaking to this friend. You could ask her yourself instead of going through different avenues. I'm sure your friend is not mean at all, and she would thank you if you let her know the shoes came from you. Just my thoughts.
• Uganda
26 Nov 12
may be i should talk her but then it not ethical to spend three months minus calling or texting to show your gratitude. for it seems she never liked the sheos because if she did she would have contacted me instantly.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
28 Nov 12
If you do something from your heart.. if you give something with your heart do NOT expect a "thank you". Since this means you are only giving because you expect something back. I think this friend in need just knows how to make you feel pity. This way you (and probably many others) take care of the needs of your friend (food, clothees, going out, etc). Never do this again it will ruin every friendship.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Thanks for sharing. Wow! 3months without saying anything. I guess that's just life. But don't be too sad about it. Just think that you did something good and never did you ask for anything that. And that's what good about it.
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
27 Nov 12
NOpe she is a user, why stick with the person who is an appreciative of your effort and your generosity. Even if she did not ask for it, the mere fact of act should be thankful for. Actually even the mere fact of thought should be thanked. I can't stand that kind of friend, just a user, better to have few friends that to have friend like her. ewww so disgusting attitude.
@chatoang (61)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Have you tried talking or reaching her out? Just a simple hello maybe? Because if she's really a friend she won't allow you empty handed for such silly shoes. This could be a lesson to be learned on your end, so that the next you'll be asked buying things you will think not only twice but a hundred times asking yourself if that person is just using you for her own interest. They are plenty nowadays you know, so be alarmed!
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I don't think your friend was being mean or anything like that. I think that yes, maybe she should have called you up to say thank you for the shoes and to at least let you know that she received them. Maybe though she just didn't think that she needed to say thank you or just forgot all together. Either the situation, I don't think that she intentionally meant to be mean. Maybe you could call her up and ask her how she like the shoes and if they fit and go from there. Then maybe before the conversation ends she will thank you for them. Yes it will be late, but at least she said thank you you know.
• India
26 Nov 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, may be your friend is very busy and forget to send the thank you message due to her busy days. Don't take it wrong, why don't you make a call to her and ask whether she received your gift or not and she like it
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
Did you bother to ask her about got your gift? You are a sweet friend. You are so thoughtful. Thank you isn't enough for your good deed. I guess if she didn't like it then she still needed to thank you. It's been three months. That's already a long time. Maybe she doesn't know how to say thanks at all.