what do you think??

November 30, 2012 8:03am CST
i have this friend of mine which i think.. (oh gosh i cannot explain!..) her attitudes were really unexplainable. but one thing i'm sure is that i learned good and bad things when we became "friends". i was so blessed when i met her, but still.. sometimes i cannot control myself that i feel so irritated by the way she acts. maybe it is just who she really is, and i understand it. but she keeps on doing things that she doesn't know that she's already hurting others' feelings. maybe it's the reason why there were many who hate her. and i don't want to leave her because for me, she's more of a "kind" person, but it cannot be denied that she still have the "other side" (everyone of us of course). but guys i was just thinking, does she really a person who you can call "A FRIEND"? for my "friend", "i wish i could be one of those people who would help "you" improve yourself"
1 person likes this
10 responses
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
30 Nov 12
we at times have friends whom we just call friends for all times sake but we have outgrown them but unwilling to let go.with time you have different interests and habits and if they are not the same we drift away but since we thought this was a good friend we tend to have them in our life despite the shame, anger or irritation they may cause us.
1 person likes this
2 Dec 12
friends are very diifferent we have several different freinds i think we all do
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
30 Nov 12
What is the definition of a friend? When I think of friends, I think that it is a two-way relationship. Now, this person you are describing could be someone you might just want to help. Therefore, it is more of a one-way relationship. Sometimes, we all have people in our lives that we are meant to support and encourage, as there has been people in our lives who have crossed our paths to encourage and uplift us. If you want to stay in touch with this 'friend' I would try to find ways to encourage her but realize that you can't expect much back. Then, when you least expect it, you may find that she is there for you, perhaps not in ways that you expect, but in small ways that can be meaningful to you.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Well, as her friend, you really need to treat and give her all the support she needs. However, being a friend doesn't mean you have to compensate every noticeable negative traits she has. You must be, at the first place, deal with those things with her personally and advise her to do this and that. It's not a matter of doubting your self if you can help her but the passion to help a friend who is in dire need of a help. One thing, a true friend will and will always be there no matter what the circumstances are.
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Well, nobody's perfect & nobody is a perfect friend, even we ourselves aren't. If you think that she does things that hurt others, you should tell her. We cannot change a person for who they already are but we can tell them & give them advice so that they will be aware of what they're doing. It's up to her if she wants to improve.=)
1 person likes this
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
It seems you are more of the friend to her than she to you because you see both the good and bad in her and you want to stay to help her change the bad side. She on the other hand may not be aware that she's already hurtful to others, so better tell her about it. You're also irritated with her behavior anyway so why not open it up. Maybe that's the way to help her improve herself.
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
30 Nov 12
I believe there is good and bad in all of us, though usually the good outweighs the bad. If a "friend" is continuously hurting you without any regards to your feelings or any kind of remorse for their behavior, they are not a "friend." I think sometimes friends might think they are helping with a situation, but in the end, they are making the situation worse and have spoiled the friendship beyond repair and it is necessary to find new loyal and trustworthy friends who are worthy of your friendship and trust.
1 person likes this
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
30 Nov 12
As you met this friend you painted a picture (created a picture) about how your friend must be. It turns out your friend is just a human being like others. There is nothing wrong with feeling annoyed about some kind of behaviour. I hope you are aware of the fact you are not perfect yourself and might be annoying or irritating to others as well. Being good friends means you accept eachother completely and you do not try to change that person into someone YOU like to see. It also means that if some behaviour or acts are very annoying you can say so plus give a very good reason why! Friends need to be honest/straight to eachother. Also you need to be clear about the fact that even if you don't like some kind of behaviour that does not mean you do not like the whole person. I think you should be happy you met a kind person, someone who did learn you something. What more can one wish for? BTW without some irritation you would never appreciate kindness at all.
1 person likes this
@ateeq199 (20)
30 Nov 12
You are very nice because you know about bad habits of your friend and you are still freind of her.We should help our friends to overcome their bad habits.That is true friendship.And also no one is perfect in this world.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes. I agree with you. As a true friend, we should tell our friends if he is doing good or bad already. In that way, he will know and he will believe it because you are his friend and he will not be considering that you are not telling the truth on him.
3 Dec 12
If you're a true friend to her tell her the truth. If she has done bad things to you or other people, tell her. If she will not understand and if she'll be upset with you, then she's not a true friend to you.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
1 Dec 12
Friend the true meaning each person surely will have different. Friend - it is the way you take and other person take about you. We make the friend seeing them, meeting them for the first time or by spending some hours or days together. But later when we come to know or realize their behavior or character as such we become fed up and slowly tries to keep them away from us or we try to move away from them. But to tell you frankly a friend should be one who understand you very much and who is open in the views and is always ready to help you out. But don't expect everyhting from your friend but even you have to give the same to our friend