"when you first meet people all you notice is the differences...

@lady1993 (16391)
Philippines
December 3, 2012 9:37pm CST
between you and them, but as time passes you start noticing the similarities" I think this is true, since what people normally do when they first meet a person is look at them from head to toe.. Maybe not compare much but just look and observe.. But then if we do get to spend some time with them then we forget about what they look or dress like. Just a quote i gt from the movie "kalifornia"... what do you think/
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@Mavic123456 (9655)
• Thailand
5 Dec 12
Yes, I believe this so. maybe because they are adapting ways and look from one another. In the Philippines, when they say that you and your bf look the same, it means that there is a big possibility that you will end up together. Or if friends for long time, people will eventually say.... you are constantly together, now you look like each other. So yes, adapting ways, looks and traits. and complimenting one from another. great one here.. very keen observation.
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
That's really weird, many people say that- people who are always together, maybe even animals will tend to look lie each other. I wouldn't want that though..
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• Thailand
23 Dec 12
hahaha no we don't look like our pets. hahaha unless we will intentionally do that. like other pet fanatics. having clothes the same sewn. ewwwwww
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Yeah, people who do that look cute to me though, but only occasionally and if they do not overdo it . Especially really cute dresses and only on pet events.
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@celticeagle (117169)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Dec 12
I don't agree. When I first meet someone I look for similarities not differences. I have enough negativities in my life. Ofcourse it depends on where I meet them too. If I had reason to meet some one other than in the normal places then I might be looking for differences and pray that I find some. Heehee
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I think i am like that sometimes.. Especially when i am planning on talking and making friends with the person.. i observe and look for someone i think i can relate to.
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@celticeagle (117169)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Dec 12
I have usually already found something before hand. I am a big observer of people.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
5 Dec 12
You are correct whenever we happen to meet any new person first in time in our life we look them from top to bottom, this is but natural, like what we have done the person in front of will also do the same thing. This is mainly because we try to find out whether meeting such person is worth or is this person good enough to be friend with? To know each other its always takes lots of time and once we understand each other we tend to become friend in life.
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
YEah, and in these times, it is always better to be careful since you do not know who are good or bad people even from the way they dress. My friends have met thieves that dress nicely too.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
5 Dec 12
I think that you are right, when we first meet people we do look on the outward appearance and we just automatically think that oh we must not have anything in common. But yes you are right also when you say when we spend time with them and we get to know them, we learn that we have more in common then we thought. I think that people should look beyond the outward appearance and actually take the time to get to know people.
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I actually have some friends who i never thought i would be close to, since we dress differently and just have different out ward appearance and style, but i found out that we actually have a lot in common.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Getting first hand impression physically can really be confusing as sometimes is the opposite of what we tend to assess that person. Seeing the differences probably is just quite a normal human reaction especially comparing to you, there's a lot of more than meet the eyes, lol!
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Yeah, based from my experiences.. first impression is not really the real personality of the person.. since some people find it really hard to open u if you just meet them for the first time..
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
4 Dec 12
When we just observe without judging we can learn so much. It is hard but only listening or more listening than actually talking it's better than college. We can indeed learn from others mistakes and the more we observe the better. When I'm judging someone I've been doing the same routine for some years now, I ask: "And who the hell you think you are to judge them?" and I'm more humble in the next second lol. I'm nobody! And non-perfect human!
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Oh, that is a nice advice.. i shall try that sometime. I sometimes dislike strangers if i see them doing something i do not like- like smoking, or throwing garbage anywhere.
@betty1989 (752)
• China
4 Dec 12
yes, it is true. when we first meet people, we do see their appearance first. Then, we will observe their behavior. spend some time, we all forget to oberserve their look and dress. quite true about this.
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Yeah, but there are some people who never get past the appearance of others and only hang out with people who seem to be good or look good enough or them. and that is just bad i guess.
@sishy7 (27667)
• Australia
4 Dec 12
I heard couples who's been together for many long years tend to look alike...
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@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
YEah, i have heard of that superstition or belief or whatever it is called. I wonder if it's true, although there were one or two people my mom said that said that she and my dad looked alike.
• India
5 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing the quote My view is different, if i meet some one in person; i try to find out not the differences but the similarities; this decides the next step..
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Oh, that is another way too.. it really just depends n the place or situation you are in, and if you want to get to know that certain person more. I also do that if i am trying to make new friends.
@GilMegans (241)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
Hi lady1993, thanks for sharing this topic. Yes it's true indeed that physical and/or outer aspect will be our first impression and basic criteria when we meet people. Nevertheless, it's not eventually the final basis for us to arrived at a certain conclusion that he/she is good or bad person. We therefore cautiously need to evaluate further the inner aspect of a person prior of concluding judgement pertaining to his/her personality. Many of them are actually hiding the cloak of kindness, innocent, polite and whatsoever ideal character but definitely contradict to their real attitudes. There are also those who looks like rude and sarcastic due to their physical figure but deep inside their hearts, kindness and all good traits has been obtained. Thus, determining one's personality needs ample time and in-depth investigation with careful evaluation.
@lady1993 (16391)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Yes, of course.. it is not the final and real, unless that is the last time we ever see that certain person. It is really hard to know the true personality of people these days since many are liars and hide their real selves.