"when you first meet people all you notice is the differences...

Yes, I believe this so. maybe because they are adapting ways and look from one another. In the Philippines, when they say that you and your bf look the same, it means that there is a big possibility that you will end up together. Or if friends for long time, people will eventually say.... you are constantly together, now you look like each other. So yes, adapting ways, looks and traits. and complimenting one from another. great one here.. very keen observation.

I don't agree. When I first meet someone I look for similarities not differences. I have enough negativities in my life. Ofcourse it depends on where I meet them too. If I had reason to meet some one other than in the normal places then I might be looking for differences and pray that I find some. Heehee

I think that you are right, when we first meet people we do look on the outward appearance and we just automatically think that oh we must not have anything in common. But yes you are right also when you say when we spend time with them and we get to know them, we learn that we have more in common then we thought. I think that people should look beyond the outward appearance and actually take the time to get to know people.

Getting first hand impression physically can really be confusing as sometimes is the opposite of what we tend to assess that person. Seeing the differences probably is just quite a normal human reaction especially comparing to you, there's a lot of more than meet the eyes, lol!

When we just observe without judging we can learn so much. It is hard but only listening or more listening than actually talking it's better than college. We can indeed learn from others mistakes and the more we observe the better. When I'm judging someone I've been doing the same routine for some years now, I ask: "And who the hell you think you are to judge them?" and I'm more humble in the next second lol. I'm nobody! And non-perfect human!

You are correct whenever we happen to meet any new person first in time in our life we look them from top to bottom, this is but natural, like what we have done the person in front of will also do the same thing. This is mainly because we try to find out whether meeting such person is worth or is this person good enough to be friend with? To know each other its always takes lots of time and once we understand each other we tend to become friend in life.

Thanks for sharing the quote My view is different, if i meet some one in person; i try to find out not the differences but the similarities; this decides the next step..

I heard couples who's been together for many long years tend to look alike...

Hi lady1993, thanks for sharing this topic. Yes it's true indeed that physical and/or outer aspect will be our first impression and basic criteria when we meet people. Nevertheless, it's not eventually the final basis for us to arrived at a certain conclusion that he/she is good or bad person. We therefore cautiously need to evaluate further the inner aspect of a person prior of concluding judgement pertaining to his/her personality. Many of them are actually hiding the cloak of kindness, innocent, polite and whatsoever ideal character but definitely contradict to their real attitudes. There are also those who looks like rude and sarcastic due to their physical figure but deep inside their hearts, kindness and all good traits has been obtained. Thus, determining one's personality needs ample time and in-depth investigation with careful evaluation.

yes, it is true. when we first meet people, we do see their appearance first. Then, we will observe their behavior. spend some time, we all forget to oberserve their look and dress. quite true about this.