When someone fails to keep up the appointment.

@wishjui (271)
India
December 4, 2012 9:12am CST
I find it really bad and frustrating if one can not keep up the appointment.Top of that he informs you about this only after you reach in time to meet up the appointment. After all our preparation for the purpose you feel like a fool! It is possible that one can have some other urgent work but he can inform about the cancellation by calling or texting in advance.Its so irresponsible and sometimes your irritation turns into anger and argument. How can one keep the cool and handle such situation?
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8 responses
@wolfie34 (26816)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 12
This has been one of my pet peeves in the past, I pride myself on my timekeeping and I always allow extra time if I am travelling in case there is a hold up with traffic or with trains, and if I know I am going to be late I will text, I would expect the same from the other person too. So I think it's bad manners and selfishness that they cannot be bothered to make the appointment on time or at least apologize or let you know they are running late!
@wishjui (271)
• India
4 Dec 12
I really appreciate this and I also try almost the same.Thanks for posting.
@wolfie34 (26816)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 12
You are welcome, and welcome to Mylot!
@Mavic123456 (9704)
• Thailand
4 Dec 12
IF you know that this is the type of person that you will be meeting be ready with this person. still don't be late if that is your usual practice, but have plan b. for example have a laptop and go to the place where there is wifi or window shop. Or just bring anything that you can bring to use while waiting. I usually bring pen and paper, so I will write, whatever I can think of I don't argue.. am so tired probably of argument. As long as I don't need to stand outside waiting for this person. Like parking lot or waiting shed. That will really piss me off and I could probably go home after waiting for some time.
@wishjui (271)
• India
4 Dec 12
Well said and I sometimes do the same but sometimes there is no scope for plan 'b'!Thanks Mavic, keep posting.
• Thailand
5 Dec 12
Ok i will keep posting. you are welcome
@betty1989 (752)
• China
4 Dec 12
yes, it is so disapponited that one cannot keep us the oppointment and that person even did not tell you in advance. I can understand what's feeling, you are acting just like a fool and play by that person, right? But anyway, that person may have something emergency. First, you need to calm down and think. Second, take a deep breath and relax. Then irritation will be gone. Have a nice day.
@wishjui (271)
• India
4 Dec 12
Thanks betty! Keep posting.
@prashu228 (25820)
• India
4 Dec 12
Hi betty that's good one . yes we need to relax though its hard. other wise we spoil our day.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
My first reaction would be disappointed and maybe furious! Just like what you have said, it is okay to cancel atleast an hour or so from the time you have set but to cancel it when you are already at the venue? Oh God! That would surely make my whole day bad! I hate being stood up! Whenever I need to meet somebody, I always try to come atleast 30 minutes before the set time so that the person I am to meet should not worry about me showing up or not.
@wishjui (271)
• India
5 Dec 12
Hi Jenny! I also do the same but find it disgusting when in return people do this.How to make them realize?Thanks for posting.
@Paper_Doll (2376)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I hate waiting, in fact, when I was younger, I am very impatient when it comes to waiting especially in lines. But as I grow older, I became more mature and could handle the situation better but, when my mood is really bad, waiting could really be irritating. And this also applies when I have appointment or scheduled to meet someone who does not come on time. I am alright waiting for like 15 minutes but if it is 30 minutes or hours, my reaction would depend on the explanation why this person was late. My husband's family is known to be like that. Not coming on time and I think that is very unprofessional. When I became a member of their family, we always come on every occasion/event late. In fact, I have a very bad experience when they have scheduled to visit my family to formally ask for my hand. They told my parents that they will come in before noon to avoid going home late as they live far from our place. So my father and my brother didn't go to work which is schedule 6am-2pm because of this. But it happened that they arrived past four in the afternoon. I remember that I was irritated that time but my parents, especially my father ia always cool and didn't show any disappointment or negative reaction. My father would always say that you should learn how to delay your reaction so you will have time to think of the consequences it may create. And I also remember him saying when I was still a kid, don't be too brave especially if you have a family. He said he isn't afraid to be called a coward by his friends if he doesn't want to try something considering the effect of this to his family. He even asked if will they take care and support his family if he happens to be injured or die just because he wanted to show the world he is brave.
@wishjui (271)
• India
5 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing your experience.Keep posting.
@prashu228 (25820)
• India
4 Dec 12
Hi, This happens frequently. When its so easy to inform these days trough text in advance they don't do that. I don't understand why they do that.all our preparations and time will be wasted. We cant be cool in such situations even though we try. Takes some times to cool down.
@wishjui (271)
• India
5 Dec 12
You are right prashu! Thanks for posting.
@portisray (503)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I am also very disappointed if someone who wants to meet me and then suddenly just text me if I am already in our meeting place... How can I keep my head cool??? I'll just think that if will not happen again... If another situation that we have to meet again...I'll make sure that someone arrived in our meeting place before I go there....
@wishjui (271)
• India
4 Dec 12
Hi! I can feel it.Couple of days back I experienced the same situation.I know how it feels.Thanks for sharing.
• India
4 Dec 12
Hi friend, we must keep up our words and appointment. Always i try my maximum to be punctual and don't miss any appointments. In some cases we are in need to cancel the appointment due to various reasons, but we can try our maximum to keep up our words.
@wishjui (271)
• India
4 Dec 12
Thanks and I appreciate your way and wish that all behave like you.