This Mama Isn't Getting Any Sleep...!

why not get a bed enough for the three of you.. children really longs for someone to sleep with them they will always feel secure maybe that`s why they wanted their mom beside them.. my child also sleep only if someone is with him its either me or his father.. he will not go to sleep alone.. and when we left him alone he also wakes up and cry..

I used to have the same problem. Three year olds are smarter than you think they are. I would tell my 3 year old daughter before she went to bed, if you end up in my bed tonight while I am sleeping you will be in BIG trouble the next morning. She knew that would mean no toys, no tv, nothing... She did not want that so she started staying in her own bed because I warned her every single night before bed. I never really allowed it unless she was sick but she was sick at one point for a couple weeks and so I allowed her to sleep with us because she kept waking up and crying. I had to break her of it because they are too smart at that age and I don't think its appropriate for any kids to be in the bed with us...So, it took a while and a lot of patience but it CAN be done! Be firm with her, she will get it.

Musical beds we played that game for years.I would go to my sons bed as he took over my bed.My son used to creep into our bed and turn so his head was in the base of my husbands spine and swivel till he pushed me out of bed with his feet.We just lived with it untill we discovered thomas the tank engine,we bought him a duvet cover set ,curtains,mat ect.He just stayed in his own bed after that he was about three and a half.So find out what she likes and payout.We also told him father christmas would not come if he was not in his own bed.We were desperate he could not take the chance so that helped as well.I bribed him with sweets and toys ,I threw the rule book out of the window.It worked in the end and we were all happy again.

I really don't think it's a good thing for children to sleep in their parents beds. For one thing, you have no privacy, and even if you think she's sleeping and you try to be intimate, she will hear. She needs to sleep in her own bed all the time. Perhaps if you made her room special by using pretty sheets and blankets that she likes, she will be more likely to stay there. Don't let her start out the night in your bed. Teach her that she must use her own bed.

That's the beauty of being a mother. You get to cuddle your cuddle your child while she's young. It's fine, let her sleep with you. After all, when she grows it'll be the other way around. Ironically, you'll be the one wanting her to sleep with you. :)

It is confusing to your 3 year old if sometimes she can sleep in your bed and sometimes, she can't. She is too little to know the difference. So, since she is 3 and not a baby nor a toddler, I would suggest you train her to sleep in her own bed ALL the time. It is going to be tough but trust me, tough love works and often works for the better. If you give in to her at 3 years old, you will be giving in to her when she is 13 years old and at 23 years old, etc. So, set up a bedtime routine for your 3 year old which in a loving manner, lets her know that her bed is best for her. All the best.

HI SCDT you have to be firm start out in her bed and put her back in her bed,make her room pretty and let her have a cuddle toy but not unless she is in her own bed,keep doing this and she will get it. not healthy for a child to sleep with parents and it screws up your life with your mate too. no reason for a child that old to sleep with you. put her to bed in her bed,she gets out put her back keep doing it and she will stay there.