Eavesdropping

@devonavis (1854)
Greece
December 16, 2012 4:32am CST
I'm sure everyone of us have experienced being talked about by someone behind our back, aren't we, and it feels so bad especially if what they are talking is not true. I really hate eavesdropping. We have a neighbor before wherein she loves to gossip to any woman who comes at her house. I disliked her, it is such a very bad habit. Eavesdropping will become a habit if you keep doing so. So beware!
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15 responses
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I think you describe it wrong. Perhaps you are talking about gossips. Anyway, I have meet a lot of people who talk and gossips so much in my line of work. I really hate it as what they say are obviously false and tend to destroy ones reputation. Well, I feel sorry for this kind of people and I usually get away from them. I find them insecure and in most cases, they usually does not have anything to show or lack the knowledge to do so. This is perhaps they tend to tell this gossips so and so to make them look good since they will be destroying other people.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
Yep, exactly! These kinds of people are really messed up and they have no self-steem so they tend to make and spread false stories to make themselves look good. I try to ignore people who have this attitude but sometimes I just can't tolerate it.
@Cetz912 (65)
• Indonesia
17 Dec 12
you can call those people as a backstabber.. they do annoying, always talk negative about others. me myself prefer face to face talk to the fella who i dislike. i prefer frontal assault compare to ambush hehe..
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
Haha Me too. Most of my friends say that I'm a frank person and yes I agree, because I talk directly to people who I think are doing wrong. I think face to face confrontation is way better than spreading rumors.
@arizen (152)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
Eavesdropping is when someone listens secretly when there are people talking. I think you have to check the meaning of eavesdropping. But, I agree with you on the negativity and vileness of gossips.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
16 Dec 12
Haha yeah, I stand corrected, my wrong! As much as I want to remove or edit my post, it is not possible, which upsets me now. It is somewhat related anyway (i believe) so... haha
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
So what you mean is gossiping. I love this saying of Lawrence G. Lovasik because it is so true. And I quote, "It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip, for they speak of persons instead of things."
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Wow! Thank you for sharing this quote. I really love it, I hate gossipers and I'd rather go and talk straight to the person if I have something tell him.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
16 Dec 12
Eavesdropping..listening with an intent, and in secret to want to know what is being said. Nosy! I dislike going to the store and people pull out their phones and say "Hello, how's it going?" as loudly as they can for everyone to hear. They go to the counter to pay the cashier with their phone in hand continuing their conversation, rude as can be and expect quality service? I think if people don't want to be heard, then they should go off into a quiet little corner where they can seek some privacy. What makes them think I want to hear their conversation with their best friend, spouse, mother, brother, what have you...I don't. They are rude by imposing their conversation on me. These people need to learn some manners. Yes, this annoys me, so I'm passionate about this issue. Have a good day Devon.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
17 Dec 12
I sure do, and your English seems perfectly fine to me
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
16 Dec 12
Talking behind someone's back doesn't always imply something negative. I always praise people up, whether they know it or not. It's healthy!
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Hi! I also had some experiences like that and it's really annoying, as if they're the only one with phones! Haha These people really need to recall what does 'manners' mean, that is if they really had these manners haha I hope you got what I mean. Anyways, thank you for defining "eavesdropping" for me. PS. When I said "talking behind our back", I meant the negative feedbacks. But I do agree that not all things being talked behind my back is purely negative. I don't know if I said it clear but I hope you understood what I was trying to say because I really have this difficulty in expressing my thoughts in English! Haha
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
My friend, always remember this one: People that talk behind my back are in the right plce to kiss my a..!
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
18 Dec 12
Haha You made me laugh! I think this is true, and these people decided to place themselves at the back so they will remain like that for their entire life if they do not change this kind of attitude.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
Haha Your gulay? Yeah my exams are done already but still more to come this January 2013.
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Did I do it again??? Oh my gulay!! How are you doing with your exams?
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@ulan12rc (222)
• Qatar
19 Dec 12
It's never been a good practice, keep away from people like these because they will bring trouble in your life. I don't know what they benefits in doing so, such a bad habit as you describe it. I agree with you to be frank at least in that case any person can defend him/herself in accusations being put into. Keep in mind "don't do unto others what you don't want others do unto you".
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
20 Dec 12
Hi! Thank you for the response. I also think that keeping away from people who have this kind of attitude is the best way to deal with them, because you will never know, you will be their victim someday. Such a bad habit!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
16 Dec 12
Sometimes eavesdropping can get you into trouble, I know this from when I was at work, there was this woman who was always eavesdropping and one day she got the wrong end of the stick, she heard something being said, and reported them, trouble is she got the facts wrong and it was her that got reprimanded! I don't like eavesdropping because you might hear something you don't want to hear, sometimes ignorance truly is bliss.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Poor woman. I don't understand why some people do this. The thing is that after hearing something they are not sure of, they tend to share is to someone else. This behavior is really annoying.
@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
19 Dec 12
Yes, some things become addiction if they are being followed or practiced too much in life. We should resist doing too much of these practices, and also beware of people who follow such practices too much.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
Yes, you are right Sweety. (your name sounds nice ) Thank you for responding here! Getting addicted to something has always a disadvantage.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
As you have said it's not a good habit. Wanting to know or hear about other peoples activities or behavior can be considered as an invasion of privacy too. And if said to other people it is gossip mongering, spreading personal or private affairs of others, especially those with intimate in nature. The most common victims of these people are those in the movie industry.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Very well said, Sir! So sad to know that there are people who are fond of making and spreading rumors. These people should be put to jail! Haha
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
Some people who does not have much better things to do resort to this activity. And they just find joy in knowing about somebody else's business. But just wait till you make your own story about them. They'd be like biting your heads off!
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
I agree. The worst thing is make gossips! Urrgh! I wanna cut their tongues! Haha God forgive me.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I experienced someone who was eavesdropping me and a friend when we were talking. I saw him thru the side of my eyes. I just don't know if he ever spread what he heard from us.
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
19 Dec 12
That's the worst part, spreading what they heard. You should have done something about that and teach him a little lesson. For me, I just can't tolerate this kind of attitude.
@Shavkat (137312)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
I cannot tolerate this kind of behavior. It seems that life is not complete without destroying the character of a certain person. Good day...
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Me either. It really annoys me to the max! This is one of the things I really don't like in a person.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
people talk bad about us behind our back are insecure and immature. We have this neighbor who is gossipers and he whole family. They don't have something to do so they just sitting and keep making story about others and lately I am one of their victim. They are just insecure how happy I am..
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Yeah, I agree with you. They have nothing to do and their lives are messed up so the tendency is to make other people's lives miserable too. It's is good to ignore gossipers but sometimes you just want to give them a lesson.
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Eavesdropping is not a good attitude. I won't correct your explanation about this word for I get your point. Although your explanation is more on gossiping, but truly eavesdropping is like gossiping in some point. But for some instances we are into eavesdropping because of some reasons and even if we know that it is bad to eavesdrop, we couldn't correct ourselves. When there is a situation that we heard some people talking about us, we tend to eavesdrop out of curiousity. When we heard some people we know quarreling, we sometimes eavesdrop to have an idea why they are quarreling. Eavesdropping is almost like gossiping but it is done secretly, it is almost like spying for nonsense...
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@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
17 Dec 12
Thank you for getting my point. How I wish I could have explained it like you just did. Eavesdropping is not good, but becomes even not good when the things that are heard are being shared to other people or being spread. This an create a real serious problem.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
29 Dec 12
I got new word for this gossip I not like this and I feel if the person wants to tell anything for anyone then they should talk on their face not behind them. You are right this bad habit.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
4 Jan 13
Yes, I agree with you. Talking bad things behind anyone's back is really not a good thing. Thank you for the response! I wish you a prosperous new year!