Children know when mom is ill to take advantage
By maximax8
@maximax8 (31053)
United Kingdom
December 16, 2012 9:35am CST
I have been ill for one week and now feel a little better. I tried getting better yesterday but did too much. Now I am resting again and lots of coughing has been coming.
I have a 3 year old daughter and a 5 year old disabled son. They were very challenging this morning. They started doing nasty stuff to the wheelchair. I said no and they just carried on. Normally they respect me so I was shocked. Even feeling ill I had no choice but take the wheelchair out of the living room.
My daughter opened a black bag which was garbage. It had a used diaper, used catheter and a used wipe. I was so sad when my daughter got the used catheter and tried to put it on my disabled son. I told her no way. Then she got the catheter water packet and put water on the floor.
Why do children take advantage when the mom is ill?
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11 responses
@marguicha (215428)
• Chile
16 Dec 12
Hi friends,I think that it is part of human nature. We, grown ups, also do that in a more subtle way sometimes. Even big countries take advantage of weaker ones. In my time, parents had more control over their kids as it was not terrible to give then an occational spanking. You did not have to hurt them, but it was good to make your point.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
16 Dec 12
Hi Marguicha. Thanks for responding to my discussion my dear friend. How are you? I try to teach good behavior to my kids. I don't want hurt my kids. When I am well I give time out after a warning if bad behavior continues. Amber gets 3 minutes and Leo gets 5 minutes.
Thanks. 
@marguicha (215428)
• Chile
16 Dec 12
I know how you ground them. I`m afraid I was harsher when my kids were small. I`m fine and I finished 2 days ago another part of my treatment. Now I have 3 months to do as I wish. I will see if I go somewhere for a few days.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
16 Dec 12
Sometimes children are too young to realize that mum needs to be looked after and cannot look after them as much as when they are ill, so they have to amuse themselves, and children being children, see the opportunity to get up to mischief, when they don't get your full attention because you are not well, they will play on it. I am sure I did this to my mum when I was a child, it's a little like attention seeking in a way. I really hope you get well soon my friend, being ill is not fun, it's even worse before Christmas.
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@frankiecesca (2489)
•
17 Dec 12
Well firstly, I hope you feel better soon! Secondly, I am not sure why children do that - because because it is the only time they think they can get away with anything.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
16 Dec 12
Might be that they need something.. since you have been ill a week, Im sure they miss their time with you there. Hope you feel better there soon.....
@betty1989 (751)
• China
16 Dec 12
because Children are naught and what they do is just for fun. take care/ hope you get better soon.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I'm sorry you have to go through this especially at your condition. I don't remember being this way as a child. I remember being scared of pissing off any of my parents. Anyway, I guess that's part of being a child. They probably need a little more of your attention and unconsciously do this stuff to get it.
@shaggin (71666)
• United States
16 Dec 12
I am so sorry to hear that you are so sick and your kids are being so difficult. Your children are young they probably just dont understand why you arent being your usual self and playing with them and moving around. Its probably confusing to them seeing you sick and not being able to do much. Kids get bored easily and get into mischief. Thankfully usually when I am sick my kids behave better. At least thats one time they behave better lol.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
Oh, kids are really naughty and knows when to strike.
They know that we can't do so much once we (mothers) are ill.
Hope you get well soon..and take care 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
I exactly know what you mean. Kids do take advantage when they see that "mom" is not that "strong" to be on guard most of the time. My kids who are 8 and 12 are constantly bickering at each other. And it really annoys me more when I have this headache and they would just not stop no matter how much I shout at them. I should be literally pulling them far apart from each other to regain the peace in the house.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
16 Dec 12
Because they're just kids and had no idea that how upset their mommy is. Good for you, you have so much patience for your kids. I remember I took advantage of my mom when she's having a visitor, I ask her money in bigger amount
. she can't refuse because she just want me to disappear right away to not argue in front of her visitor. Now looking back..that was so evil of me..hahahaa
. she can't refuse because she just want me to disappear right away to not argue in front of her visitor. Now looking back..that was so evil of me..hahahaa