I Miss Myself

@ckyera (17261)
Philippines
December 22, 2012 6:47am CST
There are times that I feel like I am missing myself, yes, because sometimes due to many things that are happening to me, I feel like I am no longer me, that I am already a different person... Sometimes I am telling to myself that, "hey! where's the real you?" Whenever I am encountering some life problems that makes me feel so sad and think negatively, I just tell myself that I miss myself... someone who's always happy, smiling and seems to have no problem at all... How about you guys, do you ever feel the same way? Missing yourself? Care to share... I think I need some inspiring stories now, to bring back some confidence that I loose and to bring me back to myself again...
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11 responses
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
hello amiga Welcome back and I'm glad to see you :) I am glad that you're back ,but honestly, I feel a little bit of sadness while reading your post here. Yes, I can relate very much with this post. I have been to the most down moment of my life- I know how does it feels like losing ourself. I lost my confidence and I lock myself in a world that only me knows what kind of world did I build as my own. It takes time before I realize that- why I need to punish myself, why do I have to suffer like this. That was the time I come out of my shell and challenge the real world that I am stronger than anyone thought I could be. Now I am happy that I am back- with a new me- much stronger and mature than the old one. The first step is always the hardest. The transition period takes time...but no one can help you but yourself alone. So hold on- believe in yourself and you will succeed. And I am sure you can my dear...don't let anyone or anybody to let you down Have a great day and Happy Holiday
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Hi Jaiho! Thanks for the inspiration! I really wish for that day to come, for me to go out of my shell again, to gain more confidence, to believe in myself again... I am also tired of feeling this way, feeling down & lonely. I think I just need some people to talk to, people whom I can trust, to whom I can open up my feelings, I need an outlet...and for now, I can't seem to find one. I have difficulty in trusting people around me these days. Thanks to mylot and to friends like you to whom I can share my feelings and thanks that I get inspirations from your posts...
@lampar (7597)
• United States
26 Dec 12
I don't know how you manage to miss your self, i assume it must be a horrible feeling to have miss yourself as i have never have that experience in my entire life. I really hope you get to find yourself back sooner so that you can stop the sadness and negativity fill within you. Or may be you need to work a bit harder to get it back so that what had been happening to you so far can be reversed., or an inspiring story coming forward now for you to bring some of your lost confidence so you can bring yourself back again.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Hi Lampar! Even I don't know why I feel that way. But good thing is that after my parents vacation here in my place, I feel much better, recharged. I guess I am just stressed in the past few days or weeks before I made this discussion which results to a lot of negative things happening around. And again, I'm thankful that Mylot and Mylotters are here, I found an outlet for my feelings when I don't have anyone around to talk with. Now, again I feel better and slowly getting back to the real me! hehe
@ryanong (9695)
• Vietnam
23 Dec 12
umh...i am still myself...because i really don't want to live as if i am not myself. My ex- used to want i am different...look like his ex-, i have that feeling, since he always blame this that...finally i decided the love must be broken since i can't change to be another person who he wishes...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
But in my case, its the circumstances in my life that makes me feel this way, I didn't change for anyone else, but I am willing to have changes in myself if it will be for the better...
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
23 Dec 12
You definitely speak for most people nowadays.It is such a common thing to see.We miss ourselves in society and couldn't find our right position in it.Just be real you and make yourself happy.That's what your simple life suppose to be.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
yeah, I will be working for it and gonna try my best to have a better life and disposition in years to come. Really wish to be back to the real me.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Hello there ckyera! This sounds like me talking to myself. All the words are exactly my thoughts1 I even thought I wrote this, . There are really downtimes days in our lives. I for one is experiencing the same. Sometimes, I even don't know what life is all about! I just go on with the flow. I am not religious but it will help if you will pray. Prayer works! I am doing it.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Hi there! Thanks that I am not alone! hehe Yeah, yeah prayers do really work, I also do it and it gives me comfort, and maybe that's one reason why I am still holding on. Haist! I can't really believe that I am feeling this way, looking back in my life before, no one will tell that I also have problems... because I am always smiling! But now, I also miss smiling, I mean the real smile. and also I miss laughing!
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
22 Dec 12
Mainly women always take care of others. Family, friends, animals, etc. They are still raised like that. If you can't do that you are a bad person, selfish. But the thing is if you are not able to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to be yourself, to pamper yourself you can never do the same for someone else. Also... if you are able to be with you, you will never feel lonesome anymore. It's hard working to discover who you really are, not the person people tried to raise you or force you into (society for example but also education). You will find yourself if you are willing to be with you, to comfort yourself, to set your own goals and go for it.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
Hi there! I think its really time for me no to wake up and live better. I am planning to give myself some comfort and pampering once in a while. I wish to be more relaxed and free from stress and negativity. I really hope that situations and people around me will be cooperative as well. I can easily get affected even with small actions of some people around me. I worried a lot in the last few months over things that I think is not really that worrisome. haha I don't know but for this year, all I want to have is peace of mind.
@wongchoiyee (7341)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
Hey ckyera, I feel this sometimes too because of something has changed in your life, like a job you do not like, some friends that left you or family who gone away. In this stage, I always pray and try to talk to people about what is my problem, like what are the bad things you encounter in the office, you may walk your dog to park if you want, they are lovely. But if you keep on thinking this way, you will be depressed and lose your confidence. The voices in your head is right, you must speak out what is bothering in your mind. Lovely, goodluck!
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Hi there! Yeah, and most of the time it happens when sadness attacks me, its hen I misses my family most. I am living far from them and whenever my husband & I have a misunderstanding, there comes the time that I feel so down, feel so lonely, unloved and my confidence seems to be so low... I usually write my feelings down and I think it helps me somehow, but sometimes I feel like its not enough, that I need someone to talk to, but I have difficulties in entrusting my feelings and my problems specially when it comes to me & my husband to other people because I don't really know whom to trust anymore. Gossipers and fake people are all around me. Prayers, yes... that's my source of strength...and now, thanks to mylot that I have an outlet for my feelings.
• United Arab Emirates
22 Dec 12
You have touched the cord of my heart.. it is an arabic proverb I really do feel the same and I pray to Allah (God) to like I was before.But then there is a sentense in our Holly Quran that says do not hate something that will benefit you..As I understand it ..So maybe you have changed for better. Her is a practice to see your improvment: Bring two papers in the first paper write things that haven't improved in yourself and in the other paper write things that have changed and improved your personality and i hope that it will be useful for you .. ^_^
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Hi there! I think prayers really helped a lot for me to keep holding on... Thank you for the idea, I'm gonna try it.
@Mavic123456 (9704)
• Thailand
22 Dec 12
I was happy finding a good and high paying job. Whew, who would think that a graduate from a government University will land a job in one of the most prestigious schools in the Philippines, an exclusive school for girls. It was glorious years. Until the new management run the school, and it came to a point that, I was beginning to feel that I am losing myself already. I was like a zombie, just working for the money. Report for work in the morning, then go home after if it is time to go home. Everyday is just like that. No more excitement no more looking forward, just dragging myself into it. No more self satisfaction, my self confidence stepped on and I had a very low self esteem. I was not appreciated and my effort was just like an air passing by. I thought to myself, no.. I am worth what you thought I am not. If you don't like me, then I won't be pushing myself to you so much. I know what I am capable of and I will not allow you to torture me. I quit my job at the middle of the year. True enough because now, I have a different life. My effort is appreciated, I am appreciated and I found my self worth again. I regain my self confidence. I know that I am more effective as I am. The enthusiasm and eagerness to work are back. I am not a zombie. I think, I teach, I give my "best" best. I am happier and satisfied. Salary is lower than I was receiving but hey, that's just money myself is more than the money.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Hi Mavic! That's so nice to hear, that are able to regain your life again and now living better and happier. I can relate to what you have said that there's no more excitement, nothing to look forward to, life seems to be so boring and I can't do anything. I guess I also need someone who will appreciate me(vocally), and who will lift me up again. My husband is not so vocal with his feelings that's why sometimes I also feel neglected, and not appreciated... How can I bring myself back to normal...I mean to the real me, I am far from family and its only my husband that I have here. I don't have much friends because I have difficulties in trusting them, and the few good ones that I have are living far from me as well... haist!
• Thailand
23 Dec 12
No one can tell you how you will regain your old self because no one knew how you lose it. It is only you who can figure it out how you will be able to go back to normal self. I have a few questions that may help you retrace the start of your feelings. 1. What will make you happy? 2. Do you really need your husband's approval or appreciation? Or you can do it on your own for yourself? 3. Do you appreciate also your husband? I mean have you appreciated him for what he has done for the day or for the moment? 4. What is the normal self you are missing now? Can you specifically identify it? How were you able to know that these make a "normal" you? .... hmmm... I don't know if those questions will help you find you are searching for and that is yourself. I hope they will, let me know those questions help you in any way.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Thank you for that, it surely helps... I guess the problem with me is that I am looking something from my husband that I can't seem to find. Or maybe I want my hubby to be like me in our relationship? I know its not good for me to feel that way, but I just can't help it. Whenever I say to my husband things like that, like I wish he could do something like this or that, sometimes he just get mads at me coz he feels like I'm telling him things to do... He feels like I am not giving him a chance to do things in his way...but I don't know. Difficult to explain.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I do misses myself.. now that I am a mother sometimes I miss being me.. doing my own staff without any reservations,. Being a mother is a 24/7 hour job so i rarely have time for my self though it is rewarding still somtimes you will feel that you miss yourself..
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Hi Neelia! I wish I could have my own baby too...so that I can have a new life, new happiness and another reason to live more...
@ShifaLk (7484)
• India
29 Sep
I have a story actually about my life which completely changed me and you can see that if you will go through my discussions you can see... so yes I am changed now but it's for better not bitter hehe :)