taking a break from the phone
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
December 22, 2012 10:15pm CST
So something new went wrong on me tonight I lost most of my voice. Which displeased my 5yo as he insisted I was able to read him a story for bed. As you all know Mom's don't get a day off sick or not.
But either way despite my voice being on the fritz I really don't feel like answering the phone. Right now I have two older relatives that call me.... one several times a day wanting to know where I was if I don't pick up when she calls (and keeps calling on and off during the day til she catches me.... annoying!!!!). I'm sorry but I don't feel the grandest the least I want to do is listen to her complain about her awful hubby and health problems and gloat about freebies she's not entitled to as well as how everyone says she's "wrong" but she's the only one ever "right" because no one has lived her life. I can't listen to it right now I have enough w/ trying to take care of myself
Then you got the other one who had surgery yesterday had a real pleasant conversation w/ her. Then calls back later in the day claiming she doesn't want to hear me b!tch about things including my hubby. I wasn't even b!tching. You know comments about things like men don't tell you when they are sick and are real babies or accepting some of the things they do. Then toss in how she won't put up with the junk my kids pull like sitting on the arm of her recliner. Well the home has only kitchen chairs, a pee couch, and the recliner. Where are all 3 going to fit?
Hubby loves it when I stop talking to them but sadly the only family we have here anymore and I only talk to friends online (even local ones).
Ever just decide enough is enough and you are not answering the phone for anyone?
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Sometimes it is best to communicate with family members via facebook or email. That way, you can communicate with them at your time schedule. It is OK to say to family members and friends that you are sick and also, busy with your child. You need to take care of your child and also, get some rest. If they don't understand, that is not your problem.
When I was home, looking after my children when they were young, it was agreed by my family and friends that they couldn't just phone or visit me just at any time. My children came first.
I would make arrangements to meet your sisters at a restaurant, perhaps once a month, just to catch up with each other. Make that evening short and sweet. That way, they don't feel left out but also, you get control of your own time and especially, control over the time spend with your own husband and child. Children come first.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I put a cut off time for the biggest offender because it was rediculous being called upon while you are trying to get your kids to bed.
Not my "sisters" these are ladies in their 70's. I hate doing the restaurant gig... I feel trapped there with the one especially it's an inperson b!tch fest 
the other is homebound and says nothing much in person but will chew your ear off on the phone.
the other is homebound and says nothing much in person but will chew your ear off on the phone.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Nope except telemarketers...I pick up and hang up right away. I have to think of another way to get them to stop...especially right now. Around the holidays when you give a little they keep bugging you for more. It irritates me because when you give what you are comfortable with they still think they can get more money out of you.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
23 Dec 12
I'm on our state's "no call list" but that doesn't stop them. There's one that keeps calling about credit cards and that there's nothing wrong with my account but they can lower my rates for me. They call atleast once a week. Then you got the odd ones calling from this or that state where I don't know anyone from who'd be calling in the first place. I toss them on speaker sometimes not say a peep and see if they say anything.... usually not. Or like you just hang up it's just as annoying as the empty messages on the machine.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
23 Dec 12
I understand about the kid not understanding, but as for the older relatives, turn the phone off!! Only necessary people have my celphone number (same goes for my husband's phone) but the rest can all go to the dickens. If I don't feel like talking, I don't answer. I have call display, so I know who's calling.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
23 Dec 12
I have caller ID as well. But you know the one relative will keep call and keep calling and it gets annoying. When I finally do answer it turns into a "where were you all day?" just cause I'm a SAHM most of the week doesn't mean I don't have stuff to do.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Dec 12
yep for years now I answer the phone only when I feel like it.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
23 Dec 12
And if it's an emergency leave a message. The one will call and call never leave a message... so clearly not an emergency just wants to complain bout something.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
I could be having those days when I would rather be left alone. Sometimes, I would just want my peace and that space.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Better said than I. I just want some space from them.
