Do long distance relationship realy works?
By mayrylflores
@mayrylflores (173)
Philippines
December 29, 2012 7:22am CST
It only works when two people learn to trust and communicate with each other. Do not expect too much time from your lover or else frustration will start.
I have been in a long relationship twice and I know this could be so hard but it takes big effort. We communicate from time to time. I just keep my self busy just not to think about how far we always apart because it only makes me cry so bad. It really best work when each of you share a day to day experience. Every end of the day you talk about how was the weather, his work,or even what did he/she have during lunch.
Never ever forget his/her birthday and your anniversaries. Always remember to remind how much you always love and miss him/her. Love endless.
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7 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Dec 12
I doubt if it is harder as a normal relationship. Living together can be terrible as well, no moment for you, always taking care of someone else(s needs). Especially if you are a women you have no time for you. If it comes to birthdays etc no need to remember them since my husband is not celebrating them, same with anniversaries. By now I can live with that too.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
29 Dec 12
Hi mary,
I am assuming you are new to Mylot as there is (0) in front of your name. So welcome to Mylot. No long distance relationship do not work in most cases. There is always one of two if not both who would be cheating behind back and there would be countless people to brainwash your lover in to ditching but also there is a desire to cheat knowing fully well that your lover won't know about it.
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
thank you. I think you are right. My first long distance relationship didn't work and I am still having trouble sometimes at my present relationship.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I have no friends who has a long distance relationships. Those i knew of, have friends who has had a failure in this department. This rarely works especially if the couples are miles apart.. It is quite hard for us with boyfriends here to make things work, to have time for them, then that is all the more the challenge for long distance relationships... the phone calls, the chat time, the time differences, all the sacrifices... If it actually works for the couple they should really be tough ones and are too deeply in love and has not given up their relationship at all.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
Hi May! Welcome to Mylot! Only a handful of long distance relationships can stand the test of time and space. There are temptations while you are away from each other and instead of the hearts growing fonder, there is the danger of growing like strangers to each other.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
29 Dec 12
If the relationship started in-person and there are periods throughout the relationship that involve physical togetherness, I think it can work. But I don't think a relationship built solely on being long-distant stands a chance. I don't care how much you communicate, if you have never been in the same room, you can't build a strong relationship. There has to be a relationship prior to the long-distance part. Part of being in a relationship is doing things together. Sharing things other than talking. If there is no history of this and no chance of it ever happening, in my opinion, it's pointless.
@kunu111185 (211)
• India
31 Dec 12
Distance is not a factor in a true relationship.People are staying far away from each other and still maintaining a good relationship.If you think about me,I am staying about 2000 km away from my wife as she is doing her PHD in english in an Indian university.But its really very difficult for both of us to stay without meeting one another.
@kitana710 (53)
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29 Dec 12
I believe it can work if both parties want it too. My husband and I are dual military and we've been separated for about 2 years. Of course there are those doubters who say that he's cheated or that even I have, but the truth is we both haven't. Our level of commitment and loyalty is extremely strong and we've told each other about the relationships we've built with other people, even when it's gotten to that thin line of being uncomfortable. We say how we feel and we remain faithful to what we've promised. I am not saying it's easy AT ALL!!! You have your doubters but I also know MY relationship with my husband and what I want. Just do what is right for you. Good luck to you.
