I hate it when a guy criticize or define a woman base on her nationality.
By meumeu25
@meumeu25 (917)
United Arab Emirates
December 30, 2012 12:15am CST
I really get pissed off with shallow minded guys. Here in my present location there are lots of people from different countries. I know almost everybody likes free stuff or things. Free ride, free food, free calling cards, etc. It is very common for women here to have boyfriend/s for that purpose. Unfortunately, some women from my country are one of those women. Now, some stupid guys think the same way to every woman from my country and it really pisses me off when every guy thinks I'm the same. Recently, I had to change my Carlift twice because of this reason. One of them told me about his experiences with his girlfriends ( women from my country ), and then the next time I asked him to take me to the mall, he already assumed that I am his GF. We had a fight because he was forcing me to hold his hand while he was driving. They think that when they hit on women, they get them easily. Just by offering free stuff. Sad to say but there are some women that actually take the bait. Not to mention that this men and women are already married. They (in general) make it an excuse that this act are just normal in a foreign country.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 Dec 12
Yes, you have every right to get pissed off, if that stupid guy think that you women there are the same just because you all are from the same country. SOME women from your country like to have free food, free rides, free calling cards, free meals, free money, free gift, etc..from men, it isn't necessarily means that ALL the women are behaving the same way as those women in your country, this guy must be retarded and you are right to be angry at guys with such shallow minded ''froggy'' mindset. 
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Dec 12
hi meumeu I hate it too but a lot of men, not all men, do put women in that pigeon hole that they all can be had by just giving them some fits. this is stupid and viciou s thiking on some men's
part. We women know that only a few of us are likle that and it sure does not have one damned thing to do with nationality at all.
There are a few American women too who can be had by gifting them a bit. A gain not a lot of us but just some of us.While almost anyone likes to get freebies that does not mean we will put out to some strange man for said freebies. How arrogant and mean of these piggish men to even think
that way.Oh that is disgusting when those who are easily bribed are also married. sad to think of this.
that way.Oh that is disgusting when those who are easily bribed are also married. sad to think of this.1 person likes this
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Dec 12
Hello Hatley ,
Exactly, I find it very stupid for them to think that way. even if we grow up in the same country, we are not brought up the same way. I don't like to judge this women but they are showing it the way they behave. I asked one married man, why do they have to those things if they are already married in their country. They just say because it's lonely being away, and it's normal to do this things as long as they don't get caught. In my other discussion, I mentioned that when something goes wrong with their relationship, for example, the woman got pregnant, the guys go missing in action and the woman has to face the consequences. That's going to prison and being deported.
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Exactly, I find it very stupid for them to think that way. even if we grow up in the same country, we are not brought up the same way. I don't like to judge this women but they are showing it the way they behave. I asked one married man, why do they have to those things if they are already married in their country. They just say because it's lonely being away, and it's normal to do this things as long as they don't get caught. In my other discussion, I mentioned that when something goes wrong with their relationship, for example, the woman got pregnant, the guys go missing in action and the woman has to face the consequences. That's going to prison and being deported.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
I wonder if they even have any brain inside their heads. Look at those women that had been raped in India. What are they thinking? Will they say the woman was dressing sexy that is why they were tempted to rape her? They have such crazy thoughts that they assume women think they way they do.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
30 Dec 12
Hi friend, it is not a good thing to blame or criticize a person based on the country and nation. As you mentioned your country guys have a view about women's, it is really sad to hear about this, Surely the guys must come out from this kind of unwanted thoughts and give importance to the women's and their feelings
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Dec 12
Hello ,
Yes truly sad. They don't take time to get to know the person anymore, they just make assumptions and jump to conclusion. I think they only think about getting laid. I don't know if it's true but one guy told me that in this new generation, gentlemen doesn't exist anymore, anyway he was a jerk so I didn't believe him.
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Yes truly sad. They don't take time to get to know the person anymore, they just make assumptions and jump to conclusion. I think they only think about getting laid. I don't know if it's true but one guy told me that in this new generation, gentlemen doesn't exist anymore, anyway he was a jerk so I didn't believe him.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
31 Dec 12
Well I feel so sorry that you get such trouble just because some women from your country are not restrained,but I think those behavior of guys are not very common because usually people will not criticize people just by their nationality,those guys you mentioned are minority in our society,so you no need to worry about that,and wish you can find a good boyfriend.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Dec 12
Thank you. I guess it also depends in the society we are moving in. Here every wrong move of women from my country is annoyingly criticized even by locals. It's in the front page of the news paper almost everytime. When it's online, you will be disgusted with people commenting against them, calling them names. As I said, I don't blame it all to these people because I myself witness some of this women doing this crap, they also helped spread this prejudice that we are receiving from other people.
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
30 Dec 12
Hi Menumeu,if I were you,I would get annoyed as well.They hold the part as the whole and take it for granted.It is so ridiculous to judge a person by her/his area or appearances.Ingore them coz they are not worth agruing.As a saying goes,a clean hand wants no washing.Don't get angry by such stupid guys.Have a nice day.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Dec 12
Hello ,
I try to ignore them, I don't blame it all to them after all, some women are also to be blame. They already know that what they are doing is wrong but they still go with it. It's getting rampant now, it's the belief that the act is normal, what a lame excuse. Last christmas I was in a party and the guys (from other countries) ask the women to dance one by one in front of them for a price. Lots of us disagreed because we know they are just playing us. We were in a friends sponsors house partying, and I can't believe 2 of her friends actually did it. I wonder what did the guys think of them. When we tried to stop them, they just said " I don't care, I won't lose anything anyway".
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I try to ignore them, I don't blame it all to them after all, some women are also to be blame. They already know that what they are doing is wrong but they still go with it. It's getting rampant now, it's the belief that the act is normal, what a lame excuse. Last christmas I was in a party and the guys (from other countries) ask the women to dance one by one in front of them for a price. Lots of us disagreed because we know they are just playing us. We were in a friends sponsors house partying, and I can't believe 2 of her friends actually did it. I wonder what did the guys think of them. When we tried to stop them, they just said " I don't care, I won't lose anything anyway".
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
a friend of mine came home april this year after 3 straight years working in the middle east. we've exchanged emails, text messages and met since then so i know about some of her experience. then yesterday, out of curiosity, i texted her what she missed most about her life there, ex. food, places, products, activities, environment, people, events, etc. sad to say, she said she doesn't miss anything because her life there was worthless/no value/a failure because she felt like a prisoner. 
oh, she did miss the indian and persian food. is it safer and cheaper to share a ride with someone than to go by public transportation there? i do understand what you mean about generalizations and the most you can do is be consistent with what you say and do.
oh, she did miss the indian and persian food. is it safer and cheaper to share a ride with someone than to go by public transportation there? i do understand what you mean about generalizations and the most you can do is be consistent with what you say and do. @meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Dec 12
Hi ,
I understand why your friend feel that way. Some of the sponsors here are really mean to their employees, they don't have respect for them, they have the power to make someone feel worthless because they make them think that they own them. There are still some servants here that don't have day off and are not allowed to talk to anybody else aside from there employers. I feel disgusted with these kind of employers, they think they are royals ( even real royals know how to treat people nicely), they doesn't know how to appreciate someone who is not a member of their family, who does all their households chores and takes care of there children. They give them less salary from what is in the contract. No wonder why lots of servants run away. I don't eat those food hehehe, Indian foods are spicy
and I don't like the smell. ( no offense, just not my type of food ). There are still places here that doesn't have public transport yet, and yes it's a lot more cheaper if we share a ride with friends and if we take a Carlift we will only pay almost half or less from what we have to pay for the taxi.
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I understand why your friend feel that way. Some of the sponsors here are really mean to their employees, they don't have respect for them, they have the power to make someone feel worthless because they make them think that they own them. There are still some servants here that don't have day off and are not allowed to talk to anybody else aside from there employers. I feel disgusted with these kind of employers, they think they are royals ( even real royals know how to treat people nicely), they doesn't know how to appreciate someone who is not a member of their family, who does all their households chores and takes care of there children. They give them less salary from what is in the contract. No wonder why lots of servants run away. I don't eat those food hehehe, Indian foods are spicy
and I don't like the smell. ( no offense, just not my type of food ). There are still places here that doesn't have public transport yet, and yes it's a lot more cheaper if we share a ride with friends and if we take a Carlift we will only pay almost half or less from what we have to pay for the taxi.@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Dec 12
That's kind of odd, mostly workers who are in a company visa are allowed to do as they please as long as it's there day off or free time. Well maybe it differ base on the country in the middle east. Yes, it's really different here everybody has to follow rules or else you will get a fine or punishment. But there are also lots of ways to enjoy life here and nice places that we can go to. It mainly depend on the sponsors and how they treat their employees. That's why we always say when working abroad some get lucky and some don't.
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
they're much stricter in saudia arabia and the recruiter was unprofessional.
