Coming home late, neighbors gossip (What the heck!?)
@heaytheblogger (2876)
Philippines
January 6, 2013 12:59pm CST
I am not against concerned neighbors, it’s because they are people who mind their community also such neighbors can help you in times of need. But what I don’t like about some neighbors is that some are very gossipy, and tries to talk on to neighbors with false information.
I have one neighbor where she is quite a person who loves to gossip, she was minding my other neighbor who’s house is right next to hers, she keeps on assuming on something about my other neighbor which is a young lady (early 20’s) because she keeps on coming home late.
I don’t like the fact that she concludes on things which she doesn’t have any proof with. She is so, judgmental on her (my neighbor who’s in her early 20’s) and spreads weird speculations on her being late.
I asked my old neighbor and told her why not ask her why she keeps on coming home late, but she refuses to do so, As I was getting tired of hearing her false judgments I made a plan to ask my young neighbor about it to end the gossip.
One time, she (young neighbor) was walking her dog I walked along and did a little chit-chat and then I pulled the trigger and asked her about the gossip. She knew all along that there were false gossip about her and told me that she was working as a call center agent resulting that she comes home late.
With the information I gathered, I told my old neighbor about the truth, and she was pretty embarrassed on her stupid speculations.
Please share your thoughts…
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16 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
That is one reason that I'd rather not be too friendly with neighbors. There could be really a few of them who might be just the same as yours. I do not want to be called a snob, but I think there are better things to do than go gossip about other people's lives.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
That neighbor of mine really finds ways and means to start conversing with the other neighbors in our community, resulting that she can spread out a false news. Glad that after the truth came out, she was silent and never gossip on stupid assumptions. she was humiliated by what she did.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
That should keep her from spreading rumors!. People does these are either trying to be know it alls or just wanted attention.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Probably an attention seeker that doesn't have a life. LOL, After that she can't even look to the eye every time she bumps with my neighbor that she had made stories with lol. shame on her....
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Jan 13
See, this is why people should not assume and find out the truth before assuming things. Your poor other neighbor (the young one), I would have been so upset if people were gossiping about me that way! Meanwhile, she is just earning a living. How sad. I hate gossipers, that is so rude and can really hurt people.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 13
I have just moved in to a new housing estate with close proximity to my next door neighbor. Only a wall divide our houses. I have never lived in a housing estate before and the thought of having to live in a terrace house with so many different people with unknown characteristics worries me. But what a surprise I did not meet any busybody neighbors who pry on others affairs. I think it would be a living hell to have neighbors who keep poking on others daily affairs. I don't think I can tolerate on neighbors who keep monitoring my every move. I just have to move out and find peace somewhere else.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Thanks for your response, somehow such neighbors are so annoying that they don't have a life of their own. but then again, as the truth was uncovered she shut her mouth and quit that stupid activity of her's which is gossiping. she really did learned her lesson because she puts herself in shame.
Thanks for your response.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
I don't know if your neighbor is st*pid.
Today this is very common for people coming home late or leaving their houses during wee hours due to the nature of their works.
Call center agents come home late or early in the morning- and going to work late night or early in the morning as well.
I use to work in a call center and my work schedule is 12 midnight.
Since my working place is just 15 minutes drive away from home, I leave my home usually 11pm or 11:30pm.
Thanks, my neighbors are not gossipers and our community knows why people in the neighborhood leaves their homes late night or early in the morning.
Does your neighbor know that security guards and nurses have different shifting time?
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
She just don't have a life of her own ha ha most probably, resulting that she just make up stories just to get noticed in the neighborhood. anyhow, she learned her lesson and never did gossip any news again, because she got humiliated by her shame false news.
Thanks for your response.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
7 Jan 13
hahaha i thought this kind of gossip happens only in our country. But it seems this can be found every where. so sad people are just worried about what 's happening in others life and like to comment without any proof. But if at all they have why should they bother? Its their life they live according to their wish. I just dont understand why outsiders are more interested.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
LOL, this happens in other countries as well. as long as you have a stupid neighbor that puts a false judgement by others LOL. anyhow, she got her lesson and she got her self in shame.
Thanks for your response.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
7 Jan 13
I don't like gossip, since it can cause so many problems and the problem with the gossip is, the gossip usually only contain 20% of truth if none at all, since people who like to gossip usually speaking about things of others people which she doesn't really know. So she fill the unknown fact with her speculation which is often prove wrong. Sometimes gossips even destroy lives so that's a low thing to do.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
So true, it was indeed an unknown fact. anyhow, she was an old woman most probably causing her not to conform on modern working hours so she made up some stupid news about our young neighbor. but she really learned her lesson because she put her self in the walk of shame. LOL.
Thanks for your response.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
6 Jan 13
Some people just have to spill something to feel important . Whenever people start spreading gossip , its never something positive they saying about you . I dont like those kinda things .
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, we don't like gossips in our lives some people just want attention and makes up stories that are really false. Glad that the truth did come out, and she was embarrassed on her stupid gossips.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
Such attitudes and thinking are of no different to our neighbors as well. They concluded that my cousin will be pregnant early last year because of coming home in the very early of the morning everyday. They have no idea that Call Center Agent have working schedules that are not normal and they have to know it.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, they assume on things and no knowing how their workloads and schedules run. it just goes to shoe that she was such a stupid person, assuming on things. she needs to grow up and after that incident, she kept her gossips silent because she got humiliated by her false assumptions.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
6 Jan 13
I feel that there are lots of people that seem to think what other people are getting up to, but they are the ones that start gossip, which can cause loads of problems for all the people around them.
I feel sorry for anyone that is getting spoken about, no matter what they are having said about them.
Just think what the people may have been saying about you, the things that you have not heard about as yet.
You done the right thing by getting the facts, but to be honest its up to the twenty year old what she do in her life and as long as it is not messing with any one elses life she should be able to have some privacy with a lot of luck.
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Gossiping neighbors can be so annoying especially when they don't know the complete story. I think if she was so concerned about why she was coming home late yeah she should have asked. That is so sad that the lady gossiped about her about those things. I had already guessed that she was working is the reason why she was coming home late and working as a call center agent does sometimes pull long hours. I know, I used to work as a call center agent. That is why people shouldn't gossip even if they do know the truth, still gossipers shouldn't gossip. I so don't like gossipers.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, very very annoying that they find ways and means to spread out false news. She was embarrassed on the situation when the truth came out, and she didn't mind any neighbors as well as her victim, shame on her she should get a life though.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
I hate gossips specially those that puts a person down, by telling stories which are out of their speculations.
Gossips are people who actually have problems in life. By Gossiping they feel superior because they are able to taint a reputation. 
But gossips should beware, because just last month there was a news that a woman was killed just because she gossiped. And i had it as one of my discussions, which got a lot of respondents. 
But gossips should beware, because just last month there was a news that a woman was killed just because she gossiped. And i had it as one of my discussions, which got a lot of respondents.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, they feel superior they feel that they can take the community all over by telling some stupid false news.
Thanks for your response
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
There are really people like that but they are just few compared to those who don't conclude immediately. I'm not against concerned neighbors but I can't stand gossips. In my neighborhood where everyone knows each other, I seldom go to a house because I can't stand being told of any bad information.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, we really can't stand gossip most especially in the neighborhood that we are living. sometimes, such people are putting news that is really not true. shame on her really because she made false speculations.
Thanks for your response.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
This tends to happen in small, old community where people are so conservative, narrow-minded when it comes to that, actually. They have plenty of time to waste on minding other people's businesses and they confuse the so called neighborly concern and meddling when in fact it's really the latter one they're doing. It's no use being affected with what they presume and assume so I guess they should practice respect to other beings. It happens all the time.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, sometimes old neighbors are too conservative that they don't broaden their views on something that is conforming in this generation most especially working on night shifts. somehow, annoying but she learned her lesson because she got humiliated on revealing the truth.
Thanks for your response.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
6 Jan 13
MOVE!!!!
Find a neighborhood where people are not gossipy. I live in an apartment complex and we all mind our own business. I do NOT talk to the neighbors in a gossipy way and if they talk to me in a gossipy way, I just say something nice back to them.
I like quiet neighbors. I try to be a quiet neighbor. We are polite to one another and keep our noses out of each others' businesses. Just because we are neighbors doesn't mean we need to know each others' business. I respect my neighbors and they respect me.
So, if you don't want to hear the gossip - then talk about the weather with your neighbors. And only the weather!!!
@Blondie2222 (28611)
• United States
6 Jan 13
I'm not one for gossip i can't stand it. I try to stay out of it because once you get in the middle it's just stirs up trouble. There's alot of gossip that goes on where I work and people gossip about others then eventually it gets back to that person and they get upset and then find out who says it and it's just a bunch of drama we don't need. When I work I just go in do my job and then leave I don't talk unless it has anything to do with work. I just stick to myself because I don't want to be any part of it.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
So true! If we get involved with such gossip, it will just cause trouble. I hate when some people loves to judge on other people and make false judgement and gossip about it. it's quite irritating. Glad that i had told my "gossipy neighbor" about the truth and she was really embarrassed about it. shame on her. LOL.
Thanks for your response.
@Tornknee (72)
• Australia
6 Jan 13
All I can say is if you're spending that much time and effort keeping tabs on your neighbours' movements and casting unfounded speculation on what those movements mean you must be very bored with your own life. Also I assume the things she theorised your neighbour was doing were not flattering to say the least and I find it distressing that when we see behaviour outside of the norm we assume that it must involve something nefarious or shameful. Makes me dread to think what my neighbours think of me, I work in an insanely sporadic industry and often come and go at all sorts of odd hours. The thought that my neighbours may be maliciously attacking my character is terrifying. What if for some reason in the future I need the help of one of my neighbours but because of rumors they don't trust me.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
True, she is just so bored that she doesn't have a life. LOL, sometimes neighbors like that is really annoying.
Thanks for your response.
